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Show J693· ~ Parr. I. Reft..,'lioHs and M11xims. 93· Chufe one that meafures her S:nisf.J.E\.ion, Safety, and Danger, by tbine; and of whom, thou an fure, as of thy fecrerdl Thoughts: A Friend as well as a Wife, which indeed a W1[e implies: For fhe is but half a Wife. that is not, or is not capable of beingf~tcb a Friend. 94· Sexet make no Difference; fin~.:e in So11/.r there is none: And they are the Subjei\s of Frico:Jjhip. 95· He tb:J.t minds a Body and not a Stlul, has not the better Part of that Relation; and will confequently want the nobleft' Comfort of a tnlrri~ ried Life. 96. The SattifaE\:ion of our Senfes is low, jhort, and rra11ji~nt : But the ftlind gives a more raifed and extended Pleafure, and is cap:~ble of 31'\ Hlp· pinefs founded upon R.e,ifrm; not bounded :md limited by the Circumibn· ces that Bodies are confin'd to. 97• Heu it is we ought to fearch out our Pleafure, where the Field is la~ and full of Variety, and of ::tn induring Nature: Sicknefr, Poverty or Difgrace, being not able tofhake ir, bc:cauie it is not under the moving In· fluc:nces·of Worldly Contingenciet. 98. The Satisfatlion of thofe that do fo, is in ,.ell doing, and in the ifF Jurance they have of a future Reward. That they are beflloved ofrhofe that love moft, and that they enjoy and value the: Liberty of their A1intl.r above that of their Bodies l h::n•ing the whole. Creation for their Prof pea ; the moft n.ob!e and wo.nduJl4/ Works a~d Provtdencu of God, the llijloriu oftheAne~ents, and m them the JlOJtmJ, and Exampie1 of the virtuous, and lallly, themfelvu, their Jijfairs and Family, to e1ercife their Minds and Friendfhip upon. 99· Nothing can be more entire and without Referve; nothing more zealous, afFeCtionate :and fincere; nothing more contended and conltaur, than fuch a Couple; nor no greater temporal Felicity rhan to be one ofrbcm. JOO, Between a Man ::tnd his Wife, nothing ought ro rule bur Leve. Authority is for Children and Strvanu ; yet nor withour Sweetnefs. 101. As Love ought to bring them together, fo it is the beft Way to keep them well together. 102. Wherefore ufe her not as a Servant, whom thou wouldft perhaps have ferv'd Stvett TeorJ to have obtained. Jq, A(l Hulband and Wife that love and value one another, thew their Children and Servants, that they fhould do fo too. 01ben vijibly /ofe 1he1r .Authority in tbtir Familier, by their Conttmpt of one another; and tea~h their Children to be unnatural by their own Examples. 104. It is a general Fault, not to be more careful to preferve Nuure irt Children; who at leaft in the fecond Defcent, hardly have the Fuling of their Relation; which muft be o.n unpleafanr Refte:Elion to affeEtionatc Parents.: IO). Frequent Vijitt, Prefenu, intimate CorrrJpondenct and Intttmarria· f.tl, within allowed Bounds, are means of keeping up the Concern aod Af.. . .. fta:ion that Nature requires from Relations. to6. frim~p. Fritndjhip is the next Ple1fure we may bop< for; And where we find it not at Home, or have no Home to find it in, we m:J:Y feek it abtoad. ltis an Union of Spiriu, a Marriag_e of ltearu, anG rhe Bond thereof Virtue. I C7. There can be no Friendfhip where there is no Freedom. Friendfhip loves a free. Air, and will not be penned up in ftreight and narrow Encfo ... fures .. It Will fpeak freely, and all: fo too; and take nothing ill, where no Illts meam; nay, where it is, 'twill elfily forgive, and forget too, upon fmall Acknowledgments. 108. Friends are true Twin~ in Soul; they fympathizc in every Thing,. and h::tve the fame Love and Averfion. .to9. One is not h~ppy without the other, nor can either of them be m1.ferable alone .. As 1f they could _ch~ng~ Bodies, they take their Tmns ht Pam as well as m Pleafure ; rehevmg one another in theii moft ad verfc Conditionr. )tO. What Vot• I. R.tjle<'fionJ and MaximA Ito. What one enjoys the other lh; tians. they luve all Thi~gs in comm~~n~o~ wan1 Like the Primitive Chrir. 169 ~.' '. SlualftfeJl of 8 .ftfenb A ~ n ~o ropeny bur in one mlotber ;. fes JU!tly, aiMts Jeadily adven;ures true Fnend unbofomes freely ad vi-~ coungiouOy, an_d condnues a Friend ~~~~~·g tabkles all pa;iently, defends Part I. JJ2.ThefebemgtheQur· f . ea Y· • we chufe one. a tnes 6 3 Fnend, we are to find them before J 13. The C~vcrous, the Angry the Pro J not bur make Ill Friends, as well'as faJfe. " , the ]ealoJH, the Td/k.rtive can'* I 14· In ilion, chufe a Friend as thou d ft . . ll). Yet be nota Friend be o d o aW1fe, trO Dearhfeparauyotl. Friendfhip: Elfe it is not Frien~fuip t~e Altar_:[ Bm let Virtue bound thY J 16. It my Broth~r or Kihfman will;:::,:; c:vr . Confederacy. before a Stranger, or I lhew little Dut ~ Fnend, I ought to prefer hitfa • J I(· Audas we ought to refer ou/ KT atu~c to. my Parents. tn Potnr of C,.,nriq, if equan: needing dn~r~d ~~ Potnt of Affttlion, fo too It S. lll:autton anO <t'onb t an e erv:ng. Reafoo to cool, rhou makett~'n• En~c:n n~t fieafily acquainted,. left findin! ll9. Be referved but not Sour G Y 10 ead of a good Ne1ghbour, Humble but not Servile p . • rave but not Formal, Bold. but not r:tfb Che~rf~l not Lighr, rathe'r S~~~t 7ot Ir[fen~~le, con_i~ant not Obitinate: and 1numare wi[h very few d t 130 amllJar, f::zmtllar than intimate, l 2o. Return rhe Civibiie/r~n upo.n very good Grounds. • l 2.r. 1\t:patatfon. Jf thou o;:;(tc~veft, and ~e ever grateful for Favours: tt tha)l detend it. Doe Wa t one.an In1.ury. to another, rather own doublefl the Wrong and Reck!nin~~u gatneft Forg1vcnefs, the other thou ~ 2 ~·.,Some oppofe Honour to Suhmij]i . B · . mamtam, wh:H it is difhonourable to d~ on. ut It can be.no Honour to 123, To confefSl Faulr th · · f not to be afraid offiandingin ~~~~ i~oh:~t~fo~ o Fear, is indeedmtan: But wro1~24g· hWime, fahnodu lidn fim:eaadk eo mf boerei Ji!ft · h N . a. t~ ng. t our elgbbour, th~n we do to ofh1s own Satisfaaion. ng vmdlcanve, we fhould leave htm ro judge Wr1o2n5g. bTy rauneo thHeorn. our will Pa y 1r eh te Da mages, rather than jufiifie one 126. In fuch Controverfics it · b · JJre to blame toexcnferheir'Dwn'suut too common for fometofay, 6olh trality. Otl;ers wi11 cry they c h rco;zerne~nejJ, ~hich is a baf~ Neu· wi.th ~he Guilty, ro mil(;e the 0~bt~~; {0~ 'tt: Fre~y mvolving the I~ jured lnjulhce to the wronged Parcy. au ty, or cover thelt own 1 2 7· Fear and Gain are greac p t f M . prevail, the Judj!,ment is viollted. erve ters o anktnd, and where either , t28. lltuftll of «:0111Jtl:fltfon Avoid Com a h • · or ncce.fftt':J ; .a~d in. thofe Occafions fpeak lirrlen~n'; /aft~ tt IS not profitable ! 2~: ~~ence IS \Vtfdo~; where ~t>e:.aking is Polly, and aiWilJS fafe. ·inll:iad ofmhee!~fn~o ;~~h~i~ki~og bet£6rr:pthand an;icipate th_ofe ~hat fpeak 3S well as filly. r t ey aOJwcr; whtch IS unchtil twiie~~~: b~~t~rthjonr~C:: U9ice, before thou fpeakeft once, thou wilt fpeak 132. Betterfay nodih1g, than not to the Pur ofe And to fi · nently, confider both whar js fit, and when it is ~t t~ fpeak. peak pert!· JH: In all Debates, let T;l4tb be thy Aim, nor Vi8:ot , or an un'uftfn .. tc:reft · A~d endeavour togttm rather than to expofe thy ~1no~~gonifr 1 is; ~4,:nGefiltve nh~ Ahd v~fintag; in ~gumem, nor lofe any that is olfered. This ... w 1c an es rrom .~. emper. tv;~l~· 1p.on'r ufe thy felf t.o difpure ~· ainfr thine ow:> Judgment to th~. w 1., e n prepare thee to be too indi . erent about whJt is R1gbt ~ Nor agamftban?. rperMan, to vex him, or or meer Trial of Skill; finceto in[~ or to c rnJ ormed, ought~ be the End of all Conferences. ~ N2 J Jq. Meq |