Interviews with Japanese in Utah: Grace Oshita

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Grace Oshita 2-20-85 s5:28 L Was your father. Your father sounds like when you were growing up, he wasn't very accessible to you, he wasn't around very much. For you. Was your grandmother the one who was with you most of the time. GO I would say so. He would come home for dinner. L Are JApanese men - do they have less to do with ~eir kids usually than the women .. GO I think it is that way, ahuh. It's true. I think Japanese ways are that wives "job 11 is to raise the children. So, yes. Just recently, some of the mothers invited thestudents that I tutor from Japan - they mention. Thisis a conversation class. Sathe subject, I said, What shall we talk about end side five begin side six Andmothers mention,- Well, I asked. Are you the boss of the house. And do you have more authority as a mother to your children. They say, well most of the raising is left to the mothers so. Because, even now, the Japanese father in Japan work long hours and some of them - say, their commuting time could be one to two hours every day. When theycome home very late. In fact, the question I ask, is, do you epxect your husband to come home every night. And they said, oh yes. L In Japan or here. GO In Japan. L I heard too that many women do not expect their husbands to come home every night. Or that it's not that unusual.