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Show John Reed 2 R2 9 J W: Okay so this i first you're married and the beginning tage f y ur Iii t g th r but how do you reconcile in her eyes, because I'm sure you had to, how do you reconcile this leftie with this macho man that's constantly ... JR: Well, I think, what I've told her a couple of times, and she instinctively knows what I'm talking about, but just as spouses frequently refuse to stipulate to certain things that the other spouse is arguing, even while listening to the argument, I personally think I'm a much better man, person, male, because I've answered these basic questions about myself. I think that there are a lot of guys out there, white guys in particular, that are not ultimately secure in their masculinity, which then makes them really bad husbands and really bad parents, bad fathers. So my wife, I've said this a couple of times to her, "Look, it sucked. We got through it. I made a certain amount of money." I was making $20,000 a year as a Reservist; I made roughly three times my annual University income mobilized. She bristles when I say, "Look, we made all that money and we took the king's shilling. Now I have to serve." She doesn't believe in that, but she looks at me and she says, "I guess I understand what you're saying. You are the man that I'm now married to as a function of your services as a reservist and throughout your deployment." So she's not willing to sign a paper that says, "I understand. The whole thing was okay," but she understands that she didn't end up with a little weasel dick guy whose going to be going out on her because he's got to prove something to himself about his masculinity. She's a very wise woman that way. I think that's probably the Hegelian synthesis to that question. JCW: You talked a little bit about it, but you kind of brushed over this part, but I wonder if you could give me a better understanding of what that month was like before you 26 |