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Show ( 10 ) ·keeping with two Servants, he can eafily have a third afterwards, if he finds it proper: But it will not look well, that he retrench theN umber he fet out with; or if a Gentleman begins with a Char iot and Pair of Horfes, how eafy is it to get two more,_ or ~o fet up his Coach and Six, if his Rents wtll afford rt; whereas on the contrary, he cannot difpofe of his Horfes, or otherwife leflen his Expences, without drawing upon himfelf the RefleCtions of his meddling Neighbours. In fhort, a Man rifes with a Grace; but links with Shame. One principal Part of the Expence of living, is that of treating a Number of Vifitants. Upon this Head, let me leave with you this Remark, That fuch Vifitants a3 con~e merely to pafs .away the Time, to make Obfcr\rations upon your Manner of living, or to put you to Expence in treating them, upon which Accounts it is that moil formal Vilits are made, fuch Vi!itanB, I fay, very ill deferve the Trouble or Ex pence they will put you to ; and, as for thofe \1 ho come to fee you from real F'riendfhip ar.d Elleem, they will put up with whatever Treatment you give them. In fhort, you will lind the Cafe the fame in this, as in the other Enjoyments of Life. The molt truly valuable F riendfhips will colt you the lealt, and con"rariwife, the keeping Company for Form's fake, and out of Oftentation, will colt you an enormous Expence, and yield you no SatisfaCtion. Whenever you are fettled in the World in an independent Way, fq that you may have a reafonable Profpetl: of being able to maintain a Family, I advife you to marry. It is the bell: and fafefl: Condition of Life upon many Ac-counts. . ( I I ) <counts. But you cannot be too cautious in making your Choice : For, as it is for Life, _a Mifcarriage is irretrievable; and a Mtftake rn choofing may blalt the whole Happinefs of your Life. Whatever Accomplifhments the Perlon, you fix your Choice upon, may have, take care tint Good-Jmfe and Good-nature be two of them. If you marry a Fool, lhe will difg;ult you, and a Fury will torment you. EnqUire thcre:ore, as fully as you can, her Character, berorc you fix your Affections, and that not of her Acquamtance of one Sex only, but of both; nor !tftcn to her Relations and Friends only; Lut to her Rivals and Enemies too, if Ole has any. You may be as fure of a Woman of Merit with a moderate F ortunc, as with nothing J and if you get a Fortune in Marriage, you make fure of fomewhat. D on't marry a uoted Beauty, unlds you intend to give up the whole Peace and Happinefs of your Life (or a Honey-moon: There is not one of a thoufand of them that rs fufferable, through Vanity and a total Emptinefs of all that is neccllary for making an agreeable Companion to a Man of Senfe, a prudent M~n agcr of a Family, and a difcreet Mother of Chrldren. At the fame time I would not adv1fe you, on any mercenary Confideration, to marry a Woman whofe Appearance is not fuch as -may be agre~able to you: For, to be obliged to treat, with an Appearance of Love, a Perfon, whofe Approach mult fhock you, you will find will be fuch a Burden, as no Confideration will make up for. Whenever you chanc~ to differ, as rt will unavoidably happen at T1mes, one fingle Confideration will prevent your D1fferences from going to any &reat Length, viz. " That C " Womal\ |
