Network, December 1985

The Network magazine (1978-1989) published through the Phoenix Center was a women's magazine created by Mary Gaber, Jinnah Kelson, and Lynne Van Dam who saw the need for an intelligent magazine that would address women's issues and appeal to women in Utah, whether they were in the business world or not.

U.S.POSm P. PERMITNO. LARECTIY. 9SOUTH600 2 NETWOU / DECEMBER 1985 FEATURES Lyn McCarter Kate Woodworth Karen Shepherd Teny Tempest Williams and LynneAnn Tempest SusanLyman Anne Yelderman Barbara Bernstein Patty Kimball Gail Gutsche Ann Berman and Betsy Burton Reba L. Keele with Sheri). Bushnell page 14 10 IN THE FOOD MOOD? While the deba~e roars on about whether we are what we eat, it is becoming increasing clear that we feel what we eat. 12 KNOTS When Big Sam came for a visit, it was soon clear that this would be his last visit. His presence left them all waiting, listening, tying knots. 14 UTAH'S CHILDREN More children than you want to think about will miss the warmth that wraps around the rest of us this Christmas. 16 FREELYGIVEN These are gifts as good as gold for those you want to remember this season. Frances Farley Cynthia Orr Dodie Williams 18· ASSESS YOUR STRESS The truth is out. We create our own stress and it's making us sick. 21 NETWORK'S OGDEN DEBUT In a wonderful coming together of old friends and new, Network's Ogden party signaled an auspicious beginning. 22 TRYING ON CAREERS The future is theirs if they know it and plan for it and grab it. Women who have done it show high school girls the way. 24 THE GIFTS THAT REEP ON GIVING If the self-indulgence of the holidays gets you down, giving to non-profit agencies is a way to compound your good will. 26 YOURS, MINE, OURS They are the families of the future, mixed and matched in ways they never dreamedof. 36 THE RIGHT BOOK It's immoral not to give a child a book for Christmas, and almost a crime to neglect your reading relatives as well. 38 THE INTEGRITY TRAP This one is for all the women who lost the war because they were unable to see that victory is won in small increments over time. 8 ONLYWBENILAUGH:STAYINGGREEN The Christmas Tree is a symbol with the power to outlast even the most cynical heart. 25 ACCIDENTAL JOURNALIST: PRETIY POLITICAL Too pretty to be taken seriously?JesseJackson displeases the journalists again. 25 MIND FOOD: MEN ARE ... WOMEN ARE ... Occasionally contradictory and always interesting, here·s a book that lists a few thousand differences between women and men. 46 FINANCE: MINIMIZE THE MADNESS Don't let a holiday buying frenzy put you in hock for the rest ofthe year. DEPARTMENTS Karen Shepherd Marshall Ralph Juanita Goble LynneAnn Tempest Chris Oldroyd LynneAnn • Tempest Marshall Ralph NET\\100 is forwomea. and for the men with whom they lift and work. NET\\10U's readers are aware ofhow qaiddy the world is changine and are committed to economic and social equality. NET\\10U's articles cover work, relationships, careerdevelopment,jobs, power, basineu,Job politics, families, and Utah culture. The voice ofa new and emerging Utah, NET\\100 is aimed at all who seek to combine personal and professional satisfaction, who want to learn nnrways of growing and sanivingwith grace and humor. FAMILY CONNECTIONS is a quarterly COLUMNS ElouiseBell network® 4 5 6 7 9 33 LETTERS EDITORIAL: SCRATCHING THE CONSCIENCE Seeing life through the eyes of others is an awareness that comes slowly for those whose experience isolates them. NEWS AND NOTES ON THE STREET WOMENOFACHIEVEMENT WOMEN'S INDEX AND RESOURCE GUIDE 40 A GIFT GALLERY 46 CALENDAR 49 NEW LANDINGS 50 LUNCH BUSINESS: BAR-B-Q ON THE COVER Graphic design byJulia LaPine and Tracy O Very NET\\10O sapplemea.twhich otfen resources and information to woddng parents. PUBUSHER Karen Shepherd EDITOR Karen Shepherd CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Elouise Bell, Carol Berrey, Ann Berman, Betsy Burton, Gail Gutsche, Brenda Hancock, Wendy Foster Leigh, Marshall Rallph, Daimar Robinson, Lynne Ann Tempest, Dodie Williams EDITORIAL BOARD S(rjp Branch, Deni Christian, Betty Fife, Brenda Hancock, Marj Kyriopoulos, Marshall Ralph, Karen Shepherd, Maggie Wilde, Ann Yelderman ART DIRECTOR Deni Christian LAYOUT Lynne Ann Tempest, Asst. ILLUSTRATION Deni Christian, Lou Ann England TYPESETTIHG Marshall Ralph STAFF WRITERSJuanita Goble Takeda, Gail Gutsche, Patty Kimball, Chris Oldroyd, Marshall Ralph, Lynne Ann Tempest POETRY EDITOR Marshall Ralph DIRECTOR OF ADVERTISING Nancy Mitchell ADVERTISING REPRESENTATIVES Leslie Fagre,Juanita Goble Takeda (Salt Lake City); Marge Hilton (Ogden) CIRCULATION Marshall Ralph. Anna Suchar WOMEN'SINDEXtynneAnnTempest FAMILY CONNECTIONS Patty Kimball OGDEN CORRESPONDENT Ann Yelderman NETWORK welcomes manuscripts (including poetry and fiction), art, photographs and cartoons but assumes no responsibility for those that are unsolicited. They will not be returned unless accompanied by a stamped, self-addressed envelope. All manuscripts will be treated as assigning all publication rights for copyright purposes and as subject to unrestricted right to edit and to comment editorially. Send all correspondence to 349 South 600 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102(801) 532-6095. The publication is independent. Views expressed herein are those of the writers and do not necessarily reflect those of the management. Copyright 1985 by Webster Publishing, all rights reserved. Reproduction without permission is prohibited. NETWORK is a registered trademark ofWebster Publishing and is published monthly. Subscriptions cost $12peryear. NETWORK is a publication ofWebster Publishing, a private Utah corporation owned by *Genevieve Atwood, Kay Berger, *Lee Brennan, Cris Coffey, Terrell Dougan, *JoAnne Freed, Mary Gaber, Anita Gander, *Jinnah Kelson, *Esther Landa, Tina Martin.Judy Reagan, *Helen Robinson, *Eunice Shatz, *Karen Shepherd, Vincent Shepherd, *Barbara Tanner, Norman Tanner, Lynne Van Dam, *Maggie Wilde. All names marked* and Elaine Weis serve on the Board of Directors. Network is a member of the Regional and State Women's Publications Network and the National Women's Business Magazines Network. for national advertising rates and information about the full network, call or write Catherine Drwal at MAGAZINE NETWORKS, 29-28 41st Ave., Queens Plaza, L.I.C., NY 11101. Phone [phone]. DECEMBER1985/NETWORK3 . .• ~ : ,',\ . >-P "-'I:'- •.- , .. t-" I 9 8 • 5 Evan-Picone: when feeling good is as important as looking good. Here, a classic ensemble-now softer, prettier in a palette of delicate pastels. Relaxed, yes. But very refined. Layering soft sweaterings over a gently pleated skirt for a look that's-easy, confident-and so delightfully comfortable you'll forget you' re dressed up. Discover this and many other holiday fashion ideas now at Nordstrom. Cardigan in ivory or pink, lambswooUangoralnylon, s-m-l; 70.00. Matching cowl neck sweater s-m-l; 46.00. Fully lined wool blend skirt, in pastel plaid, 4-14; 90.00. If! Individualist Sportswear. We are open special holiday hours today, 11 :00-6 :00. Crossroads Plaza. Fashion Place and O1:den City Mall. Outside local dialing areas in Utah, mil l-800-662-4155: in surrounding states /-800-453-47/4. Shipping charge on all mail/phone order.~. 4 NETWOIU( / DECEMBER 1985 --•Letters CHAMPIONSHIP BOLDING . Dear gentlepersons: As a feminist, I love your publication for its dearly written and entirely appropriate articles - they're so reflective ofwho I am and what I feel. As a journalist I feel you do a great job of concise, empathetic writing with wit and humor and boldness. I;.ven though we're states apart it's a pleasure to see how similar sisters· lives are in dissimilar places, and how we all cope. Thanks, Mary Holm Sioux Falls College Center for Women Sioux Falls, S.D. CONSIDERING COMPARABLE WORTH Dear editor: I believe that the thoughts and questions on comparable worth raised in Network's "Letters" section in the Novemberissue by MajorJohnO. Izaiill, USAF, are important, common misconceptions held by others as the dialogue, arguments and accusations fly around this concept. I'm taking this opportunity to expand on your response. Major lzaii stated in his letter that his understanding of comparable worth was that it would identify occupations " ... that are heavily occupied by women, and artificially (contrary to the laws of supply and demand) raise their salaries under the comparable worth thesis. Won't this reinforce the stereotype we've been trying to eliminate?'· Salaries in heavily female dominated positions would NOT be" artificially raised." If comparable worth were instituted in an organization or business, alljobs - men's and women's - would be rated on a pre-selected rating instrument. This rating instrument would compare alljobs on such factors as skill or knowledge required to do the job and/or the physical demands of the job and/or the decision-making requirements of the job. Another value that could be added to the rating instrument would be the shortage or over-supply of workers (supply and demand) in that particular occupation. However, ifthis value were used with one job category it would be used for alljob categories at that business and along with other factors ofvalue to the employer. These factors would be given a numerical value and weighed. Factors are pre-set and all ofthe jobs at that business would be valued using the same instrument. In so doing, the wages for some jobs could go up, others could go down and most would probably stay the same., Since all jobs would be equally treated rather than artificially depressed because they are women's work, the traditional stereotypes assigned to women's work would be weakened. Some ofthe jobs thus regarded could even attract some qualified men when the wages paid were more closely aligned with the abilities expended. • Some opponents of comparable worth fear the intrusion of government into the affairs of business by the establishment of a national oversight body to set values. Such thinking fantasizes that jobs would be compared across organizations and across geographical distances and across industries. A centralized wage-and-price authority would control not only the value _setting but the worth or dollar amount paid. Such a national authority is frightening, a scare tactic that is just that, a means of discrediting the whole concept by scaring us all. In reality, the governmental role would be to serve as a model by getting their own act together and establishing comparable pay for work requiring comparable degree of difficulty, required skills, responsibility for decision making, required working conditions and current supply ofworkers. Several governmentaljurisdictions have already established comparable worth as employers. The state of Minnesota is probably the farthest along in implementation and the largest employer to have taken this step. The most extreme role government would take is to establish laws requiring that employers have a comparable worth procedure. This would include setting values, using a common measuring instrument for all jobs and establishing a system that would account for variables such as geographical disparities or industrial disparities. Thus, employers would be required to demonstrate the validity of their wage-setting procedures according to the same standards already applied by law to other employment practices such as hiring, firing, training opportunities, and promotion. Sincerely, Virginia P. Kelson, Executive Director The Phoenix Institute Salt Lake City BY THEMSELVES Dear editor: The article on self sufficiency in this month's Network by DawnJacobson is great. I have provided identical information for other articles but never has a reporter captured the concept so accurately. Could it be that a woman's point ofview made the difference? Utah·s self sufficiency program is still in its infancy. It has only been operational state-wide sinceJanuary, 1984, but it is receiving very positive attention. The Network feature was referred to frequently during the recent Human Services Conference and provided the catalyst for .__ _ _ _ CLOTHING.ETC. _ _ _ __. 583-3923 201 South 1300 East SIA1 vvf:A TE:As FLANNEL SHIRTS -AND MORE- RAYBAN VUARNET SLC <::,~«; T-SHIRTS i "We fit the student body." sHORiS l i Co.b ri'Os some interesting discussions. Please convey my appreciation to Dawn and your staffwho continually provide valuable information on women's issues. Sincerely, Connie Cowley Self Sufficiency Program Specialist Salt Lake City, Utah A GRATIFYING ERROR Dear editor, Congratulations on the very fine article in the November issue of Network entitled "Chamber Women: Utah Leads the Way." It is indeed gratifying to know that women are becoming more active in their local chambers of commerce. You may be interested to know that Montrue Larkin of St. George, Utah, served as president of the St. George Chamber of Commerce in 1979 and that Gloria Hirschi-Olson served as vice president in charge offinance in 1981 and 1982, and then as president ofthe St. George chamber in 1983. Doris Williamson, professor of business education at Southern Utah State College, was president ofthe Ce_d ar City ChamberofCommercein 1982, and Fern Hunter of Cedar City served as vice president of the Cedar City chamber in 1983. Kindest regards Alene G. Chamberlain WIBCOChair Cedar City Chamber of Commerce Editor's note: There isn't a mistake I'd rather make than saying there is only one where there have been many. Best wishes to all the dynamic business women in southern Utah. Sorry it took the rest ofus so long to catch up. RATING COMMUNICATING Dear editor: I was impressed with Margaret Godfrey's article, "Anchor Wars" (Network, November, 1985). Godfrey provided an insightful look at the women involvea in local television today. However, one of Godfrey's statements is misleading. In her article, Godfrey wrote, "For years, KSL has attracted the largest viewer audience, though KU1V was never far behind. Now a recent ratings poll shows KUlV on top. KIVX, still third, is also gaining." After reading such a statement, Network readers may be led to believe that KU1V is clearly winning the ratings race. In truth, KSL-1V is generally regarded as the most-watched news station in Utah. According to the Arbitron ratings book (the source most often used in Utah to determine advertising rates), Channel 5 has led the ratings for a number ofyears. The most recentArbitron book, reflectingtheJuly 1985 ratings period, showed KSL-1V with a 13 rating and 31 share during the 7 p.m. weekday time period. This compares with a 10ratingand31 shareforKU1V, and a 12 rating and 29 share for K1VX (KIVX broadcasts a game show during the 6 p.m. timeslot). At l0p.m., KSL-1Vhada22 rating and 40 share, compared with an 18 rating and 32 share for KU1V, and an 8 rating and 14 share for KIVX. All of these figures were based on average week-by-week totals for Area of Dominant Influence Television Households. The May 1985 Arbitron survey reflected similar viewing patterns. The other television ratings service, the Nielsen Survey, showed KSL-1V ahead of KU1V by three rating points and eight share points during the 6 p.m. time slot inJuly. At 10 p.m., Nielsen-shows KSL-1V trailing KU1V by one rating point and two share points. Results from the two books indicate that KSL-lV is generally maintaining its position as a leader in ratings. For your information, I have enclosed appropriate copies of pages from Arbitron and Nielsen for May andJuly 1985. I would greatly appreciate it ifyou could bring this information to your readers· attention. Sincerely, AI Henderson KSL-1VVice President of Marketing and Video West RAVES FOR THE fAVES Dear editor, The entire last issue was ajoyto read, since three ofmy favorite people were mentioned: Elouise Bell, De Fonda Collier, and E. B. White! Thanks for all you do to enrich our lives. Sincerely, Shirley Paxman Provo GETTING HER MONEY'S WORTH Dear editor, Love the sweatshirt offer. Great reason to get my future daughter-in-law a subscription for Christmas. Over the years I've gotten many ofmy friends and relatives subs. Great investment in the future of all women. I've used my treasured directory and the paper to find a female lawyer, real estate agent, insurance agent, surgeon, stockbroker and therapist. Keep up the good work. Sandra LeRoy Sandy • Shirt Setvice • Leathers • Alterations • Drapery Oeaning 18YEARS EXPERIENCE Nancy Bell, Owner DECEMBER1985/NETWOU5 f.dltond/ by Karen Shepherd Scratching the conscience I know there are one or two men who do these things. And we all know who they are.'' The commissioners who answered, and one or two remained silent, spoke with the authority that comes from years of being listened to. They did not expect to have to listen themselves. But they did. After they had discounted each question, eitherJustice Durham.Judge Billings or President Conard or a woman attorney in the audience underscored the validity of the question with an example from their own experience. They told these experiences with the calm reasonableness of attorneys relating an incident. Their voices did not judge; their tone was not accusing. They simply stated the facts of their experience as evidence from witnesses whose achievements prevented them from being discredited. What they said clearly had an effect on the commissioners. Just as clearly, many ofthem did not want to hear what they were being told. The discomfort and tension at the forum occurred because the men who participated conscious and unconscious sex in the forum see themselves as sophisticated stereotyping? people, relatively open to changes in their The day of the event, these questions and profession. They did not expect to be their answers created a tension between the confronted with information that did not commissioners and the audience ofwomen reinforce this view ofthemselves. They did not expect women to show anger at their lawyers that surprised everyone. Almost instantly, a destructive pattern of dialogue answers. What happened is that the formed. Durham, Billings or Conard would dynamics ofthe exchange itselfwere proofof pose a question. The commissioners would ' the complaints of the women lawyers. respond with 1) speeches in their own The surprise of the day was the discovery defense that attested to their good will and that the men on the commission were good intentions; 2) statements that implied incapable ofunderstanding the basis ofthe that the questioner's experience was atypical questions asked them because their own and therefore could be discounted; 3) experience has insulated them so completely statements that the question had come from that they could not empathize. They are men of status and authority. They remember their a person who lacked either the energy or competence to compete in the system; and early years as struggling lawyers in law firms 4) statements that changed the subject. and imagine that the experience ofwomen They said: "To my knowledge everyone lawyers is similar. Most ofthe time that they have spent with women in their lives has who has ever tried to get on a bar committee has gotten on." Or, "We are having a lot of been spent with women who are wives, dates, mothers, sisters. At the office, most of difficulty keeping lawyers active in bar committees; we don't know how to deal with the women they have worked with are the lack ofinterest." Or, "Perhaps you didn't secretaries, word processors, receptionists. make your wishes known clearly enough." In no Utah legal organization do women Or, "Itwashardforme, too, whenlstarted, appear in significant numbers or influence but Ijust kept after it and now I'm a bar top management decisions. I suspect that the commissioner." (Spoken by a male male commissioners, and male lawyers in commissioner.) Or, "All the women I know general, spend relatively little time with appreciate being called 'ladies'." Or, "There female colleagues, and when they are isn't any agreement among women about together, I know the men are more powerful, unless the woman in question happens to be what they want to be called, so what can we do?" Or, "It seems to me that you ladies a judge. Since women do not influence them excuse me, women - are just going out of or the organizations in which they work, men have quite naturally ignored them. It is your way to be offended. It seems pretty thin-skinned to me." Or, "You are creating human nature to pay attention to people who the problem by over-reacting." Or, "We all have influence and to disregard those who don't. Yet, these men felt accused of wrong-doing because they hold themselves out as persons of good will. When the 175 women at the forum realized that they were essentially invisible to the men who came to answer their questions, they responded with anger. When the men felt the anger, they responded with defensive and righteous indignation. It was the first time in Utah that anyone has pointed out that the emperor is naked, and no one liked what she or he saw. The women lawyers had joined together to present their view of reality. In so doing, they inadvertently broke an unspoken contract that has existed betw.een men and women lawyers. The contract was that everyone would agree to believe that competence and intelligence are the criteria for gaining career status. Until now, the women have wanted to believe that as earnestly as have the men. Only the slow accumulation of evidence to the contrary and the sharing of that evidence have forced them to respond honestly to their situation. Now that the intrinsic bias ofthe profession is out in plain view, no one feels right. The women feel unfairly treated; the men appear to feel betrayed. Both reactions are normal, predictable, and disquieting. What is happening between women and men in the legal profession may be the purest and most readily visible display ofthe mechanics of bias available. The standards of professionalism are high. Cold reason is the only acceptable mode ofthought. The mode and tone of the work place is quintessentially male. The male beliefis that the competent succeed, that achievement is rewarded. Women who want to enter the system must meet those expectations, and they must make the men they are joining feel comfortable. So how can change occur? It will obviously only occur when those in power allow it. The first step has already been taken. .The women have gotten the attention of the men ofinfluence, and they have attempted to clarify mis perceptions about what it is like to be a woman lawyer. The only hope is that these men, in the security of their power, will chose to empathize and begin to let go ofthe subtle biases that influence their dealings with women lawyers. The other hope rests with the women lawyers who have themselves achieved power - the judges, the bar commissioners, the partners in law firms, and the group of women who are working within the Women Lawyers ofUtah for genuine growth in opportunity for all women attorneys. t began innocently enough. Norman Johnson, president ofthe Utah Bar Commission, feels strongly that the commission has an obligation to help the 350 practicing women lawyers in Utah integrate into what remains a distinctly male profession. His concern may have been spurred by a report of the American Bar Foundation which states that in 1980, Utah placed last in the nation in percentage of female lawyers. The number ofwomen lawyers has increased since then, from 114 to 350, but so has the total number of lawyers, thus keeping Utah at the bottom of the nation in the percentage ofwomen lawyers. In an attempt to get at the facts about why women lawyers may be having a harder time in Utah.Johnson arranged a forum between a panel consisting of nine members ofthe Utah Bar Commission (including the sole female commissioner, Anne Striba, and the ChiefJustice of the Utah Supreme Court, Gordon Hall), and Utah's women lawyers. The forum was carefully planned. The questions were submitted in advance, screened, and passed to the panel who would answer them on the day ofthe forum. Christine Strachan, professor oflaw at the University ofUtah College of Law, would moderate. Utah Supreme CourtJustice Christine Durham, Third District CourtJudge Judith Billings, and the Women Lawyers of Utah PresidentJane Conard would address the questions to the commissioners. Forum organizers expected 40 to 50 lawyers to attend. Instead, 175 - or half of all the women lawyers in Utah - came. The - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - . t : , - - - - . . . . . , . . - - , - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - questions, although known to the commissioners in advance, were tough: ------0 - - - - - -- .-.~ • Why does the Utah Bar, which collects dues from every lawyer in Utah, spend those dues on official meetings at the Alta Club, an organization which excludes women from !1 membership? • What can women lawyers do to ensure 1 that fellow lawyers will use language which 'I addresses them as professionals rather than 1 as ladies or girls or worse? i • Can flextime and part-time work , Spread the warmth with a gift subscription ($14.95) and we'll bundle you up in a Network become accepted alternative work options in ' sweatshirt, with the regular logo or a special holiday edition sporting a festive snowflake. We've put law firms? together this complicated little mailer to make it as nearly inevitable as possible: fill out the blanks, stuff • How can women get on important bar in a check ($14.95 per gift), and mail it in. Printing the shirts takes a few weeks, but the warmth can committees? start instantly. (We 'II notify you when it arrives - ifyou want it mailed to you, add $2 postage.) • How can the Utah Bar Commission ensure that women are seriously considered MY NAME:______________ SIZE: D Small D Medium D Large for judicial appointments? ADDRESS:______________ COLOR: D White D Black D Red D Turquoise And behind those questions lay the C I T Y / S T / Z I P : - - - - - - - - - - - ~ - LOGO: o Regular unspoken questions: What can the bar do to alert lawyers to the possibility that their LUCKY ONE: _ _ _ _ _ _ __ LUCKVONE: _ _ _ _ _ _ __ LUCKVONE: judgments about women may be biased? ADDRESS: _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __ ADDRESS:_ _ _ _ _ _ _ __ ADDRESS: W.lC How can male lawyers be discouraged from Cl1Y/ST/ZIP: _ _ _ _ _ _ __ Cl1Y/ST/ZIP: _ _ _ _ _ _ __ Cl1Y/ST/ZIP: _ _ _ _ _ _ _---,. -~ --- "From _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __ "From _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __ --•I· "From _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ ._ _ _ - • 6 NETWORK / DECEMBER 1985 News&(_Na_trfS _ _~-----'---------by Marshall Ralph FOSSIL FOOLS The people at the Utah Museum of Natural History, having polished and mounted every old bone and shiny stone they could root up, have now turned their attention to other things. The latest is a series of Monday-evening geography lectures in which the landscape and the urban natural history of the __ Wasatch Front gets a keen going over by a number of experts. The series begins onJanuary 6 with "Wandering in the Wasatch," delivered by English professor Kenneth Eble. OnJanuary 13, it's Museum Curator Frank DeCourten on "Geology of the Wasatch Mountains." Then, -it's "Earthquakes" by Walter Arabasz, a geologist and geophysicist from the University. The January 27 lecture, "Avalanche!,"willbegivenbySueA. Ferguson, Ph.D., a professional avalanche seer and the publisher ofthe Avalanche Review. The lecture series continues through February with yet more interesting topics (we '11 keep you posted). Lectures cost $3 each or $20 for the series (members get a break). Lectures will be held at the Highland High School Auditorium at 7:30 p.m. For information and tickets, contact the museum: 581-6927. VIVALDI FOLDEROL-DI This year's Vivaldi Candlelight concert - the annual benefit for the Utah Council for International Visitors - will include Vivaldi offerings from a number of esteemed musicians. The musical end of this shebang was organized by Ricklin Nobis; soloists include trumpeter Nick Norton, theJensen-Woodbury duo (guitars) and flautist Erich Graf. Soprano Lani Poulson will sing the motet "Longe Mala Umbrae Terrores." It all happens at the First Presbyterian Church, at South Temple and C Street in Salt Lake City. Tickets cost $25, and may be reserved by calling 532-4747. CALLINGALL TRIFFIDS The State Arboretum of Utah somehow stays green and lively all winter. Among this winter's offerings from the chlorophyll set is a Herb Growing Workshop on the cultivation, preservation and use of herbs. This takes place in two parts: four lectures on four consecutive Fridays - January 10 to 31 - at Building 436 at the University ofUtah, 9:30-11 :30 a.m., and then a hands-on propagation workshop which is offered four times in February: on the 7th, the 14th, the 21st and the 28th. Whew! This is complicated, so please call 581-5322 for information! The fee for the whole kaboodle is $50 ($45 for members), and $30 for the lectures alone. Whew! The Arboretum also has a free lecture scheduled for]anuary 15 ("Eastern Hardwoods in Native and Home Landscapes") at the University Student Union Building, room 323, at 7 :00 p.m. The Arboretum also offers winter quarter classes through the University ofUtah 's Division of Continuing Education: Exotic Interiors, Winter Botany, andAdvanc~d Native Plant Identification. For more information, call 581-5322. OCAPTAIN, MYCAPTAIN The Salt Lake Area Chamber of Commerce is now accepting applications for the 1986 session of Leadership Utah. This is a training program to prepare executives to accept the responsibilities ofleadership in their communities and corporations. It is a 10-month program involving eight sessions. Candidates should be between 25 and 45 and hold middle or upper management positions in their businesses or organizations. The chamber (along with Network) urges qualified women to apply. Topics include Utah state government, crime and law enforcement, arts, education, economic development, tourism, local government, and many more. The cost of the Leadership Utah training is $600 for chamber members and $750 for non-members. For more information, contact Deborah Bayle at 364-3631. Gracious Retirement Living Ramona Linnell Executive Director 73 7 South 1300 East Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 [phone]/582-1606 MARINGHER STORY HISTORY The Utah State Historical Society continues its "Women in Utah History" lecture series. On December 7,JefferyJohnson and Davis Bitton will give their lectures on "Utah Women: Migration and Settlement" and "Domestic Life and Utah Women" in ~chfield, at 7 :30 p.m. at the Rodeway Inn. And on December 12, Carol Cornwall Madsen and Loretta L. Hefner will speak on, respectively, "Utah Women in the Professions" and "The Feminization of Poverty in Utah." That will take place in Salt Lake City, at the south lecture room at the Rio Grande Depot. The public is invited, and admission is free. INFORMATION OVERLOAD The December offerings from the county library are far too numerous to list, or even comprehend. But just so you won't think that nothing's happening at the library, here's a peek at the schedule for each of the branches. At the Whitmore Library, there are movies especially for preschoolers shown every Thursday at 2:30 p.m. in the Rainbow Room. And the West Valley branch, you ask? Well, there's a guitar demonstration by Karen Lyon on Saturday, December 21, from 10:30to 11:00. Lyon will demonstrate caleasl)a rhythms and other marvels oftempo. The Holladay branch has computer classes in December: Introduction to Personal Computers, December 9-13, 10 a. m. to noon($15), andBeginningWordProcessingfrom 1 p.m. to3 p.m. on the same dates ($15). Introduction to Spreadsheets follows, on December 16-20from 1 p.m. to3p.m. ($15). The Magna branch has a Muppet Puppet Christmas show scheduled for Saturday, December 7, at l0a.m.; the Muppet Puppets will do a repeat gig at the Keams branch at 1 p.m. the same day. It's a rough life on the road, the Muppets confess. The WestJordan branch has pajama parties on the calendar for December 12 and 26, whereby kids are invited for a bed-time story (7 :30 to 8: 15 p.m. ). Evening wear (literally) is acceptable, at least for kids. Across the valley, at the East Mill Creek branch, vexed parents may attend a Parent Support Group on December 4 and 18 at 7 p. m. Colleen Fullmer is the facilitator for this group, which is free. At the SouthJordan branch, librarian Vickie Black invites children of all ages to help make decorations for the library's holiday tree. But hurry! It's Tuesday, December 3, from 7:00 to 8:30 p.m. The tree-trimming at the Ruth Vine Tyler branch in Midvale takes place on December 7. and lasts all day, from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. (There are many Type B children in Midvale.) The South Salt Lake branch will be hosting rehearsals for the Salt Lake Symphony. The joint will bejumpin' every Wednesday, from 7 p.m. to 9 p.m.; guests are welcome to attend rehearsals:The Jordan High Madrigals will be performing holiday carols at the Peterson branch on December 4 from 7 p.m. to 8 p.m. At the Calvin Smith branch, the Ellison farniiywill present a traditional holiday music performance with banjo, guitar, piano and drums. That's on December 10, at 7 p.m. There is, let me tell you, a whole lot more going on. For information, call 943-4636. DAM On December 5 at Kingsbury Hall at 8:00 p.m., there'll be a chance to learn from the past. And not a moment too soon. The occasion is a fundraiser on behalf ofwilderness conservation in Utah. Speakers will include former Interior Secretary Stewart Udall and Friends ofthe Earth president David Brower, considered the Blue Meanie incarnate in some circles. Movies will be shown of Glen Canyon. Before the dam. Admission costs $9 at the door, and an Eliot Porter photo will be given away by drawing. Brower, then with the Sierra Club, was instrumental in blocking the Split Mountain dam proposal in 1956. (Thanks, D.B.) Proceeds will go to work for BLM wilderness in Utah. YANKERS Professional Home Repairs at Handyman Rates Richard Lobato • windows Experts in Remodeling • floors • plumbing • appliance repair • electrical • painting • general small repairs • labor • drain cleanout / leaky faucets 966-4910 Sales - Service HI TECH FLOOR AND WINDOW COVERING Day-Nite _on The Street byJuanita Goble AroundTown The National Exchange Cub, which dates back to 1911, has opened its membership to women. Not only that, the club has adopted the Prevention of Child Abuse Foundation as a national project. The Exchange clubs also support community service projects, scholarships, crime prevention and the Freedom Shrine. There are about 10 Exchange clubs in Utah including the Salt Lake Exchange Club, which currently has 10 female members. (Are you listening, Alta and Rotary Clubs?) Speaking of the Alta Cub, the Utah State Bar Commissioners were presented with a resolution on November 21 that would prohibit the Utah State Bar from expending its funds at any institution or facility which excludes members on the basis of gender, race, national origin or religion. Some commissioners voted to table the resolution until research could be done on the antitrust ramifications of such an act. Discussion centered on the concerns ofthe State Bar and how such a prohibition might impinge upon the individual's "divine right of association." The resolution will be reconsidered in the January 1986 meeting after the requested research had been done. In the meantime, the State Bar Commissioners did pass a resolution that prohibits the State Bar from expending funds at institutions that illegally discriminate. Apparently the commissioners were not troubled by the apparent contradiction in the intent ofthe two resolutions. The University of Utah College ofLaw is much clearer on the subject. The coIIege has already enacted a policy that prohibits persons from the law school from spending funds at institutions or facilities that discriminate as to gender. UTAH'S PROFESSIONAi.AND BUSINESS NETWORKS FOR WOMEN WM: Women in Management is a forum through which dues-paying members ofthe Ogden Area Chamber ofCommerce can make contacts, get support, and become integrated into the activities and leadership ofthe Ogden Chamber. For information call Adele Smith at 621-8300. WIBCO: The Women In Business Committee ofthe Salt Lake Area Chamber of Commerce is a professional organization devoted to helping women succeed while promoting the goals ofthe chamber. Contact Doreen Maxfield, 364-3631. WICI: Women In Communications is a nationwide professional organization that has been uniting women in the communication field for over 75 years. Contact Nancy Mitchell, 532-6095. UAWBO: The Utah Association of Women Business Owners is made up of women who own their own businesses or who work in an independent capacity within a business. Contact 265-6600. WIN: Women's Information Network is a social organization for women who are, or want to be, in middle to upper management. WIN has spilt into four groups, allowing WIN members the flexibility offitting the meeting time with their schedules. AWSCPA: The American Women's Society of Certified Public Accountants is a national organization with the primary goal of assisting women CPAs advance in their careers. New members are welcome. Contact Kathy Sudbury, 328-0671, or Cindy Brickley, 530-3418 WLU: Women Lawyers ofUtah, Inc. provides a forum for women lawyers to share their professional concerns. ContactJane Reister Conard, 533-8282. Norton Christensen, a division of Norton Company, based in Worcester, Massachusetts, has eliminated 65 office and staffjobs, or 15 percent ofits salaried (management) work force in Salt Lake City. The eliminations come as part of a corporation-wide restructuring and realignment designed to lower costs and boost profits. According to Linda Hansen, human resources specialist, Norton Christensen (NC) provided ··generous''outplacement service and counseling, including office space, telephones and clerical help, to help the terminated employees find new jobs. NC also offered expanded severance packages and limited early retirement. In contrast, one terminated employee says that NC started calling in the 65 employees on October 25 at 8 a.m. to tell them their jobs were eliminated and not to report for work the following Monday. According to this source, only three employees received advance notice about the terminations, and they were given 24 hours to decide whether to leave or to accept lower paying and reduced responsibility positions. At least one employee decided to quit rather than displace a lower level employee. Rumors of a cut in pay had been circulating (three years ago a five percent salary reduction was imposed), but the job eliminations came as a surprise to most NC employees. Staff positions such as engineers, financial analysts and accountants were eliminated. Women ·s Information Network(WIN) awarded Norton Christensen its equality award inJune. Women are becoming independent and entrepreneurial at a faster rate than men. The most telling statistic of all: in 1977 the Bureau of the Census found 702,000 women-owned businesses in the U.S. - in 1982, the Internal Revenue Service found 2.8 million. Word has it that the union between Triad and La Caille is over - the once happy pair have parted. Charles Seldin, directorof communications for Triad, says it has "ended the corporation association with La Caille. "As required by its contract, a review of the two-year association was completed in September. Following the review, Triad elected to terminate the association. Seldin says Triad will manage the Devereaux, Cafe Viceuses Rumeurs and other Triad concessions in-house. Dave Johnson of La Caille could not be reached for comment. During the transition in management, Triad hired Sam Williams, owner of the Metro Cafe and former owner of radio station RWMS (and husband ofKSL-1V news anchor SheIIey Thomas) as a consultant. Williams says his position was "terminated after about three weeks" and that he was on-site with Triad for two weeks. Williams says he was not offered a contract to manage the Devereaux and Cafe Viceuses Rumeurs or other concessions, and mentioned··a difference ofopinion'' he had with Triad about guidelines for management of the restaurants. Meanwhile, rumors fly that Williams' own Metro Cafe is for sale, though Wi11iams says he has no plans to sell. Some sources say that Williams has offered to sell the cafe to Confetti Ristorante owners Vicki and Richard Lusk. When Network asked Vicki Lusk whether she and her husband were going to buy the Metro, she replied, "No comment, but call me back in three weeks.·· After 13 years, Spoons and Spice has moved its Sugarhouse store to the McIntyre Center at 1150 East 2100 South. Owners Joe and Lois Granato said the move increased the store ·s floor space from 1,500 square feet to 10,000 square feet. Granato said the move is expected to increase the company's $1 million annual sales by 25 percent. RECENT AND UPCOMING WOMEN'S NETWORK EVENTS: WM: The November luncheon speaker, Utah Supreme CourtJustice Christine Durham, spoke on "Legal Stereotypes and Women of the '80s. •• The next Women in Management meeting will begin with a luncheon onJanuary 28, 1986; the location and speaker will be announced. WIBCO: The November trade show was very successful, judging from the number of people attending and the information shared by exhibitors and those attending. The next meeting is scheduled for Tuesday, December 17 at 11 :45 a. m. at Little America, 500 South Main. Cost: $10. RSVP to Cynthia Clark at 364-3631 ext. 25. WICI: More than 70 people attended the Video Production Seminar, November 14. The purpose of the seminar was to educate and help members grow professionally, to raise scholarship money, and to enhance the professional image ofWICI. The end result over $1,200 earned for a communications student in Utah. WICI thanks the seminar speakers: Skip Branch ofBranch/.Jones Advertising; Richard Featherstone of Evans Advertising; Al Henderson, Steffny Feulner, and Pam Phillips ofVideo West; Scott Nelson of Nelson Videography and Photography; Roger Olson of Skaggs Telecommunication Service; David Spikes of Sperry Corporation and IlVA; Allyson Gregerson of the Utah Media Center; and Susen Sawatski ofUTAD News. UAWBO: Tammy Campbell from Campbell and Associates presented an informative overview ofwhat an advertising agency can do at the November meeting. The holiday social and official installment of officers for 1986 is December 2, at the Holiday Inn Salt Palace, 235 West South Temple. Cost: $18. Call 488-1980 for reservations. WIN I: Mabel Semister, a quality of worklife administrator and career planning workshop facilitator at AT&T, spoke to members at the November 6 meeting. WIN II: Linda Thatcher of the Utah Historical Society gave an overview of the history of Utah women to WIN II members on November 12, atLittleAmerica. WIN III: Gilberto Robles, executive communications director at Mountain Bell, spoke on "Sales and Motivation" at the November 26 meeting. WINIV: On November 7, WINN members heard Tawwakul Baird speak about "Daring to be Yourself." ALL WIN GROUPS will meet for the December 11 Christmas party at the Holiday Inn Salt Palace, 235 West South Temple. Cocktail hour begins at 6 p.m., dinner at 7 p. m. followed by entertainment by The Small World Entertainers at 8:30 p.m. Those wishing to donate gifts to the YWCA should bring food, clothing (new or used), toys, etc., wrapped and with a note explaining age and sex ofintended recipient. Cost: $15/person. RSVP by 11 a.m., December9, by calling 488-1 WIN or 488-1946. AWSCPA: SusanMirow, Ph.D., M.D., spoke at the November 20 meeting held at Shenanigans Restaurant. For details on the next meeting call Kathy Sudbury, 328-0671 or Cindy Brickley, 530-3418. WLU: At the last WLU meeting, Clair Clark, Ph.D., d~partmentoffamilyand community qiedicine at the University of Utah, andJanetWarburton, Ph.D., licensed clinical psychologist, spoke about stress and professional woman. For information about the next meeting, callJane Reister Conard, 533-8282. 8 NETWORK / DECEMBER 1985 by Elouise Bell • Staying green Tannenbaum! A tree by any other name would smell as paradoxical. Perhaps no tangible trapping of Christmas can equal the Tree in generating ambivalence. To·begin with, ifyou are genetically ofthe breed that observes Christmas at all, you must have a Tree. Many folks have wondered, in the privacy of their post-Thanksgiving picking on the turkey bones, if they couldn't merely forgo the Tree this year - just for a change, just to simplify +hings a bit. Well, those who have tried it report that it is, in fact, simpler to have the Tree in all its complexity than to explain, over and over again to all and sundry, whyyou don't have one. A certain quite affiuent family of my acquaintance staunchly resisted being , treed one Yule, only to discover, on Christmas Eve, a fully decorated Tree on their porch, along with a cardboard box of groceries and an assortment of dime-store toys for the children. Charity may never fail, but her eyesight can blur from time to time especially ifa Tree is not in sight. Long-married couples who have finally moved the last fledgling out ofthe nest sometimes think, ''Now this year we don't need to have a Tree.'' VJrong. Word~ spread quicker than spilled milk, from Fresno to Philadelphia -''The folks aren't having a Tree this year!'' However inappropriate, pity will well up, then guilt - and before long, the good couple will have not only a donated Tree, but all ofthe chicks back in their laps, determined that the Folks won't have a lonely, Treeless holiday. Of course, all chicks will disperse before it is time to take down the Tree and vacuum up the needles. Ambivalence lingers even in households quite dedicated to Trees. Take my friends Jean and Elayne.Jean likes big, full, bushy and most ofthe block; the next year a quirky Trees, robust, hearty specimens whose vigor little Meg Tilly that has to be coaxed to stand and pungency remind her of the forests deep up straight in its metal base. on a starlit night. Elayne, for reasons known Friends Polly and Roger have a different only to her analyst, always searches for a ambivalence to deal with. They solved the spindly little "orphan" of a Tree - one that problem of choosing a Tree some time ago: she can rescue, bring in out of the cold, and they bought a fine artificial model. But two tum into a Cinderella Princess with baubles years ago, Roger fumed amid a snarl ofwires and bangles and a veil oftinsel.Jean and and bulbs, 'Tm not going to put the lights on Elayne solve their problem by alternating and off this Tree one more time!" So now, on one year a big Ethel Merman of a Tree that New Year's Eve, Polly and Roger shroud their dominates not only the room but the house Tree - lights, decorations, and all -in a CROSSROADS PLAZA ( 801 For yoor holtdav shopping. we gift wrap and man 10:00 a.m. - 9:00 p.m. 12:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m. I crowds out the couch and two relatives, or prudently settle for one that perches atop the 1V and seems forever a compromise? Well, maybe the Tree is a compromise, after all, and a paradox. In the quiescent season ofthe year, at Winter Solstice, we bring into our homes the Tree that is ever green, to remind us of spring's promise. In the darkest days, we light strings of colored bulbs and candl~s and fires to cheer ourselves and our neighbors on our way. These lights are not, after all, the summer sun, and the Tree, hauled down from Oregon or assembled in a factory in Taiwan, is not, after all, a crocus or a shimmering aspen alive on the hillside. But neither are we ever quite what we would like to be, ever quite what the promise said we could be. Yet that doesn't ultimately matter. I think what matters is that we keep on, December after December, wrestling good-naturedly with the Tree, and that, whether in observance of Christmas, or Solstice, or Hannukah, or our own inner season, we keep on lighting candles amid the darkness. Elouise Bell is a professor ofEnglish at B. Y. U. aad a humorist for Networ.k aad for .KSI. Television's "Good Neigll&ors "s.&ow. large green garbage bag and put the whole thing downstairs. The following year, they whip offthe cover and behold - Instant Tree. Yes, the whole subject of the Tree is draped thick with ambivalence. Use the old decorations, worn ragged with tradition, or toss them all out and start fresh? Put the Tree up right after Thanksgiving and enjoy it all month, or spring it full-blown on the children on Christmas mom? Go the whole distance, with a Tree that scrapes the ceiling and "The trick is not how much pain you feel - but how much joy you feel. Any idiot can feel p,in. Life is full of excuses to feel pain, excuses not to love, excuses, excuses, excuses." --- EricaJong, HowToSave Your Own Life, 1977 , The American Express Tf'civelers Cheque Operations Center salutes the Women of Achievement who have appeared in NETWORK and Women of Achievement throughout the Salt Lake Valley who excel in their jobs and in the workplace. American Express Travel Related Services Company, Inc. Travelers Cheque Operations Center Salt Lake City, Utah 84184 Joanne Wesson Executive Director, Project Development HealthWlse a subsidiary of Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Utah Joanne Wesson has actually seNed two careers in the health care field, both of which have demonstrated her dedication and desire to succeed. Joanne graduated from the University of utah in microbiology, worked for one year in a hospital laboratory and spent the next 16 years with her family. Re-entering the job market after 40 was a frightening experience when Joanne resumed her hospital lab career which Mary Allee Brooks District Manager - Operator Services Mountain Bell Mary Alice believes that jobs should naturally result from a healthy work motivation. She also believes that every manager has an obligation to encourage meaningful part1cipation by employees. "Our company's most valuable asset is its employees," says Mary Alice. "I have a responsibility to the company to ensure that we are providing good seNice to our customers and at the same time to help employees achieve their maximum potential." Mary Alice started her career with Mountain Bell over 20 years ago and she has held many different management Women·of Achievement she later found unfulfilling. "I searched for work in health care which allowed for more human interactions, and found the health insurance industry to be the perfect • • solution." Joanne joined Blue Cross and Blue Shield in 1972 as an entry level claims processor. In the next 13 years she earned six promotions including being r:iamed a corporate assistant vice president in 1982. "I've always believed a woman can achieve whatever she wants if she's willing to work for it," Joanne says. Joanne is currently the executive director of project development for HealthWise, a health maintenance organization (HMO) owned by Blue Cross and Blue Shield. HealthWise is the nation's tenth fastest growing HMO, which has offered Joanne the unique challenge of dealing with rapid growth and meeting customer needs. 2555 Parley's Way SLCutah positions. Her career began as an operator on a manual cardboard in Provo. While working in the customer seNice department, she was ~esponsible for the design and implementation of the PhoneCenter Store concept in utah. Her firm belief in "Quality of Work Life" and the many changes that her department has been able to make because of it has helped label her as a "trendsetter" by many of the departments throughoutthe seven-state area. Mary Alice is a strong community supporter and is active in Women in Management, Salt Lake Area Chamber of Commerce Women's Council, Junior Achievement, Midvale City HaNest Days, and "Patch 'N Paint" (a Mountain Bell community relations project that helps to restore the homes of needy individuals). She has also developed training for businesses and cities on the "Employee Involvement" concept. , "I have seen our company go through -t)ramatic changes since the breakup of the Bell system. They have provided many new challenges as well as rewards," Mary Alice says. "Our focus is toward a new environment with new strategies and styles which help us become a competitive company in a competitive environment. I feel confidentthat Mountain Bell will remain a telecommunications leader and a strong and viable company in the future." The women above have been chosen by their businesses to be recognized here as Women of Achievement. Network salutes these women and the businesses they represent. Network's philosophy has always been to recognize and celebrate the accomplishments of women. Smart businesses, too, are careful to recognize the smart, productive women who work with them. Why? Because it's good business. These progressive businesses offer a positive climate for women to grow, be productive, and excel. As positive role models for other women. these women encourage others to excel. In addition to having her photograph printed with a writeup, each Woman of Achievement will receive a certificate from Network and will be invited to a banquet honoring all Women Achievers of 1985. Don't miss this opportunity to join the network of businesses that are recognizing the women who work with them. Call Network, 532-6095, for details. Mountain Bell :; , Post Office Box 30960 Salt Lake City, Utah 84125 10 NETWORR / DECEMBER 1985 IT COULD BE WORSE Baby whales put on weight at the rate of 10 pounds per hour. ~ITT) ~[ru® ~@@@ [M)@@@? While the debate roars on about whether we are w~at we eat, it is oecoming increasingly dear that we feel what we eat~ _ D by Lyn Mccarter ·mdreamingofaperfect Christmas. Just like the ones in Better Homes and Gardens. I'll learn to tat so I can whip up the keepsake tree ornaments pictured on the cover, try a new wild rice stuffing for my golden-perfect turkey, and win the Homemakers· Holiday Hors D'Oeuvres contest on page 22. And more: I'll patch up the double decade-old rift between this and that side ofthe family, visit every friend and neighbor I've neglected for as much as a ..•... .·•· ~ ·> minute this past year, and trim myselfinto a size seven by the time I hit the first party ofthe season. Of course, ifl attempt to make this dream come true, I will have ensured my ~ . carbohydrates for food. The simple total physical, mental and emotional collapse carbohydrates offered to these subjects were byJanuary 1. Yet, a great many ofus will sugar-rich foods containing more calories attempt to take on some similar nw:nber of than nutrients. The complex carbohydrates tasks in an effort to produce the perfect, possibly be setting yourself up for a case of they got - breads and cereals, potatoes and full-hearted holiday season for ourselves and the Holiday Blues: ifyou succeed, it's by rice - provided them with their primary our families and friends. denying yourselfwhile others are having fun, sources ofprotein, vitamins, and minerals. The Thanksgiving-Hannukahand ifyou don't deny yourself, you fail. Researchers point out that all carbohydrates, Christmas-New Year's stretch, ostensibly a Where ·s the Merry in that Christmas? A especially complex ones, supply vital joyous and convivial time, tempts even the sensible plan for holiday survival would nutrients, but, in overwhelming quantities, most realistic among us to set goals that can't recognize that the holidays are no time to advance fatigue and depression. When there be reached. We then become harried and lose weight. The experts say that even ifyou are no proportionate supplies ofprotein for remorseful. Holidays and high-stress eat only when you're hungry and only until the body to draw on, carbohydrates simply situations go hand in hand. For many people, you feel full, you'll gain about five pounds slow things down. This will sound odd to the onset of the holiday season signals a athletes, who have long fueled their during the holidays. The experts also say that push to set all things right in their lives, and endurance sports with carbohydrates, but those five pounds will disappear early in the for the most part, the result is that they batter the reason, according to M.l. T. psychologist new year once you resume your normal themselves trying to maintain the pressure. Harris Lleberman, is that··carbohydrates eating patterns. eaten alone increase the brain's uptake ofthe -Depressives tend to fall further into This is no time to diet. Diets always mean amino acid tryptophan'' which stimulates the depression, drinkers find more reason to deprivation, and during the holidays, they production of another substance called drink, and otherwise healthy women and mean isolation, as well. The dieter suffers a serotonin, a neurotransmitter that produces men embrace anxiety over unfulfilled holiday two-fold denial - physical and emotional. a tranquilizing, almost hypnotic effect. This "wishes." So don't try to lose 10 pounds over the tranquilizing chemical may well be what For many people, the holiday holiday. Instead, be vigilant about not some depressed persons are after when they celebrations bring a particular set of stresses overeating, and not eating fatty foods. And binge on sweets andjunk food, while those related to appetite and diet. Some people will exercise. This combination will help keep in ''up··moods will treat themselves to a react to holiday stress by eating more or stress down and keep weight gain at a large, usually protein-rich meal. carelessly; then they feel bad. Others, to live minimum. Some fudge or fruitcake won't up to their ideal of holiday perfection, may hurt- justlimityourselftoapieceortwo. During the holidays, it's easy to get fast while others feast; then they feel bad, Be aware, too, that the foods you do eat hooked on simple carbohydrates. Lunches too. can affect the way you feel and function. may be sacrificed for an hour of shopping Certainly, there's a limit to how much you AccordingtoNewsweek, October 14, 1985, before getting back to the office. A day's can control your emotions during this peak certain foods are now "linked to an array of meals may get reduced to eight cups of coffee emotional season, but you should be able to symptoms, including behavior disorders, and a vending-machine sandwich or candy , alleviate some of the stress that makes the depression, chronic fatigue, and bar. If that description fits your routine, be holidays hard to handle. By setting some hypertension." Research on the food-mood aware that you are asking for the blues. Take link focuses heavily on the effects of both realistic holiday nutrition goals, you can time to eat breakfast, and vary the contents of move closer to creating an ideal of Christmas simple carbohydrates (sugars) and complex your meals from one day to the next. that has a place for the real you in it. carbohydrates (starches) that some Repetitive food patterns - say, coffee and a The Diet-Mood Connection investigators suspect can slightly impair brain chocolate doughnut every day - can Before you make a decision to slim become very compelling. Our bodies still functions. Though the researchers do not down for the holidays, you should realize require well-rounded, nutritious meals even know precisely how the ingestion of certain that changes in eating patterns normally when we don't have time or motivation to foods translates into mood changes, occur during the holiday season because speculation points to chemicals within the vary the foods we eat, so a conscious effort to food traditions accompany most festivities. If foods which trigger reactions and swelling in rotate a single food every four days helps us you have imposed a" diet" upon yourself to the brain that produce displays of mood and change our meals enough to supply us with meet a weight for the holidays, you could emotion. The effects of food on specific items from the basic four food groups almost organs and bodily functions are well by accident. documented, and so it seems logical that the brain - an organ with uncountable functions - could be affected as well. The depression and fatigue that researchers have linked to carbohydrates appeared in people who were given only }~ . I.._ .'. ' . . .... ' '. Here are some other specific strategies for your holiday nutrition plan: Reep blood sugar levels as constant as possible by: • Eating smaller meals more often. • Cutting back on sugar, caffeine, and heavy starches such as white and sourdough breads. • Choosing lean meat, vegetables, and light (not cream-based) soups. Get fatigue-fighting vitamins and minerals into your system: • Iron - found in beans and green leafy vegetables such as broccoli and spinach. Ifyou don't like the greens cooked, toss a few spears and shredded leaves into a green salad. • FolateandB12-wheatand multigrain breads are the best sources of these nutrients which are especially important for persons over 60. • Vitamin C - tomatoes and citrus fruits are the standards here, and are reliable sources of energy. • Magnesium - even a mild deficiency of magnesium leads to fatigue, and you should choose nuts and beans, whole grains and green leafy vegetables for a rich supply ofthis mineral. Go easy on dJe eggnog: however much you party, keep in mind that alcohol is a depressant and the effect lingers through the morning after. Alcohol is the champion when it comes to making stress worse. Get going in the morning: With the return ofwinter, we are awake during more hours of darkness. Our lessened exposure to bright light has a depressing effect on us all. To help counter this effect, get up when your alarm sounds in the morning, go around the house turning on lights as you go, tum up the radio and the thermostat, walk up and down a flight of stairs a few times to energize yourselfand get warm, and plan to eat something nutritious for breakfast. No one is immune from the Holiday Blues. Healthy eating habits only help reduce the chance of depression. The best stress medicine is preventive: setting realistic goals, lowering expectations ofyourself and of others (after all, you have no control over them), and being active and in control ofyour life. Make events less demanding through decisive planning. Eat right. Exercise. When you feel overburdened and down, think about what you've eaten and experiment' with controlling your diet in order to control your emotions. The holiday time is an ideal time to try out these techniques - it's the time when you need it most. Lyn McCarter is a freelance writer who specializes in nutrition, exercise, and health. DECEMBER1985/NETWOU11 I Sixth South and Seventh East 10 to 9 Monday-Saturday Noon to 5 Sunday Giff Wrap 12NETWORK / DECEMBER 1985 Illustration: Deni Christian KNOTS His fatherwas dying and he didn't knowwhat to do. He tied knots - good, r1m1 bowlines were bis favorite. "You can trust a bowline, "he said. "lfyou tie it right it won't slip." by Kate Woodworth D have been watching Sam's fingers for hours, how they work like spider legs, anchoring, tying, knotting, twisting. The rest of his body is absolutely still, even when Big Sam starts coughing, the strained, trapped hacking ofsomeone trying not to move. But Sam doesn't look at me, or up the stairs to the dark where his father moves slowly across the uncarpeted floor, his slippers making a sound like women shushing. When Big Sam said he was coming - didn't ask permission, or say how long he would stay - it was almost as if Sam knew why. Sam knew it was for good, however long that was, and he put the sheets on the guest bed, made the comers perfect, added blankets and pillows and re-arranged quilts. He put ocean things in his father's room: things that I hadn't seen before, but which Sam must have picked up on the beach - brimstone polished until it shined, an unbroken sand dollar, a sea urchin that was bleached white and spineless so that the symmetry ofits shell showed. A vitamin jar full of snail shells, a wooden buoy, a lobster trap. Sam left the window open slightly so that the fog drifted under it and settled in the room. Big Sam slept two nights in the room before he could tell us that it is cancer, and that he,is dying. I stand at the door, whistling for the dog, who will only come when she is ready. I can hear her tags rattle and I notice the night has begun to frost over, and that the moon has an edge to it. The field, too, has a gleam, and even the bay seems smoothed over by something unbreakable. Butitisn'tice. The bay never freezes here. We take the boats in every fall anyway, a ritual like the re-use of Christmas ornaments or the raking ofleaves, leaving only the dinghy in case one of us· should want to get offland, should feel that pull that made us move here in the first place. The first time I met Big Sam was here on this island. Sam and I had moved here aft.er college, but my parents wouldn't speak to us until we decided to get married. But we weren't even engaged when Big Sam came, and I remember I asked Sam what I should call his father. "Big Sam?" I asked. "No," he said. "Anything but." I had expected Big Sam to be a big man, even though Sam had explained to me that his father was "big" and he was "little" because oftheir ages - not their size. When we stood at the ferry dock landing, I watched the upper decks ofthe boat, trying to pick out a large version of Sam. But the man who waved at us, who shook Sam's hand and then hugged me, was of average size. I remember that his face looked younger than I expected, and that he smelled already of pine and fog and ocean, even though he was still wearing a suit and tie. On the first night of that trip, Sam and his father huddled together over a chart, and Sam showed him the course around the island opposite the one where we live and told him that, with a good wind, we would be gone the better part of the day. I had already planned a picnic for us, one that I thought would appeal to a resident of New York City - sliced roast beef, Boursin cheese, French bread, wine: all things I had had to send specially to the mainland for. I was in the kitchen when Sam showed his father the course, and I was wondering how we would all do in the boat for eight hours - whether or not his father would use the head; what we would talk about. But the day was perfect. Big Sam sailed the boat, touching the tiller with his fingertips and playing the main sheet until the sail was taut as a pregnant belly. On the way home, before the wind, Sam and I set the spinnaker while Big Sam skippered. The spinnaker is red and yellow and held the sunset in its curve. We had her trimmed perfectly, and the boat cut through the water like paper into skin. "Hot damn," Big Sam said. He said it quietly, like he couldn't help it. That nig~t we ate clams and fresh peas, and Big Sam raised his wine glass and toasted me. "To her beauty and her talent, both ofwhich are rare,'' he said. I could see Sam smiling. As I wait at the door for the dog, I can see the mast sticking up in the darkness like a • single finger. In the morning, we will take the mast down, move the boat in, and start work onher. On my way to bed, I stop where Sam is working. It seems like there is something I should tell him, something I could say. Sam hasn't left the island since we moved here. Once he said he was tired of life, meaning life on the mainland. He hadn't gone to his brother's wedding. He had stayed here when his father had fallen from the roof while repairing the chimney-and had broken his hip. "Should we take him to the hospital?" I ask. The closest hospital is on the mainland, DECEMBER1985/NETWORR13 and Big Sam would have had to drive right by it to get to the ferry dock landing. Sam stops and looks at his fingers, caught in the knots. "I don't know,•· he says. I suggest we call the summer doctor, a man reputed to have diagnosed chicken pox as flea bites. After a while, Sam shrugs. "What do you think?" he asks. His voice seems small, as ifhe has slipped back to childhood, his face intent on top of an orange life vest while his father showed him how to tell the direction ofthe wind from the ripples on the water. "I don't know what to do," he says. Sam leans back over his knots. There is a birthmark like a fingerprint on the back ofhis neck where I like to kiss him; But tonight I can't do it. I have the feeling I sometimes have when the ferry first bumps the pier on the mainland: That everything is out of control, beyond my understanding. Sam learned knots when he moved here. He told me once that he loved knots because they were the opposite of New York City. "Everything's parallel in New York," he told me. "Or perpendicular. And moving." Sam ·s favorite knot is a bowline because it won't slip. "You can trust a bowline," he told me when he was showing me how to tie one. "If you tie it right, it will never slip. " Sam has taught himself macrame. He uses the same knots he uses in the rigging, the same ones he uses on the pier: Square knots, grannies, figure eights and bowlines. Usually, he has rope in his hands in the evening, and ties and unties knots the way some people smoke cigarettes or drum their fingers. But this is the first time Sam has made something, kept something, sat down to make a project out of rope. "What are you making?" I ask him. He shrugs. "I don't know." "Are you coming to bed?" "I don't know. Not yet." I wait for Sam in the darkness, listening to the rope tap the aluminum mast in a steady, predictable rhythm. On some nights, we can hear foghorns moaning, the boats straining against their cleats or a parade of honking cars as some of the summer vacationers weave home after a party. "Locusts," Sam calls the summer people, because of the way they arrive in hordes as soon as June begins. I miss Sam beside me, experimenting with the idea of him dying like his father. Then, to distract myself, I look out the window at the straight shaft ofthe mast silhouetted against the water. Sometime before Sam comes to bed, I fall asleep. In the morning at this time ofyear, I tum the oven on broil and open the door to get the kitchen warm quickly, and I sit wrapped in a blanket at the kitchen table. The windows are glazed with a deep frost and the yard looks as ifit has grown old overnight. Huddled in the comer is Sam ·s macrame. It looks as ifhe dropped it and walked away impulsively, but I can't .bring myselfto pick it up. The pipes shudder and I know that Big Sam is awake and showering. Sam and I know better: We wait until the house is warm before undressing. But Big Sam is new here, and has said it's too late to change his ways. When Big Sam comes down to breakfast, he holds his coffee mug and I pour for him. The mug chatters against the pot for a moment, and he pulls it back, steadies one hand with the other as ifit had misbehaved, and then offers his mug. This time, the hand is steady, but it is as if the shaking is still there, buried deep inside him. "Do you want breakfast?" I ask. "No," he says. "Thank you." "It's no problem," I tell him. "I really don't mind." "Don't bother," he says. ''I'll fix something later ifl'm hungry." The veins on the back ofBig Sam's hands stand out blue as winter water. He is looking at the window frost, and I notice as if for the first time that the crystals are different, like snowflakes, and that they're shining. "I don't mind," !tell him. I fix eggs, English muffins, sausage and freshjuice. Big Sam tries, I can see that. But the shaking is back, and I can imagine the feeling - the eggs quaking and the juice sloshing. I leave when he has eaten only a bite or two, telling him something about needing to get started on the boat before the sun gets too hot. Big ~am agrees. "Don't let me keep you," he says. On the way across the field, the dog comes from nowhere and nips at my gloves. Our feet leave actual footsteps in the frost, which is already turning heavy and wet. Without turning around, I can imagine our house: Grey shingled with white trim, and I can picture Big Sam scraping his breakfast into the garbage, and how he will look for a moment, and then wad up paper towels on top of his meal so I won't be offended. I can picture Sam lying on our pillow with his arms behind his head, and how he will b~ listening to something that is quieter and farther away than the sound ofthe garbage can slamming shut, or the dog yipping. . I stop for a moment inside the boat house, letting my eyes get used to the dark, letting my nose adjust to the turpentine and varnish, rust, iron and paint. When we first came, thiswasaman'splace, fullofsecrets and strong smells. But I have always been the one to spend time here, sanding varnish chips offthe dinghy oars, scraping barnacles from the hull and polishing brass. I have left the boat house the way I found it: piles of old cleats and rusted nails. Frayed rope and limp life preservers. There are things here that may belong to someone else: a previous owner, or a summer person who may have paid to use this shed for storage. But I leave everything as I find it, sometimes stopping on the way to and from the dock just to look at the atrophied paintbrushes, the coffee cans with dried paint or solid varnish. "You should go to a modem art museum sometime,~· Sam has told me. "You'd drive everyone crazy thinking you saw something they didn't understand." I take a bucket and a brush and spend the morning crouched under the belly of the boat, scrubbing offthe salt residue and ocean life that has grown there. I tell time by the heat of the sun - how it bums through the frost, and then through the season, fooling some people into thinking that summer may last a little longer. I tell time by the number of motor boats in the bay - summer people who don't have schools to go back to, or who are telling themselves that this year they can stick it out for the winter. I try to imagine Sam and his father at the kitchen table, their backs against the wall. Sam would have on his gray wool socks, his waffle-weave longjohns, his hair and eyebrows uncombed. His fingers would be woven around his coffee cup, his face close to the steam. In the comer would be the mess of ropes. There would be things he could tell his father. Things I know, like stealing the jack-knife, still hating the divorce that had happened 25 years eatlier, remembering how his father could never barbecue a steak without burning it. And things I don't know. Parts ofBig Sam that are growing in his son as quietly and as irrevocably as cancer, and which they hadn't recognized or talked about before. I know Sgm. He will sit totally immobile, scratch through the past and the future, unearthing questions and memories, and then hold them in his mind like beach treasures. But he may not say those things. He may try again to feed his father breakfast, may suggest the hospital, the summer doctor, and those memories will be pulled back into his unconscious as ifby tide. When Big Sam told us it was cancer, Sam moved only his hands. We had been eating, so he hadn't had rope in his fingers, and I didn't look at him directly. I only noticed out of the comer of my eye that Sam's hands came together like lovers, and they stayed like that - joined tight. That was all Big Sam told us. He didn't say how long, he didn't say when he found out. After dinner, he went and stood in front of the chart in the lMng room . and he studied it a long, long time, as if remembering the tack up the south side of the island, and how the boat had heeled so much that Sam and I hiked out the windward side and our picnic slid across the deck and had to be tied down. He may have been remembering how the waves jumped up at us from over the gunwales, and how he took one in the face and shook it aside, the salt in his eyes and the water sliding off his foul weather gear in streams. I remember his eyes were blood-shot. and he braced his foot against the leeward seat, but he never let go of the sh~et or the tiller. When Big Sam was studying the chart, Sam was leaning against the mantle, and he said, ''We still have time, I think, for one more sail." Sam meant, time in the season, but Big Samjust shook his head. "No," was all he said. When I hear the ferry whistle, I know it is lunch time, and I go back to the house. There's no sign of anyone outside or in, but Sam ·s macrame is hanging in the window. I can see through it, to the boathouse, the bay, the lighthouse, and the boat looking stranded and bulky. But everything is divided in pieces, tied together with a pattern of knots. Kate Woodworth is a &ction writerwho, among other things, is advertising and public relations director of Stein Eriksen Lodge at Deer Valley. 14 NETWORR / DECEMBER 1985 by Karen Shepherd _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ __ hat is happening to the children? What a question to ask at Christmas time when all the world turns to children as the symbol ofjoy and fulfilled expectations. The fact is that we think about children at Christmas. Almost every soul, even the tightest, digs into a pocket for money to buy the gift that will make them smile. It is said that America is child-centered. That Utah is a state of families. We believe that we CARE about children. We IMAGINE that most children in America are well-tended. They are not. Some might say it is bad taste to bring up bad news during the season ofjoy, but since this is when we are thinking about the children, let's really think about them. Let's ask why one in 10 children lived in poverty in 19 73 and one in five live in poverty now. Let's ask why children, who represent only 27 percent ofthe population form 40 percent ofthe nation's poor? More children than you want to think about will miss the warmth that wraps the rest of us this Christmas. Let's ask who cares? The government is spending less on social insurance and cash welfare benefits to poor children than they ever have. Those payments have declined during a time when the incidence of children in poverty has risen 30 percent. Those payments have declined during a period of rapid growth in government spending, a time when Americans have chosen to put their money into bombs and missles rather than into children. Since this is also the season of PEACE, let's ask what it means that we are spending money on warfare rather than on human beings. All ofthese questions are difficult to answer. Somehow, inthecomplexityof modem life, we are c;:hoosing to deprive our children for reasons which are widely enough accepted that those who don't accept them don't feel they can cause change. Then there are the people who won't accept injustice no matter how complex the issue, who won't give lip hope no matter how hopeless the task ofinfluencing change appears. One such person is Irene Fisher, the director ofUtah Issues. Fisher spends all her days working for the benefit of poor families. Now she will be concentrating on children as well. What follows is a message from Fisher to all ofyou about a new organization - UTAH CHILDREN. It speaks for itself. If what I have so far said leaves you cold, read what Irene Fisher has written and plot a way to join-in and warm yourself up. =-o-== Have you seen the 1V commercial? It's the utility company commercial in which the loving father pulls the blanket up over the peacefully sleeping child in a warm home. Photograph:John Schaefer The cold wind blows the snow outside. The voice-over describes the warmth supplied by the utility company. I like that commercial. It reminds me, as it's supposed to, ofthose moments.when I watched my own child sleeping peacefully. For a moment, I can recreate the wonderful feeling that all is right with the world. I also dislike that commercial. Invariably, my second thoughts remind me ofthe children I know in Utah who have no father to cover them as they sleep, who are more likely to be abused than comforted, who go to bed hungry and go to sleep cold. I wish I could watch that commercial and only think about my own children and other fortunate children like them. I wish those other thoughts wouldn't creep in. I wish those realities did not exist. But they do. We an know that they do. It is out ofthese thoughts and concerns that an exciting new organization is being born. lITAH CHILDREN is the result of the vision and work of a group of people who believe that together, the citizens ofUtah can address these problems and can improve conditions for homeless, hurting children in our state. In 1983, Utah Issues submitted a proposal fo theJunior League of Salt Lake City requesting financial support and placement of]unior League volunteers for a three-year period. TheJunior League pledged significant financial support and impressive numbers of skilled volunteers to help create UTAH CHILDREN. Utah Issues· Sue Purcell became the lead staff person responsible for creating UTAH CHILDREN. She worked, in the initial organizational period, with a steering committee of four]unior League leaders: Sue Hess, Bryan Eldredge, Daryl Barrett, and Cheryl Fredrickson. In the first nine months ofthe organization process, nearly twentyJunior League volunteers received background on children's issues in Utah, and they have begun to inform other groups about UTAH CHILDREN. The group now has by-laws, drawn up with help from Catherine Caldwell, an attorney at VanCott Bagley Cornwall and McCarthy; a brochure, designed with help from the public communication department ofthe LDS Church and with photos from Busath Photography; and a governing board, with Norma Matheson as a very active honorary chair and Lillian Garrett as official chair. All of this combined with a technical advisory group made up of people who are experts on children makes UTAH CHILDREN an organization likely to influence public policy in Utah. Perhaps in the nation. The support for UTAH CHILDREN has already been phenomenal. There are many groups and individuals who are concerned about one aspect or another of children·s DECEMBER1985/NETWOU15 needs. But there seems to be a consensus that solutions to the problems of children will require a strong, coordinated approach which can utilize the best efforts of everyone who cares about children. UTAH CHILDREN will provide the framework for this work. UTAH CHILDREN is a promise to ourselves. A promise that we will work together to eliminate or minimize those problems which prevent the full, healthy development of our state's children. I agreed to serve on the board ofUTAH CHILDREN. I'm proud and excited about this involvement. I want to be a part ofthe work that, perhaps someday can enable me to watch the utility company commercial and like it! ==-011== Ifyou want to be involved with UTAH CHILDREN, call Sue Purcell at 521-2138, they need your money and your time. Ifyou are still not convinced that they need you or that you can make a difference read these facts taken from Directions, the Utah Issues August 1985 bulletin. • Children made up 34 percent ofthe total populationin Utah in 1980, but36percent ofthe poverty population. • It has been estimated that by 1984, the number of persons in poverty in Utah had increased since the 1980 Census by 29 percent. Ifthat holds true for children, there are now 80,471 children in poverty. Under the same assumption, the number of children under 6 has swelled by 10,000-from23,552to33,257. • Nationallyin 1984, female headed families were four times as likely to be poor as those headed by males. Estimates indicated that in Utah, the situation is worse - female headed families were 4.5 times as likely to be poor as male headed families. • It is estimated that 41. 6 percent of families with children and headed by women in 1984 were poor. Where children under 6 were present in those families, over 54 percent were poor. In 1980, those poverty rates were 35. 7 percent and 51. 9 percent, respectively. • In numbers, poverty among female headed families with children afflicts over 3,000morethanin 1980. Thetotalestimate is now 12,100; 7,200ofthemhave preschoolers. Raren Shepherd Is the editor of Network. 20%-Savings Camel hair separatesclassics for business. From our CORPORATE WOMAN SHOP, 100% camel hair separates combine business s'ense with great looks. The twobutton blazer with flap pockets is a classic, and, teamed with our fully lined matching skirt, will help you make that ever important positive statement. Sizes 6-14. 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Name Address City, State, Zip Home Phone Business Phone ( Arthur Frank) L---------- ------------ ---~ r,. ,Msifo/JWcomoanv Use your Arthur Frank Charge • • American • Visa Cottonwood: 4835 Highland Drive 278-2628 Fashion Place: 6200 South State #6315 262-2964 Crossroad Plaza: 50 South Main 328·0101 16 NETWORR / DECEMBER 1985 Freely given by Terry Tempest Williams n Kathryn Tempest's 75th birthday, she invited her two granddaughters to lunch. She sat across the table from them and matter-of-factly opened her hands. In her right palm was a ruby; in her left, a pearl. Two rings for two granddaughters. As Lynne and I accepted these gifts, our grandmother said, "The Hindus believe at 75, it is time to start giving away." Today I am wearing that ruby ring. As I look at my hand, it is my grandmother's hand I see. The same hand that held mine as a child as we picked up shells, stones and feathers. The same hand that pointed to planets as opposed to stars. And the same hand that still stirs the gravy on Thanksgiving and waves good-bye from the front porch. This ruby ring radiates continuity. My grandmother would tell you she sees this ruby ring on the hand of her mother. The gift must always move. Lewis Hyde, in his book, The Gift - Imagination and the Erotic Life of Property, says, "A gift grows as a result ofits circulation as it moves from hand to hand." When Lawrence Blackett, in the early 1900s, gave Miss Florian Cazier a ruby set in gold, did he forsee its migration from wife to daughter to great-granddaughter? Gifts acknowledge relationships. They are a celel;>ration ofgenerosity and gratitude. Tribal people understand that an offeringfuade on behalfof a particular animal ensures a continued relationship. It is a matter of respect, The Haida who gifts a salmon returns the following year with a full basket of fish. Reciprocity is common law among those who live dose to the land. Thomas Merton recognizes that the begging bowl ofthe Buddha represents a primary religious belief. The right to beg is an openness to the gifts of all beings, a genuine expression of the interdependence oflife. Like a gift, compassion is rooted in relationship. It is empathy based on an awareness of the connectedness of all living things. Marcel Mauss·s classic work on gift exchange, "Essai sur le don, " states that gift economics tend to be marked by three related obligations: the obligation to give, the obligation to receive, and the obligation to reciprocate. To take each one ofthese responsibilities and overlay them on our lives may cause us to re-evaluate our own gifting practices. What do we give? What do we accept? And how do we give it away again? Three years went by before I could take my grandmother's ruby ring to a jeweler to have it sized. Somehow I felt it would be a dangerous thing to do. To change the ring size would acknowledge a change in life. As it was, it fit my grandmother's finger perfectly. The ring was my assurance she would always be. Finally, after getting tired of wrapping band-aids around the back of the ring to avoid slippage, I took it to ajeweler and said, "Make it a•size six, please. This is a precious heirloom." Within the week I received word the ring was ready. Two weeks went by before I could face picking it up. After the third week, I walked into the store. The jeweler unwrapped the newly sized ring and placed it on my finger. It was beautiful. They had also built up the prongs to secure the stone. I examined it from all angles in the light. Suddenly, I noticed a crack in the ruby that ran diagonally from one prong to the next. I was heartsick - not because it was a cracked stone, but because I felt I had been entrusted with a gift. The ring that had survived two World Wars, the depression, the baby boom and rock-and-roll, had not survived my care. I left without saying a word to the jeweler. What could he do? The value was in the sentiment. I called my grandmother and told her what had happened. Could I have missed the crack before? Maybe she was responsible. She couldn't remember. She was so calm and good-natured. Finally she said, "Terry, go with it - the ruby has a crack in it. So what? Life·s not perfect, either. Accept it. See it for what it is - a gift given to you that was given to me that was given to my mother." Lewis Hyde states, "Gifts do not bring us attachment unless they move us. Manners or social pressure may oblige us to those for whom we feel no true affection, but neither obligation nor civility leads to lasting unio~s. It is when someone's gifts stir us that we are brought close, and what moves us, beyond the gift itself, is the promise of transformation, friendship and love." Lynne Ann and I have returned often to that birthday lunch on August 6, 1981. We learned from a woman we love that the art of gift-giving moves the heart and revives the soul. It is a generosity of spirit that reflects the perfections and imperfections of the relationships that make us whole. TenyTempest W'dliams is a Utah naturalist and writerwhose most recent book, Between Cattails, was just published. These are gifts for all those different people in your life. Most of them cost very little; some cost nothing. All of them carry the message that this gift was obtained especially for this particular person. We believe in gifts like that, and we know that lives as busy as yours and ours leave little time for the thinking required to ftnd such treasures. So we have done it for you. Now all you have to do is ftnd the people who match. Gifts for the Naturally-Minded Avalanche Pieps * A supply of surgical masks for your favorite jogger, for use during the January inversion * A 20 lb. bag of birdseed from the Utah Audubon Society * PaulWinter'sCanyonalbum- musicfrom the Grand Canyon * Fireplace ashes (from your hearth) labeled Mt. St. Helen * Buy a prescription of nicotine gum for the smoker who wants to quit, and a bottle ofaspirin for the headaches which are sure to follow * A pair ofLeica binoculars for the bird watcher, - Lynne Ann Tempest and available through 4 7th Street Photo, New Terry Tempest W-dliams York, New York (half price) * A river trip down the Grand Canyon (you can be listening to Paul Winter until it's time to go) * Gifts for the Business-Minded A microscope - you never know where A "Mr. Mike" for the soft-spoken salesperson Giardia may show up * "Pata-Gucci" * An L. L. Bean tote bag for the professional clothing for the "would-be" outdoors person woman who won't give up her purse * ZCMI (commercially recognized as Patagonia) * and Crossroads Mall parking validations for Cedar-soaked kindling available through the those who go shopping when the going gets Orvis catalog * A ''First-Need··water purifier tough* Aday's "A" parking pass at the pump for desert travelers * A Nikon spotting University ofUtah, available through Parking scope for the animal in your life* L. L. Bean Services, $ 1.50 * One ofyour dying boots for the spring thaw inJune * Two houseplants to a person with a green thumb. backpacking pillows for a couple of * A massage for the chronically stressed * hardheads * Forced bloom narcissus bulbs An ant farm - the perfect desk ornament * for a touch ofthe spring in winter* A Yourself as a consultant - on anything * subscription to Ava.faadae Review for the cross country skier * Gifts for the Politically Minded Two tickets to the Wasatch Front Lecture Series available through the Utah Museum of Natural History.January 9 through February 28 - a nice opportunity to find out the low-down on where you live* Ayear's subscription to National Geographic, $15. Good bathtub reading* A membership to Canyonlands Field Institute, a non-profit educational adventure organization, P. 0 . Box 68, Moab, Utah 84532 * A Ms. (or Network) subscription for those who continue to ding to the dated philosophy of ''Chauvinism··*A box of parking meter change for the ticket outlaw you know best* Feed a bird for a year through the Sabini Seacoast Sanctuary: $10 to feed a pelican, $5 to feed a great blue heron, and $2 to feed a herring gull (these gifts are tax deductible) * A Leveler dusting coupon to a friend* Gifts for the Family-Minded Two tickets to the ONLY form ofbirth control in Provo - Ramses II* Self-addressed, stamped envelopes * A gift certificate for a real McDLT at McDonald's * Volunteer your children * A membership to the Museum of Natural History for a discount on dinosaur paraphernalia including dinosaur cookie cutters, backpacks, stickers and models * A night at Eller's Bed and Breakfast, 164 South 900 East, $35 a night for two * Gifts for the Artistically-Minded An old relegated-to-the-attic typewriter to the aspiring novelist * Water color lessons for the closet artist * a harmonica * A Paris Hottman Christmas tree ornament * Finger paints * Gifts for the Soclal1y M.lad.ed A gift certificate to celestial bodies for the telestial figure* An evening ice-skating date at Triad Rockefeller and a dinner at the Guadalupe Center * Personalized license plates * A membership to the Cinema Club at the Blue Mouse for guaranteed intimate evenings where unexpected things happen * Two tickets to Network's Optimist's Ball, February 2, New Yorker Cafe * APhoenix Center Assertion Workbook for the meek in spirit * A cock-eyed pair ofVuarnets for the Sugarhouse Park skier * An earring that has lost its mate to one ofthose pals who adorn their ears asymmetrically * A dinner for two coupon at Crompton 's where entertainment is provided by the Buckle Busters * Gifts for the Spiritually-Minded An astrological chart reading by Ann Kreilkamp, [phone], a renowned Jackson Hole astrologer, for the star gazer, $65 * A celestron from Hansen Planetarium - to make sure you don't miss Halley's Comet * A B-12 shot or bottle of potassium for the lethargic overachiever * A dream journal for those who live nocturnally * A Zuni fetish from Tipi Gallery to keep one safe * Sand-casted Soleri chimes from The Nature Company * Homemade candles * for the desperate shopper we recommend a trip to Allied War Surplus - if they don't have it, you don't need it. Critic's gift choice: Give a gift with roots. Sponsor a tree in Africa through the Green Belt Movement, a project founded by the National Council of Kenya Women and co-sponsored by Western Women Unlimited. Each tree is $11, 4880 South 2870 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84117. DECEMBER1985/NETWORR17 Good deserves D.B. Cooper's . . . and Harvey's GIVE THE UTAH SYMPHONY FOR C H R I ST MA· S 1986 SEASON 2GIFf PASSES Admissions) & (4 GIFf PASS Single Album or Good for 2Admissions J~t\t Tape of Your Choice YouF choice of Utah Symphony concerts at Symphony Hall, January 10 through April 19. Twenty concerts to choose from$15 to $21 seats! Each pass may be used by one person for two concerts or by two persons for the same concert. GKSL ~STV Nine-concert Season Ticket: $96, $123 or $153 Includes a bonus balcony seat to the 5,000th concert with Leontyne Price. 11ft MDIO IIW._nc,o • Available at the Symphony Hall Box Office. 533-6407 Mail Orders: 123 West South Temple. S.L.C. UT 84101 • HOLIDAYS ARE FOR THE BIRDS ~ "~: Prior to 1621, fowl in general and turkey in particular were relatively unknown in America. For one thing, there were considerably fewer Americans then, and for another, even fewer neighborhood markets. Now, despite a notable increase in Americans (and turkeys), the neighborhood market is as scarce as hen's teeth in some places. Except on 2nd Avenue and 9th and 9th, where, in a time-honored tradition, Ernie stocks his shelves with provisions that would d9 an American proud. He's got just- • picked produce and naturally-fed beef and poultry fresh off the farm. once again why the holidays really Not to mention the cafe that serves are for the birds. wholesome hot dishes for lunch And one more thing. Don't forget and dinner as good as hometo give thanks for the little neighcooked. borhood market. After lunch, talk to Ernie. He will help you order a turkey or just restock your fridge. But most of all, ~he will help you find food so fresh and fowl so good you will know con Avenue 5-7401 8 South 900 East 359-7913 18 NETWORK/ DECEMBER 1985 ASSESS YOUR STRESS The. truth is out. We create our own stress aGd it's making us sick. by Susan Lyman H ave you ever taken less than your these characteristics on mental and physical allotted number ofvacation days in health. the past three years? Do you believe Personal characteristics which affect the that a retired person should be free of all way people handle stress include their taxes? Have you recently been divorced? self-esteem level and their orientation to These questions may seem unrelated. home or job (home-oriented people don't Actually they have one common factor: feel as much stress at work as job-oriented answers to them can predict whether you people, but both feel it ifthere is stress at may become ill. Factors such as your ability home). Another important personal to let go ofwork problems, your philosophy characteristic is personality type. Type A oflife, and the number oflife crises you personalities suffer more than Type B experience in a short period oftime - all personalities. these disparate pieces ofyour life, when Almost to a woman, the UAWBO combined, form a picture ofthe wayyou members who took the test revealed handle stress. Ultimately, the way you handle themselves as Type A personalities. That stress determines how healthy you are, means they are energetic, successful and physically and mentally. also, to varying degrees, competitive. They According to Dr. Martin Chemers, urgently feel time passing. They have a professor of psychology at the University of strong need for control. A Type B personality, Utah, a lot of stress is self-induced, ''We need on the other hand, is less likely to create or to start looking at ways we bring it on /" feel stress on the job. She tends to be less ourselves,··he says. Recently Chemers has competitive, more relaxed, and can tolerate been trying to determine a reliable method more ambiguity. for predicting which people are likely to Another personal characteristic which develop stress-related illnesses. The goal, of determines stress level is whether the person course, is to warn them so that they can is psychologically hardy. Hardiness is change their lifestyles before it's too late. measured according to the person's attitude At the request of some members of the toward change. Someone who views change Utah Association ofWomen Business as a challenge rather than a threat, who Owners (UAWBO), Cherners and his becomes involved in work, who feels that associates developed a one-hour test she has control over her life, will not feel as specifically to help women determine the much stress as a nonhardy person who fights level ofstress in their lives. More than 50 change, resents the unpredictable, and hates members ofUAWBO filled out the survey. At ambiguity. UAWBO's annual conference in Park City, In measuring the effects of life situation Chemers gave each participant her test on stress, Chemers' test measured two results and spoke to the group about the factors: the number of recent life experiences factors that contribute to stress. and the effectiveness ofthe person's social When Nancy Bell, owner ofM&M Dry support system. The UAWBO members Cleaners, read the results of her survey, she reported that they had plenty of social found about what she expected. As she support - most claimed many friends and comments on the findings, the clear urgency membership in several professional in her voice reveals her wish to get back to organizations. Many were surprised to learn, work: "I feel that women, and especially however, that the availability of many friends women business owners, have complicated doesn't necessarily alleviate stress. Rather, and stressful lives," she says. "Ifyou are the type ofinteraction is the critical factor. married, you have more support, but you Dozens of casual friends may, in fact, cause also have another complex relationship to stress, whereas access to one friend, or a work on. On the other hand, ifyou are a few, with whom a person can discuss single mother, as I am, you have all the problems, can offer a positive outlet. responsibilities ofyour home as well as your The last section of Cherners' test showed business. " the UAWBO members what effects theywere Bell's stress score was double what already experiencing as a result of stress. Chemers had identified as average. Bell Chemers did not talk about techniques for acknowledges her stress level: "I know I will stress relief. Rather, he advised each woman always have my fingers in 10 pies at once. to look at her score on the Langner That is just the way I am." What was new for psychological test and the symptoms and BeII was that the survey and the analysis by illnesses test and decide for herself what Chemers made her look at herself and her action to take. "Most of the women were stress level. " It took someone else telling me suffering from at least some psychological about myself, to really get me to listen," she distress," he told the group, emphasizing that says. "Dr. Chemers was right. I-need more "Negative effects on your bodies frornjoyful time to relax and more time for stress - such as falling in love, or planning .entertainment." your daughter's wedding - can be just as In previous studies Cherners had found harmful as negative stress is." that people whose level of control over their Recognition was positive for most ofthe lives was less than their need for control were women involved in the test. Leana sick more often than average. Women Christison, owner ofWhite Glove business owners, as a group, say there are Housecleaning, is the youngest member of many factors in their jobs over which they UAWBO. She learned, through the survey, have no control. As a result, they report that she experiences very high levels of slightly more psychological stress and have a stress . .. Although I basically already knew slightly higher incidence of illness than the that I am high strung, the conference was national average. "But, " Chemers told the very worthwhile, " she says. "Dr. Chemers UAWBO group, "this may be a sex-related didn't give us specific suggestions on what to phenomenon, rather than a job-related do, but I thought about it and realized that I phenomenon. Men are less likely than was taking on too much of the work myself. I women to recognize and report their feelings was dbing all the planning, ordering of ofanxiety or depression." supplies, and promotion of the business, and Chemers' test is divided into three parts: it I was also working as a cleaner. Now I have measures personal characteristics, decided to just stick to the management and situational characteristics, and the effects of have hired some more housecleaners. " Ifwomen business owners are under a special kind of stress, then so are single mothers. A few weeks after Chemers spoke to UAWBO, HelaneLeta, executivedirectorof Jewish Family Services, administered a • portion ofthe same test (see box) to a group of single parents meeting at theJewish Community Center. The results were startling. Single mothers, Leta explains, are more apt to feel long-term stress than short-term stress, and long-term stress, according to Leta, is more damaging. ''With short-term stress, the body responds with increased adrenalin and is ready for action. When the moment of stress passes, there is a compensatory pe'riod of relaxation. People who are under long-term stress never get that period of relaxation. They feel the results in the cardiovascular system, the digestive tract, or the immune system. " Leta explains, "I believe that each ofus has a predisposition to illness in a certain system ofthe body. It might be that you are susceptible to psychological or'mental disorders, or you might become accident prone, or develop tension headaches." The key to countering stress, according to Leta, is self-knowledge and timely action. "You need to let your body give you the cue, and then you need to take specific steps to intervene before you become ill." Ignoring the signals can be fatal. Stressprovoked illnesses snowball. This was startling news for most ofthe recentlydivorced mothers in Leta's group, who recognized that the stress they experience at home and in their relationships with their former spouses is greater than that which they feel at work. Like Cherners, Leta doesn't give specific recipes for relieving stress. She does help women in her class determine whether the stress they feel comes from personal, interpersonal, or environmental sources. To determine this, each woman draws a floor plan of her home and office, and then puts an X over the spots where she feels the most stress. For some women, the kitchen is a stressful place - there is tension during mealtimes with the children. Others report stress at the location ofthe telephone; often, they dread phone calls from lawyers or creditors. Leta advises people who are under personal stress to try relaxation exercises, exercise, or psychotherapy. For those struggling with interpersonal stress, Leta notes that assertiveness training or communication classes can help. And if environmental or organizational problems are causing stress, goal setting or time management classes can help. No single answer serves in all situations, and sometimes remedies that feel good don't do much to prevent more stress and pain. Leta says, 'Jogging is fine, but sometimes it's the only thing people can think ofto do to relieve anxiety. And ifyour basic problem is with communication, jogging won't solve a thing." The best advice is still to work on self-knowledge and appropriate action: "The more you can learn about what caus'es stress, the better you will be able to find solutions to your problems." Susan Lyman is a past Webster Publishing editor who is now a feature writer for the Deseret News. TESTYOUR STRESS Circle the events that have affected you in the last year. Next, add up the points you have circled. Then go to the chart below and find out just how high your stress level is. EVENT POINTS Spouse's death Divorce Separation Longjail term Cose family member's death Personal iajury, Illness Fired from work Marital recondllation Retirement Change in family's health Pregnancy Sex problems Family addition Business changes Financial changes Cose friend's death Changingjobs Increase in marital arguments Loan over $10,000 Mortgage foredosure Cb.ild leaving .home Great personal success Spouse bealns or stops workint Startmaorl'llmhlaiachool Trouble with bou Chante in working condltlom New home or school New recreation or church activities Loan under $10,000 New sleepinl or eating habits Vacation Christmas season Minor law violation 100 73 63 63 63 53 47 45 45 44 40 39 39 39 38 37 36 36 31 30 29 28 26 26 23 20 19 19 17 16 13 12 11 SCORING 0-75: Nothing to worry about. There's little chance stress will make you sick. 76-150: Take it a little easier, but don't worry. Only 4 percent of people in this category get sick from stress. 150-200: Light danger zone. Calm down: 9 percent of this group suffer stress-related illnesses. 200-250: You 're in a moderate danger zone; 20 percent ofthis group suffer from stress. 250-300: Danger zone. Have your blood pressure checked. About 30 percent of people in this group get sick from stress. JOOandup: Extreme danger. Over half of the people in this group suffer stress-induced illnesses. Have a complete medical examination, with the emphasis on stress-related problems. Holmes and Rahe, "The Social Readjustment Rating Scale,"Journal of Psychosomatic Research, 2 (1967); pp. 213- 18. DECEMBER198SiNETWORR19 AND MARE YOUR PLAN WORKTIME PLAYTIME IF ... MAYBE YOU NEED ... you feel you don't have much control over your life or your situation at work a chance to be in charge. Instead of team activities, get involved in something where you can develop the rules, the time schedule, etc. you work under direct supervision an activity where no one will be judging your performance. you work under deadline pressures a chance to forget about the clock. Choose an activity that you can do at your own pace and can finish in your own time. your job is repetitive and routine a mental and creative challenge. Choose an activity that will start you thinking, concentrating, and exercising your creativity. you work with machines to get out and rediscover the joys of being with other people, animals, and nature. you work as a member of a team time alone. Whatever you do, don'tjoin another team! you work mostly alone more social contact. Choose an activity that you can do with others. you feel you aren't doing anything for anybody else to do some giving. Spend time with those who appreciate your caring. you feel you spend too much time caring for others a chance to be selfish. Give yourself permission to do somethingjust for yourself. Don't feel you have to apologize or explain. your life or work seems dull and unchallenging adventure! You don't have to take up sky-diving to find adventure; consider trying fencing, backpacking, or something you've never tackled before. you feel that life is too stimulating an activity that is easy-going, predictable, solitary, and quiet. you work under a great deal of pressure a chance to "blow off steam." Physical activities (team or individual) are ideal for this. your work shows nothing tangible for your efforts the pleasure of making something from start to finish which can be displayed, used, or worn. your work offers you no opportunity to be creative a means of self-expression that will tap your unique creativity. your work involves a great deal of mental activity an activity that requires no concentration or thought. you feel like a failure in your work or personal life to do something that you bow you can do.and do well. (Keep your goals small and be a perfectionist in achieving these goals.) your work requires a great deal of reading an activity that requires no reading: "right side of the brain" (visual, creative) stuff. your work with your hands an activity that can involve your whole body. your work requires heavy physical labor an activity where you can work with your hands and/or mind. you work outside to play inside whenever you can. you work inside to play outside whenever you can. you have to wear a uniform on the job an activity where no uniform is required; i.e., avoid team sports. you feel your work has tremendous social value an activity thatJhas absolutely no redeeming social value. your work requires perfection and accuracy to choose an activity where you can dress sloppily and think sloppily. Reprinted with permission from The Hope Newsletter, published by the Bob Hope Heart Institute. Phoenix Institute is Moving. Move With Us! 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So the sound of a telephone can ring out in your new home. 1 For the way you live. @) Mountain Bell 1 DECEMBER1985/NETWORR21 NETWORK'S Ogden d_ebut In a wonderful coming together of old friends and new, Network's Ogden party signaled an auspicious beginning. Photo: Kory Yelderman by Anne Velderman E very story has a beginning, some more historical than others. And now, aftermanyyears of struggle, Ogden has finally dispelled its long-time image as Salt Lake City's "Ugly Llttle Sister... The long-awaited recognition came with the unrestrained enthusiasm of a debutante. It happened at Network's Ogden Party. Launching Network's expansion northward to Ogden, festivities buzzed at the posh new Bistro 1900 restaurant. It was to be Ogden·s own Optimists· Ball, with the same spirit and • style of Salt Lake·s storied Optimists· Ball of January, 1985. The heady combination ofwine and friendship stimulated those present to inspire and be inspired. A gratifying variety ofpeople came: businesswomen, and homemakers, as well as husbands and other adventurous men. Guest speaker Frances Farley declared that as women, we are making great strides, though there are still many goals yet to be achieved. She reminded the Ogden subscribers that it will take women supporting women and women mentoring women to make additional progress. Elouise BeII, sick in bed and absent from the celebration, was greatly missed. We toasted her speedy restoration to health. (It worked.) Karen Shepherd, Network editor, recited the 8-year-old story ofNetwork's beginning and slow, steady growth. The new Ogden section ofthe magazine, affirms Shepherd, is a definite sign of growth and an expansion of editorial and advertising attention northward. (The Ogden consensus is-, "It's about time!") • Shepherd introduced Network staffers from Salt Lake City and the two new staffpeople from Ogden: Marjorie Hilton, the Ogden area advertising representative, and me, Ann Yelderman, Ogden correspondent/editor. All stories must end, and some end happily. This one ends with a happy, hearty IEIIER Sim T1B11E Presents A World Premiere mon's etreat A New Play by William Waxman December 5,6,7,11,12,13,14 8:00p.m. Allred Theatre The Val A. Browning Center for the Performing Arts Call 626-6618 $4.00 Adults $3.50 Student, Child, Sr. Citizen $1 WSC Student, Dec. 11, Only welcome to the new Network subscribers. Now, don't miss out on the Optimists' Ball in Salt Lake City on February 2. (That's Ground Hog Day!) There we can meet again, old friends and new, from Ogden and from (ahem) points south, together in Network. It is, truly, about time. Old friends and new met at the Bistro 1900 for an aftemoon ofwarmth and laughter. Look what I found at Bohm-Allen! Give her more than a gift, give her Mikimoto. The finest name in cultured pearls. Specially priced. 7" bracelet: $395. 22" necklace: $995. Escape from housekeeping Can be yourkey to free time bohm-allen Fi,w JeuXJlers Since 1879 '• ... , .. •·· Ogden City Mall [phone] • Salt Lake City Use one of our convenient charge plans or American EX'J)ress, VISA or MasterCard. 22 NETWORK / :PECEMBER 1985 0 • G • ' D • E_• N T:r ying on careers The future is theirs if they know it and plan for it and grab it. Women who have succeeded in non-traditional careers show high school girls the way. by Barbara Bernstein L ifting a fat test tube of dear liquid from anicebucket, Diane Home, Ph.D., assistant professor of microbiology at Weber State College, stirs it with a long glass rod. Eght young women watch wide-eyed as, within the fluid, a fiber begins to form, clear as a jellyfish tentacle. Soon more strands appear, seemingly out ofnowhere, as she whisks the solution. Then with a sudden flip ofherwrist, she draws the rod out and holds it up, dripping with strands of DNA. the substance that determines, within every cell, the form its life will take. Home is demonstrating what life is all about, from its basic proteins to its professional possibilities for women. Her audience is drawn from among several hundred teenage girls attending the November 9 "Expanding Your Horizons" conference at Weber State College (WSC). Home is one of 54women in scientific and mathematical professions who presented hands-on workshops at the conference, which is sponsored annually by the Utah Math/Science·Network, an organization ofwomen in non-traditional scientific jobs. Diane Bowden, a quality assurance technician at TRW Corporation and co-chair of the conference, says the event drew 500 girls from Ogden, Weber, Davis and Morgan school districts and several local private schools. Similar conferences conducted in Salt Lake City since 1980 provided the impetus for several regional conferences, including the one in Ogden. Each young woman attending the Ogden conference chose three presentations out of the 50 offered. Presentations included "There's More to Chemical Engineering Thanjust Making Gas·," taught by Sue Schultze, process engineer at Western Zirconium, ''Everything You Always Wanted to Ask a Psychologist But Didn't Want to Pay $60 an Hour For," by Margaret Hatch, clinical psychologist at McKay-Dee Hospital in Ogden, and "Don't Get Down In The Mouth Over the Thought ofBecoming a Dentist," by Lea W. Erickson, DDS. Other sessions included presentations on quality engineering, chemistry, computer graphics and computer programming, geology (Network stockholder Genevieve Atwood presenting), statistics, dental hygiene, anthropology, pharmacy, welding, law, accounting, electronics, and the building trades. "We realize that young women need to have more math and science in school, because without this background a I~t of careers will be closed to them," says Marilyn 0 'Dell, an agricultural economist in the U.S. Department ofAgriculture Soil Conservation Service and co-chair of the conference. "Most of us had bad experiences with math and science in school. People discouraged us from excelling. All of us volunteered for this conference because we think it·s important for young women to have this solid background." The girls themselves formed human graphs during the opening session in a demonstration prepared by Pat Case, an engineer at Western Zirconium and Marie Kotter, assistant vice president for academic support and academic affairs at WSC. The human graphs provided vivid data about the prospects ofworking women. Narrator Robert Smith, WSC's academic vice president, asked those with particular colors of conference name tags, or combinations of colors, to stand. (The colors were pre-selected to provide appropriate fractions of those present.) When approximately one-fifth of the girls were standing, Smith explained that in Utah, only one family in five is "traditional" - fatherworking, mother at home. When half ofthose present were standing, Smith said that they represented the 54 percent ofUtah women now working or looking for work. ''A woman of20 faces the prospect ofworking for half her life or more. The human graph dramatized other factors: the quadrupling ofthe number of working mothers between 1950 and 1983, and the 56 percent ofwomen in Utah who work because their families are in poverty. Sixty percent of the young women stood to represent the waitresses, typists, sales clerks and beauticians who make $8,000 or less per year. Forty percent ofthe young women stood up to show dramatically.that almost half ofthe households headed by women are below the poverty line. They remained standing to illustrate that almost half of divorced women with children who have been granted child support don't receive it. Smith also noted that in the 1980s, a woman college graduate is still paid less than Diane Home, Ph.D., assistant professor of microbiology at Weber State College, adds a dollop of chemical to conference participants' dental plaque germs. The concoction went home with the high school girl so she could grow something smelly and interesting. a man with a 7th-grade education, and went on to list Utah's highest-payingjobs for women: physician, dentist, lawyer,judge, college teacher, transportation expert (such as pilot), manager, engineer, architect, computer expert, and natural scientist. The young women got an opportunity to ask questions of eight women in high-paying professions during an open panel discussion called "What is it like out there?" The panelists told the girls - whether as students or potential teachers - to expect the cruellest sex discrimination on college campuses. When she was a college calculus teacher, TRW engineerJane Pack said, she had to struggle to overcome - every term, over and over again - the negative attitude of the students in her classes. Pack recommended that girls think hard before choosing a major in college, urging them to choose something useful. College students don't have to declare a major for several years, and they may change majors as their interests expand, several panelists said. Arl~igh Peterson, a senior engineer for Morton Thiokol, advised taking a variety of classes - especially English. "A lot of people go into engineering because they hate English," she said, "but later they learn that writing is a big part ofan engineering job. " Carol Martin, a project manager for TRW, stressed that high school is the ticket to college. "Ifyou go for all the easy classes in high school, you won't have time to enjoy college." The panel did not consider perfect grades a prerequisite to non-traditional success. Nancy Crossen was never in the honor society in high school, and it did not hamper her ability to obtain college scholarships. Pack said she did not get good grades in math, and never had a four-point average. Yet she earned a master's degree in mathematics because she was interested in math and always enrolled in classes that challenged her. She advises students to not allow counselors and interest tests to tum them away from fields that interest them. Carrie Monaco, a fabrication engineer at Western Zirconium, cautioned young women that aptitude tests "aren't telling you that you can't become something." Monaco's own high school aptitude tests indicated that she should go into home economics, but she followed her greater interest into engineering. Undergraduate study provides· 'a good MARQUARDT, ~SENYAGER & COSTEN ATTORNEYS AT LAW 2261 Washington Boulevard Ogden, Utah 84401 [phone] Practice focused on personal injury cases. Other legal services available. At the Radisson Hotel Donna Phillips • Jane A. Marquardt • James Hasenyager • • Martin Custen • Pauline McNeely 2510 WASHINGTON BOULEVARD• OGDEN. UTAH 84401 • [phone] DECEMBER1985/NETWORR23 four years to explore," said Anita Ross, M.D., who is finishing her medical training at McKay-Dee Hospital. She entered medical school with a liberal arts degree and relied on her high school science background to help her prepare for medical school. For students struggling with math, Carol Martin recommends taking a logic class. ''Basic logic teaches you how to think in an orderly fashion," she said. At the high school level.Jane Pack added, "the equivalent of logic is debate. It is time-consuming, but debate is a good tool because it teaches you how to recognize when something doesn't make sense, and how to say so." Doing well on national tests such as the ACT, SATs and the Merit Scholarship exams can help a student whose high school grades are not spectacular, said Arleigh Peterson. Panelists also pointed out that scholarships are available to many students, and notjust those with high grades or athletic skills. (See "Cash for College," Network, November, 1985.) Dr. Ross advised girls to be aware ofthe implications oftheir choices: women in college and professions should consider how the time they may take to have children will affect their careers. Some women have children early and are ready to play and work at 40. Some prefer to finish their educations and embark on their careers before having children. Some elect not to have children at all. "This is a totaIIy individual decision, ·· Dr. Ross said. Do professional wom en have time for families? Dr. Erickson, mother offour, says, "It's like being ajuggler. There are always balls in the air. From 8 a.m. until 5 p.m. I'm Dr. Erickson - not Mrs. Erickson, and not anybody's Mom. Then at six I'm home, and it's family time." All of the panelists agreed that it takes creativity and planning to be a successful working mother. The best news from the conference presenters was that women with math and science training have an advantage, even over men with similar training. •• Companies are under pressure to hire women," said Peterson. "Promotions are coming faster for me and women like me than they are for men," Carol Martin agreed. "If you do as good a job as a man, you have an advantage, because defense· contractors especially have to be careful not to discriminate. When you're in the minority you're more visible. Remember: there are hundreds ofjob opportunities out there. " Many students, like Emily Fisher a_n d Eowun Lindsay, eighth-graders from CentervilleJunior High School, said they will definitely attend future conferences. Macie Wolfe, in her first year as a science teacher at Mt. Ogden Middle School. said that she encouraged all the girls in her science classes to come. "Encouraged?" Tracy Knight, one of Wolfe's honor science students (she plans on a m edical career), told the other side of the story: ''You told us we'd be dead ifwe didn 't come! '' Wolfe smiled and admitted only that she will provide optional extra credit for those who report on the workshops they attended. Other teachers and some parents attenqed, and most participated in the panel discussion, "Help Her Make Her Best Decision, " moderated by Ron Gebhardt of Williams International Corporation ·s personnel department. Gebhardt stressed that educators and parents must encourage girls to pursue science and math in school so that they will have a chance at goodjobs., Job Service counselor Portia Miles attended the conference, but not in her professional capacity. "I came as 'proof of the pudding,'" she said. "Our daughters can do it; Ijust want people to know that." Portia, widowed at 34 with four daughters, says "I have seen what women face. I also realized when my husband died that my income would be only one-fifth to one-fourth ofwhat it had been. I have advocated affirmative action ever since. " Her four daughters are all college graduates employed in non-traditional jobs. Michelle Feldman, a sophomore at Ben Lomond High School, stepped carefully on the slushy campus sidewalk as she left the conference. She carried two round glass Petri dishes containing sterile nutrient solution. She remembered Dr. Home telling her to look for" something smelly and interesting" to incubate. "Gee," Michelle mused. "this could be the start of a great career.·· Barbara Bernstein is a freelance writer from Ogden. o,,,Jen SaJmpltonJJ/Balltl Msocialian *' at Ogden's * NEW YEAR'S PLACE * Lavish dinner buffet featuring: Prime Rib • Turkey· Seafood • Chicken and a// the trimmings • Party favors • Dancing to the music qf PORTRAIT-9pm ti/ '86 • Free setups • Salute midnight with a free bubbly toast • Hors d'oeuvre all evening J *Prices are per person, plus tax and gratuity \IO{lllii1~ :f1~ .(t21:ii,:fj~:€i~1 ·'{!)r ., .r. _ ,.. ,l~<i!J , . ,I~ _,-t~ ~ With Utah Symphony Artistic Director-John Hart Choreography: William F. Chri1ten11n. "Make a night of it!" Deluxe room for two only $34.95 plus tax Friday, January 3, 1986 7:00 P.M. Saturday, January 4, 1986 2:00 P.M. & 7:00 P.M. Val A. Browning Center for the Performing Arts Weber State College . Promontory Center• Reserve today• 627-1190 THE OGDEN SYMPHONY BALLET ASSOCIATION 2580 Jefferson Avenue, Ogden, Utah 84401 Phone [phone] Tickets also available through Oatatix-ZCMI/WSC Recording & Tapes of the Utah Symphony' a Nutcracker alao on sale at the office ALL TICKETS MUST BE PAID IN ADVf1NCE, NO REFUNDS OGDEN HILTON 247 24th Street ][ . 24 NETWORR / DECEMBER 1985 by Patty Kimball ml ith the exception of one or two hardened Scrooges, most of us are decidedly generous at this time ofyear. And not just within our own circles of family and friends. More than at any other time, we reach out at the holidays to aid our fellow people - a happy fact for the public and private agencies who struggle all year, especially during these deficit reduction days, to help those in need. One such agency is the Salt Lake Food Bank, the distribution center for the area·s emergency food pantries. Ifthis year is like • the last, 17 tons ofholiday generosity in the form of canned and packaged food, fresh fruit, and vegetables will find its way from the hefty grocery baskets ofthe well-fed to the otherwise meagerly stocked tables of the hungry. And if the public's response is like last year's, the Salt Lake Tri~e Sub for Santa and the Marine Corps· Toys for Tots ·Nill spread the magic of the season to at least 1,600 families who otherwise would have greeted the day as any other cold winter morning. Another agency is the Voluntary Action Center which, in an attempt to organize this seasonal outpouring oflove, publishes a holiday catalog of sorts, the Christmas W"ash Book. For those individuals or groups looking to spend time or money on the less fortunate, the W"ash Book is a convenient way to find what your wallet and schedule can accommodate. We hope Network readers count themselves among those who will continue to spread the holiday spirit this year to those who could really use it. A few possibilities from the Wish Book plus some ofour own suggestions follow. Should one ofthese appeal to you, the Voluntary Action Center advises that you telephone in advance the contact person listed to make arrangements for your gift. Unlike a lot of holiday catalog shopping, this time there will be no problem with backorders, and you can be assured that whatever you choose will be truly appreciated. The gifts that keep on giving If the self-indulgence of the holidays gets you down, giving to non-profit agencies is a way to compound your good will. Children's Aid Sodety ofUtah 652 26th Street, Ogden, Utah 84404 Contact: Lynne Goodwin, 393-8671 in Ogden or 533-5558 in SLC Clients: adoptive parents, pregnant young women, babies and children who will be adopted. Maternity clothes, baby clothes (infant and toddler) Sponsor for children awaiting permanent homes - $250 commitment Film strip projector for education program Baby blankets Toys for children Character generator for VCR camera YWCA of Ogden/Northern Utah 505 27th Street Contact: Gaye Llttleton at 394-9456 Funds for new facility Books Llnens - twin sheets, towels, pillows Educational toys Beepers for rape crisis counselors Canned food, coffee Office equipment Christmas sponsors willing to buy gifts St . .Anne's Center 2763 Lincoln Avenue, Ogden Contact: Doug Sliger, 621-5036 Clients: low-income families Cash donations socks, handkerchiefs toothbrush and toothpaste Salvation Army 2615 Grant Av~Hlue, Ogden Contact: Captain Williams Clients: poor families, hungry, senior citizens Cash donations canned foods New or good toys Sponsors for families DECK THE Deck your home with charming gifts from our novel collection at Trends & Traditions. Sinterklaas is sure to enhance any home and spread yuletide ~pirit during this special sea, son. Father Christmas is a hand,-carved and hand,painted adornment in the old,world tradition of northern European countries. If you're looking for a unique holiday gift of this type, chances are you'll find it only at Trends & Traditions. Shopping hours: Mon., Sat., 10:00 to 5:30. 2487 Grant Avenue Ogden, Utah 84401 [phone] Where fine holiday gift giving knows no bounds. Red Cross 1961 Washington Blvd., Ogden Contact: Bea Sherfy, 627-3533 Clients: families who have lost belongings in fires recently. Food for food baskets New clothes Healthy blood donors Share • Contact: Naomi Bender Clients: families and senior citizens needing food assistance Money contributions Volunteers Crossroads Urban Center 34 7 South 400 East Salt Lake City, Utah84111 Contact:JeffFox, 364-7765 Clients: very poor people, especially families. Frozen turkeys for holiday food boxes. Empty quart bottles for canning projects. Agardentiller. Volunteers to help in community gardens during the summer months. Children's clothing in good condition, especially warm sweaters, winter coats, pants, shoes, underwear, and socks. Intennountain Sexual Abuse Center 3839 South West Temple Salt Lake City, Utah84115 Contact: Bobi Bench, 266-9949 Clients: sexually abused children and their families. Children's books. Blocks, crayons and coloring books. Tape recorder. Chairs or couches for therapy rooms. Family Support Center 2020 Lake Street Salt Lake City, Utah84105 Contact: Nancy Souder, 487-7778 Clients: primarily low-income, single parents and their children at risk ofabuse by their caretakers. Volunteers. A color 1V for the crisis nursery. Socks and underwear for little boys. Wooden puzzles. Disposable diapers. Children's clothing. Shoes for 11-and 12-year-oldgirls. Craft materials for use in play therapy. Crib sheets and blankets. A queen-size bedspread for houseparents. Towels in browns, golds, and pinks. The Gifts That Keep on Giving contmua on pate 30 FRESH, adj. - NEWLY MADE, PRODUCED, GATHERED, GROWN, ETC. tit Bistro 1900 RESTAURANT FRESH INGREDIENTS PREPARED WITH SIMPLICITY AND STYLE LONCHMON. - FRl.11:30AM DINNER MON. - SAT. 5:00 PM 258 25TH ST., OGDEN RESERVATIONS 399-3709 Toar One-Stop Book Shop WISEBIRD BOOKERY Browse A Real Boolustore SPECIAL ORDERS OUR SPECIALTY - - - - - - - - • SUPERB CHILDREN'S SECTION • COMPt.m LDS SECTION • MANY OTHER WELL STOCKED SECTIONS FROM AUTOBIOGRAPHY TO SCIENCE FICTION GIRS / GREETING CARDS/ NOVELTIES GOLD STAMPING & WRAPPING HOURS 1M MON· SAT --------1111111 AT CEDAR VIUAGE 479-1490 OR 479-8880 4158 HARRISON BlVD. DECEMBER1985/NETWORR25 by Frances Farley Pretty political I 'm glad I'm not pretty. Really. WatchingJesseJacksonin Geneva with the peace group made me realize that he has a serious handicap. He's pretty. How else can one explain why Bill Moyers was so rotten when he editorialized about him on CBS News? , Here'sJackson, acting as spokesman for the group ofpeace activists who made the trip to Geneva to personally encourage both Gorbachev and Reagan to work hard for an end to the arms race and a ban on nuclear explosions. Reagan wouldn't see them. Gorbachev did. I know why those folks chose Jackson as their spokesman. They knew they'd have coverage if]ackson faced the cameras. Moyers hints thatJackson is an opportunist, undermining our country. Even thoughJackson asked direct questions of Gorbachev about the persecution of Soviet Jews, I guess nothing he said would have satisfied Moyers. I like Bill Moyers. I think he is a good newsman, and one of our most thoughtful journalists. I admired his humility when he reported on his hometown in the Deep South and described it as really two towns, one black and one white. He said he didn't know that when he was growing up but he knows it now. But there he was, sneering when he talked aboutJesseJackson. I know it is hard for media people not to be cynical about anyone who performs as well for the cameras as Jackson does. When a public person is smooth, has facility with the language, and is able to state positions clearly and quickly, choosing colorful words, media people are inclined to think it·s an act. But see.Jackson is a contemporary of the ten-second interview on television news. He knows how powerful television is and how little time he has to make his point. In an interview on the same show, Dan Rather asked him something like this, Do you think it is really appropriate for you to have come over here and muddied the water and butted in during the Summit?Jackson said, "Ifnot here, where?lfnotnow, when?"That'sonly eight words. Besides that, he's pretty. Not dainty pretty, because he's a big man, a strong man, a masculine man. I know that from personal experience. One day in, 1972 atthe National Democratic Convention in Miami.Jesse Jackson picked me up in his arms, whirled me in a circle and set me down in my chair. He's big, and he's strong, and he's gorgeous. As part ofthe Utah delegation to the convention, I was sitting in the front row of the convention hall whenJackson came striding by. He stepped on my foot. In mock ecstacy, I squealed, "JesseJacksonjust stepped on my foot." He heard me, swung around, and made my day. But how can Bill Moyers, who is not pretty, see any value inJesseJackson? He knows perfectly well that any man so beautifully put together cannot possibly be taken seriously. • So I'm glad I'm not pretty. Oh, it's okay to be attractive or striking-looking, or • interesting-looking, but pretty is hard to overcome ifyou 're out to compete for power with the big boys. Frances Farley is a stateswoman by trade and ajoumalist by acddent. by Cynthia Orr Men are ... Women are ... What's the Difference? How Men and Women Compare, byJane Barr Stump (Morrow, 1985, $12.95). O f course, weallknowtheobvious differences between men and women, and we know some ofthe less obvious but still well publicized ones, like the fact that the average college educated woman earns less than the average grade school educated man. The author of this new book, though, has combed through many sources, most published since 1975, to come up with a synopsis of data available on the physiological and social differences between American women and men. A disclaimer in the foreword says that many ofthe findings quoted are contestable, and some even contradict each other. Nevertheless, it's fun. Here are some favorites drawn randomly from the alphabetical listings. • There is a close relationship between IQ and accomplishment in men. There is no relationship between IQ and accomplishment in women. • Onlyonein lOhusbandswillstaywith ' an alcoholic wife. Nine out of 10 wives stay with an alcoholic husband. • Seventy percent of college English majors are women. Ninety-three percent of college English professors are men. • More single men than married men are law violators, but more married than single women are. • Women's running speeds increased an average of 28 percent between 1968 and 1980. Men's speeds increased by .3 percent. • Rich men are fatter than poor men. Rich women are thinner than poor women. • As many women as men find housework boring. • Women score better than men on tests involving speed and accuracy, and are better at fine motor coordination. This would indicate that women excel in skills needed for needlework, typing and neurosurgery. • Ofthe 396,000 neurosurgical / qpetations performed in 1980, half were done by women. • Men spend an average of 52 minutes a day on coffee breaks as compared to 35 minutes for women. • The male brain is specialized, receiving spatial problems in the left side and verbal problems in the right side. The female brain duplicates abilities on both sides. • Women make decisions faster than men, perhaps because of the way their brains are organized. • Businessmen tip at a rate between 10 and 15 percent. Businesswomen tip 20 percent. • More men than women say they would Rich men are fatter than poor men. Rich women are thinner than poor women. steal for a million dollars. • Men try harder to be funny than womendo. • Men tend to behave aggressively when seated close to one another. Women often experience greater intimacy when seated close to one another. • In 1977, 90 percent ofindividuals featured in the news were male, and 10 percent were female. • At age 55 a man has only 70 percent of the capacity to exercise that he had at 25. A woman at age 55 has 90 percent ofthe capacity she had at 25. •More women than men are knock-kneed. Two hundred and thirty pages ofthis kind ofinformation is a lot to take at one ~itting, but it might be just the thing to have around for that spare moment when your generalized female brain is a bit overloaded. Cynthia Orr is a freelance writer from Oeveland, Ohio, who writes formemben of the National Assodation ofRegional Women's Publications. 26 NETWORK / DECEMBER 1985 Editor's note: Encouraging people to talk about their remarriage relationships and families was at times as_difficult as coaxing a 4-year-old into the dentist's chair. Those people who were familiar with Network were the most willing to talk. Those who were unfamiliar with Network refused flat out. Two scheduled interviews were cancelled at the last minute when the adults changed their minds. One woman said, "Oh, no! Now would not be a good time to talk about rnAT - there's a battle raging here." Those couples who did acquiesce made all kinds of requests about not printing certain things they said. Usually those topics concerned an ex-spouse or child support. These parents feel a pressing responsibility to protect both their children and former spouses from any more pain or sadness - everyone has been through enough already. ,-1/. / - 1/, f by Gail Gutsche everal years ago, before I'd ever heard the term "blended family," I had a memorable experience with one. It was Thanksgiving, and a new boyfriend asked me to join his family, whom I'd never met, for turkey dinner. As we drove to his Dad's house he told me who was going to be there. "Well, my brother and sister will be there - my brother's divorced and I think his new girlfriend will be with him. Then, my Mom AND the guy she lives with are coming, plus my Dad and his wife Sheny. And Sherry's parents will be there, too." I responded with a gasp. "What?You're kidding! Your Mom and her boyfriend spend holidays with your dad and his wife?" He looked at me like I was crazy and simply said, "Yes. " That's not all. This family spends Christmas, Easter and birthdays together as well. I got through that first dinner and several others like it, but it took many encounters before I remembered who was who and with whom they were paired. The confusion wore off as I got to know and like them as individuals, but the surprise of that initial meeting remains. Let me be dear. None of the three couples interviewed for this article spends Thanksgiving or any holidays with a former spouse. All ofthem deal with surprise and conflict and the struggles that arise when one or two nuclear families divide and regroup as reconstructed and extended units. "Blended family'' is the common term for these families. However, it may not fit, since "blended" means a smooth and inseparable combination - just what most blended families are not. As Elliott Landau, Ph.D., a marriage and family counselor, says, "You don'tjust take two adults, add children and mix and end up with a smooth concoction. " Landau, who is also a professor of educational studies at the University of Utah, spends 40 percent ofhis private practice with parents and children ofblended families, or - as he calls them - remarriage or REM families. He prefers the label REM or reconstituted family, because it more accurately describes the situation. "For the most part, living in a REM family is a lifelong adjustment," says Landau. "It's a relatively unresearched relationship. " In his 20 years of counseling, lecturing and writing papers on the subject, Landau has developed an expertise on the subject ofREM families. No matter what combination of people is involved, he describes four major tasks which every remarriage family faces. The first task belongs to the person who brings children into the new marriage. The task is to maintain a loyal and caring relationship with the children, while building a loving relationship with the spouse. Historically, the person with the children is the woman - nationally 90 percent of divorced women with children are awarded legal and residential custody oftheir children. In Utah that figure is even higher, perhaps as high as 97 percent. The second task is adjusting to being a stepparent. This task is usually more formidable for the stepfather, since he typically lives in the same house with his stepchildren. This second task is often a little less immediate for stepmothers, whose stepchildren usually live elsewhere, with their mother. Third, children on both sides have to adjust to the remarrige. According to Landau, if the the children are under 5, the adjustment is not too difficult for them. If they are 6 to 11, it 's more difficult, and if they are 12 or over, "it's just plain murder. " The fourth and final adjustment is made by the grandparents, who, in the length of time it takes for their son or daughter to say "I do,··may end up with several unexpected and instant stepgrandchildren. They too have changes to make. Not surprisingly, different families make these adjustments and approach these tasks in a variety ofways. Some experience a monumental amount of pain and turmoil, while others make decidedly smoother transitions. The definition of a REM family is simple. They occur when at least one of the adults is a stepparent. Such families come together through a surprising variety ofways. Either the woman or the man may bring children to the marriage. They may both bring ~hildren. Either one may have custody ofthe children, and then have one or more oftheir own. Or, they may both bring children to the relationship and then have more as a couple. In the 60s, at least two films glamorized the remarrige family: Yours, Mine and Ours and With Six You Get Eggroll. Both movies painted rosy, warm pictures of a man and woman, widower and widow, each with custody of several children, who many and move everybody in under one large roof where they instantly enjoy everlasting love and affection. There is no question that a healthy dose oflove helps people get through the often difficult event of creating a new, unexplored family unit. All of the couples in this article attested to an abiding love for and commitment to each other. There is little doubt, though, that love alone is not YOURS,MI They are the families and matched in ways th enough - other ingredients are necessary to ensure success of the remarriage family. Counseling helps, according to Landau. Eighty-seven percent of REM families who receive counseling report that life improves as a result. "In therapy where everyone is involved, family members give each other permission to have relationships with all of the parties involved," says Landau. Jerry and Debbie Lutzker sought counseling when Debbie andJerry and his daughter Terza had difficulty defining their relationship. Terza was 6 whenJeny divorced. She spent every weekend with her father until she was 13, when she moved in with him permanently. Two months later, Debbie moved in with them. They were not DECEMBER1985/NETWORR27 ' ,.___ Illustration: Lou Ann England f MINE,OURS ilies of the future, mixed ays they never dreamed of. married but Debbie became a stepmother anyway. The trio lived for three years in Los Angeles, before moving to Salt Lake City, whereJeny and Debbie got married, two years ago.Jeny, a family therapist who recently lectured on the complications of stepfamilies, understands better now than then what the three of them endured. "We went to a therapist," saysJeny. "We should 've acknowledged Debbie as the stepmother right away. Even saying the word allows that the problem is there and that it has to be worked out." "We made a lot of mistakes," says Debbie. ''Terza was concerned when I moved in, and to make it easier,Jeny said, 'Well, all the discipline will come from me.· Consequently I couldn't so much as ask her to do the dishes without having an argument." The discomfort intensified when the threesome moved from Los Angeles to Salt Lake.Jeny spends about one-third ofhis time on business in LA, leaving Debbie and Terza alone in Salt Lake. ''I'd pickJenyup at the airport, give him a running report on all the things Terza had done while he was gone, and then we'd get home and all three ofus would end up yelling at each other," says Debbie. "I don't want to be in the middle of them," admitsJeny. "Debbie always coming to me and saying, 'Terza stuck her tongue out at me!' What do you want me to do?" "The phenomenon ofthe stepparentstepchild conflict is universal," says Ann Hartman, professor of social work at the University of Michigan and family therapist at theAnnArborCenterfortheFamily , who recently visited Salt Lake to speak to the University ofUtah Graduate School of Social Work. "Our mythology is full of images ofthe wicked stepparent. Furthermore, any negative feelings the child has for the absent biological parent may be transferred to the stepparent who is present." Hartman also suggests that group counseling is the best, and perhaps only, solution. "The solution is to get everyone together in one room, including the ex-spouses. They may be ex-spouses, but they're never ex-parents. And it has to be made very clear that everyone involved is there to deal with the kids ' emotions, and not with any old rage between the former spouses." It also helps, says Hartman, "if the biological parents give their children permission to have a relationship with the stepparent." Through counseling and living in the same house with Debbie, Terza came to discover that Debbie is not the wicked stepmother. "I don't make her scrub the floor," Debbie smiles. Terza, a freshman away at college in San Diego, will spend Christmas with the Lutzkers and both Debbie andJeny say they are looking forward to the reunion. In terms of numbers of people involved, the Lutzkers •situation is uncomplicated. The combined family ofBarbara Zirnonja and Richard Pack is a more complex group; in some ways it does better. The couple has lived together for two years and dated for a few years before that. Barbara has one son from her first marriage who lives with them - Justin, ag~ 10. Richard has three children: Kelly, his 18-year-olddaughter, and two sons - Greg, 21, and Chris, 14. Kelly and Greg live with Barbara and Richard, while Chris lives with his mother, who also resides in Salt Lake City. In the beginning, everyone exceptJustin went to counseling, including Richard's ex-wife. Therapy helped, but there are still problems, though the old problem ofwho answers to whom is not among them. "I had two ofmy kids living with me when I was on my own, and all the kids got to know each other when we were dating, so by the time we moved in together, they were used to each other," says Richard. "We don't have any real problems with lines of authority. Either Barbara or I can tell any of the kids what to do. That's because Barbara and I back each other." The Lutzkers had a much different dating experience. "I only sawJeny during the week because he had Terza every weekend. I wasn't introduced to her for months," Debbie says with some disbelief. "I just never felt it was necessary to float women through Terza's life," answersJeny. "I happen to know many divorced mothers who don't share my philosophy on that and their kids are bonzo. When Debbie moved in, Terza and I didn't talk about it. It was implicit, shades of gray. I mean the bottom line was "I expected it to bewonde~. th.ought we could make up for all the things she's m~sed, and it hasn't worked out that way." 28 NETWOR:K / DECEMBER 1985 that I KNEW Terza wouldn't say, 'Sure, great, Iloveher."' When Barbara and Richard moved in together, they sat down with all ofthe children involved and told them to decide where they were going to sleep and that was that. Family councils are now called about twice a year when the necessity to get everybody in one room at the same time becomes overwhelming, says Barbara. Landau describes the dilemma that both the Lutzkers and Barbara and Richard experienced as "the magic circle" and "the stranger in paradise" syndrome. The magic circle is the strong bond which a single parent and the child or children develop living together. The stranger in paradise is the person who marries that person with children. In the case of the Lutzkers,Jerry and Terza form the magic circle, and Debbie is the stranger in paradise. "I would letJerry and Terza saturate themselves with as much time together as they could manage, so that when I hadJerry I would have him all to myself," explains Debbie. "And that was a conflict because I really was jealous. When we go out for dinner it ·s awkward; we still haven't , - , worked everything out - like who sits next to whom at the table. Terza still resents sitting in the backofthecar!" For Barbara and Richard there are two magic circles and two strangers in paradise. Barbara·s sonJustin is extremely close to his father and visits him weekly. "I never try to compete withJustin's Dad," says Richard. "I speak very highly of his Dad in front of him and encourage him to have the relationship. Justin was happy to move in with the other kids; I think he was less happy about me." For Barbara the big adjustment was gaining two teenagers overnight, complete with teen problems and complaints. "I wish someone had told me before I got married how much work it would be," she says. "Kids are hard on any relationship, but when you move all these kids in together it's a big adjustment. Especially in the beginning, it was hard hard for me to allow myself time for me or to find time to be with Richard. Then, we started saying to the children that we need time out, and now we take it. Saturday and Sunday mornings are OURS and the kids know it. They don't even come near our room then." The Robisons are yet another family with similar problems. Married 12years, Mary and Darren epitomize the remarriage family - each has children from a first marriage, and they have two between them. Darrell has a daughter, Dana, 30, and he also had two sons, Kurt and Peter, who both suffered from diagnosed schizophrenia and committed suicide after the remarriage. Fifteen-year-old Casey is Mary's son from her first marriage. Kate, 9, and Patrick, 6, are their children together. Casey was only 3 when Darren and Mary were married, too young to remember the first family. Kate and Patrick have only known this family. The main conflict has always centered around the children from Darrell's first marriage. Kurt died seven years ago and Peter died this past summer. Both were in their early 20s. The deaths were rough on all the family - members, and so were the years of turmoil that preceded them. "Peter lived with us during his senior year of high school," says Darrell. "It was very difficult. We were crowded and had all sorts of problems. Peter did wild things. There was a lot of friction between Casey and Peter - Peter al~ys wanted to have the upper hand and Casey resented that. " It has not been smooth sailing with Dana either. "I don't think Dana likes me much," says Mary. "She would like to spend A FLATTERINGTAN, AND ELEGANT EYES $30 Other delightful experiences: Electrolysis-a gentle touch Pedicure Body peeling Nails Facials And much more 486-0467 f ,. ' Mary echoes those sentiments: "I expected this great big happy family, and instead I got two sets of children - and the older set did not want any part ofthat big happy family. " Mary tells the story ofDana 's wedding, which took place in Maine. Darrell and Mary had decided that the expense was too great for both of them to go, and Darrell didn't want to attend without her, so the decision was made to skip it altogether. At the last minute, Darrell was able to schedule a business trip that allowed them both to go. "I have never spent a more uncomfortable four days in my life," says Mary. Dana's friends all made a point oftelling Mary that is was not her place to keep Dana's father from attending his own daughter's wedding. They obviously blamed her for the near miss. "Any closeness that I had thought was there wasn't. It was really painful. Dana ·s feelings for me are that I've kept her father from her." In their book, How To Win As A Stepfamily, Emily andJohn Visher say this about stepparent/stepchild relationships: "Caring relationships take time to evolve. The expectation ofinstant love between stepparents and stepchildren can lead to many disappointments and difficulties. Ifthe stepfamily relationships are allowed to develop as seems comfortable to the individuals involved, then caring between steprelatives has the opportunity to develop." Titles, or who calls who what, evolve as the relationships within the REM family progress. ''We don't have any relationship rules at all," says Richard. "We love each other's kids, and they all feel free to call us what they want." As a result, the children refer to each other as· 'brother" and" sister" and introduce Barbara and Richard as "Mom" and "Dad." Richard's children frequently address Barbara as "Mom" and they also call her by her first name, depending on the company they're in or the mood ofthe moment. The arrangement seems to work well and it contributes to a notable lack of tension in the household. Christmas-time for these families tends to involve much child-shuffiing. "The children always spend Christmas morning where they live and the afternoon at the other parent's house," explains Barbara. "My son Justin spends Christmas Eve with his father and then comes back here for Christmas morning." Richard's son Chris spends Christmas Eve and morning at his mother's, and then comes over to Dad's house in the afternoon. Gift-giving varies - for Barbara and Richard's children, everyone living in their houehold receives presents from both Barbara's parents and Richard's. For birthdays, the children's biological grandparents give gifts. In the Robison family the arrangements are more involved. Mary's son Casey either flies to his father's house the day after Christmas or, ifhis father's in town, spends several days with him at his paternal grandparents' house. Darrell's children used to come for Christmas Eve, but in the past few years Dana has spend Christmas with her Mom. "Dana never sends so much as a . personalized housecleaning service (Ten visits - Wolff System - and an eyelash dye) Sinlkka Gorham, European Trained Esthetician. individual time with Darrell. That's always been an underlying problem with all three of his kids." Darrell responds, "We always saw the kids (Dana, Kurt, and Peter), but it was together and right offthe bat they wanted individual time and I don't believe in that - I don't even do that with the children living in this house." Mary adds, recalling, "Darrell's ex-wife would ask him to spend a couple of hours a week with his kids. Well, there weren't a couple of hours to give." Deciding who comes first is a major problem of profound emotional significance in remarriage families. The Robisons decided prior to marriage and after much discussion that their relationship was more important .than their relationships with the various children. They've stuck with that decision, even when the chidren were not always happy with it. After spending a few years together, Barbara and Richard also discovered that they need to nourish their own relationship, as well as the one with the children. The Lutzkers are still struggling with the problem ofwho spends time with whom. Jerry Lutzker has another philosophy on the subject of sharing time. "When someone gets remarried the kids have no choice. The couple gets a relationship, but the child feels like they are losing one. And that·s just the way it is," saysJerry. "I still like to do things with Terza individually and with Debbie individually. Terza's complaint in therapy was that we didn't do anything alone anymore, so now we do those things." Being excluded from alone time with Jerry and Terza is not easy for Debbie, who feels some resentment about those times. This Christmas Terza andJerry will go on a ski trip without Debbie. "I don't ski," says Debbie pointedly, "so I don't mind about that, but I'd prefer we all did something together. ''I'd rather have Debbie live with some disappointment and do what I want to do with Terza," countersJerry. "I have to accept it or get out," says Debbie, gesturing toward the street. "Well, ldon'tknowifl'dsaythat, Debbie," saysJerry. Just what does one say? The conflict between stepparent and stepchild is well documented. "Itry to get the couple to work together, as a coalition," says Landau. "Otherwise the kids will end-run the stepparent and go directly to their biological parent. The attachment created by biology creates a great number of conflicts in a remarriage family. Both the man and woman have it, no matter where those kids live." For both Debbie and Mary Robison, that tumultuous relationship with their husbands· child or children was not something they bargained for. "Since I'm not having children, I would really like to have a relationship with Terza," says Debbie, "because I will never know a parent/child relationship, and Terza doesn't have a good relationship with her mother, so she's missing out and so am I. I expected it to be wonderful. I thought we could make up for all the things she's missed, and it hasn't worked out that way." - ,, Dr. Eckstein and Dr. Babor Cosmetics oetweenK-MartandFinn's Restaurant 2681 Parley's Way (2120 South) located in Woodbury Building. Team of three Weekly or biweekly 467-9675 We .9ive Saturday 6ack. to you DECEMBER 1985 / NETWORK 29 - Christmas card," says Mary. "We send are, the more likely they are to succeed as a Christmas presents to her and her two kids, family. "There's such a little bit ofinformation but we never hear a word. Darrell has never about stepparenting available, even once heard from her on his birthday - it - counselors don't know much about it,··says hurts him." • Jerry. "lfDebbie and I would've known more, My younger children have a hard time or known another couple who was going seeing Casey get so much," admits Mary. through it, or ifwe'd known what we know •'Casey's father's parents have quite a bit of now, we would've done things differently money and there's no way that I can from day one. " compete with number of gifts given. When Statistically, what is known about Kate asks about it I tell her how lucky she is to stepfamilies is significant. One out of six have her family all together." children is a stepchild. One-third ofAmerican As an only child of both her mother and children do not live in a nuclear family unit. father, Terza has difficult holiday choices. And 80 percent of divorced adults do ''It's a no-win situation for Terza," saysJerry. remarry, virtually ensuring that the numbers "if she comes her she knows her Mom will be of stepfamilies will continue to grow. "By alone. We'reJewish, sothere'snoproblem 1990 it's expected that there will be more with actually having her on Christmas day. children living in REM families than there are Her Mom is notJewish, so she has living in biological families, " notes Landau. Christmas.'' When the family lived in Los That's a forecast which warrants Angeles, Terza spent all of her holidays with considerable attention from every parent. her Mom. Since moving to Salt Lake she spends most ofthem withJerry and Debbie. Gail Gutsche is a staft'writer for Network The bottom line for all stepfamilies is that and the editor ofUtah Hospitality magazine. they are forced to team as they go along, and the more flexible all of the parties involved From the Where Have They Been? Dept: Whatever Santa can't do~ .. Wendy Can! ZCMI's Personal Shopper Service can be the greatest gift of all If your holiday- cheer is dampened by holiday chores-shopping among them-the ZCMI Personal Shopper, Wendy Warner Whitman, can be a •.•-rF Christmas wish come true. She's at your call to help with fashion, fragrance and accessory selection for • .... both women and men. Available through our Salt Lake Downtown and Cottonwood stores, your Personal Shopper is the Perfect Solution for Holiday gift giving and personal wardrobe enhancement. P.S. makes your shopping experience a joy just give Wendy your fashion gift list; she'll shop our aisles until she finds just-right pieces in the price range you desire. When her selections are assembled you'll comfortably review them in a relaxed setting with refreshments, then make your final purchasing decisions, which may be conveniently charged to your ZCMI Option Account. You have no obligation to purchase anything, and the service itself is free. If you like, we'll even wrap your gifts and arrange for their shipping... anywhere. Here's how it all works ... for you! A little mother's fun is never done All the ingredients for fun are found in this modem, aJJ-in-one kitchen. Litde mothers can pretend to heat some soup on the range or bake in the oven. El\foy lunch on the drop-leaf table. Do the dishes in the sink and make out the grocery list, then take a break and caJJ a friend - just like mommy! LITTLE TIRES Catalog, FaJJ-W'mter, 1985-1986 Geb's House of Learning e State licensed i~ Offering: l) _ ~j • Parentapproved This exciting new world of personal shopping convenience and efficiency is just a phone call away: in Salt Lake call 321-6666 between 9 a. m. and 5 p. m. weekdays to schedule an appointment. P.S. Our Personal Shopper is here to help yearround ... a(ter the Holidays look to Wendy to seek out the best January Sale finds, just for you. 7~ 11~? • Pre-school a~d childcare mornings, -~ \~f~~1) afternoons, mghts,and weekends . ~~Ji' • Pick up from local elementary schools . • Excellent educational programs 5951 So. 1300 East, 278-3763, 268-9933 PERSONAL SHOPPER SERVICE Zt C1 lv.[ I 30 NETWORR / DECEMBER 1985 The Gifts That :Keep·on Giving continued from p. 24 Rape Crisis Center 2140 South 3600 West WestValleyCity, Utah84120 Contact: Christine Watters, 973-2221 Clients: victims of rape and·sexual assault and their significant others. next training session begins in early February. A new building or cash donations towards the purchase of one. General office supplies Phoenix Institute 1800 South West Temple, Suite 211 Salt Lake City, Utah84115 Contact: Mary Tuckett, 484-2882 Clients: displaced homemakers and troubled teenage girls. Good-payingjobs for women. Advocates for better-payingjobs for women. People to write letters to legislators urging passage of the displaced homemaker's bill. Internship opportunities, particularly in small businesses. AVCR and camera. A van for transportation of teens enrolled in the Sojourn project. New furniture. Salt Lake Neighborhood Housing Services, Inc. 1385 lndianaAve. SaltLakeOty, Utah84104 Contact: Kathy Sheaffer or Terri Bush, 539-1590 Clients: residents ofthe area between 200 and 900 South and 6th West and Redwood Road Canned goods, new clothing and toys for the Christmas Project. Volunteers. Cash donations. Funds for the youth project in which delinquent youth learn construction skills. Hospice of Salt Lake 1370 South West Temple Salt Lake City, Utah84115 Contact: Helen Rollins, 486-5131 . . ._ Clients: terminally ill patients in ~_o me-based .... care. Patient, comfort supplies (sheepskins, urinals, bandages, bedpans, adult diapers, , linen protectors) or cash donations for purchase of such items. Cash donations to the AIDS patients fund. • Cassette tape recorders. The Children's Center 1855 Medical Circle Salt Lake City, Utah 84112 Contact: Martha Smith-Taylor, 5&2-5534 Clients: preschool children with behavioral disorders. "Wonderblocks"byMattel. Plastic sleds. Matchbox cars. Fisher-Price trucks. "Knock-Out" (a game). "Dress Me" dolls. A blender. An electric hand-mixer. The Neighborhood House - Child Care 423 South U00West Salt Lake City, Utah84104 Contact: Vicki Mori, 363-4589 Clients: 225 children between age 2 and 12 from primarily low-income, single-parent families. Playable dolls. Mittens. Wooden puzzles. Toy cars and trucks. Crayons, drawing paper, coloring books. Basketballs, baseballs, and kickballs. "Y" Teen Home 322 East 300 South Salt Lake City, Utah84111 Contact: Mia Fifield, 363-5507 Clients: pregnant teenagers, teenage mothers and their babies up to age 3 months Pots and pans, dishes and silverware. Board games. New or clean baby clothes and supplies especially crib sheets, blankets, and quilts. A large tablecloth or 12 place mats. Can openers, a toaster, and an electric hand-mixer. A picnic table. Salt Lake County Aging Services 135East2100South SaltLakeCity, Utah84115 Contact: Darrell Butler, 488-5784 Clients: senior citizens Holiday food boxes for homebound seniors. Payment of a low-income senior's utility bill. Transportation for Christmas sightseeing. Wrapping paper, ribbons, and cards for use by homebound seniors. Donations of tickets for Christmas events, i.e., concerts, plays, the Nutcracker. Assistance in purchasing eyeglasses, dentures, wheelchairs, and walkers. Small Christmas trees. Small houseplants. Gift certificates to purchase winter clothing, coats, shoes, and boots. Gift certificates to purchase a one-month supply of prescriptions. Salt Lake Food Bank 212 West 1300 South Salt Lake City, Utah84115 Contact: Lowell Bennion, 486-2136 Clients: low-income people particularly seniors, the handicapped and families Commercially canned and/or packages food of all kinds. Fresh fruit and vegetables. Refrigerators and freezers. Cash donations. YWCA's Women in Jeopardy Program 322 East 300 South SaltLakeCity, Utah84111 Contact: Barbara Pomerance orJane Langford, 355~2804 Clients: low-income women who are victims of, or are threatened with, spouse abuse, and their children A-typewriter. Baby strollers. Towels. Used furniture. Volunteers for a variety oftasks but particularly for child care. Children's Service Sodety ofUtah 576 East South Temple Salt Lake City, Utah84102 Contact: Marian Venz, 355-7444 Clients: children in need of permanent homes and adoptive parents Cash donations. Baby clothes and supplies. Disposable diapers. A sponsor for a special-needs child's search for a permanent home or funds to help support a permanent home for such a child. quiltex · petit gamine· lil;tiput · imperial · sylvia whyte oshkosh· •r-i Q) +..:> Cl) co Q) co ,.0 ~ •r-i +..:> Q) co s Q) Cl) •r-i Q) Q) C) Q) t, le , H 0 i;::: co ,.0 H 0 " ·~ S ) . ~ o; • ~Cb~ A!i, ....... CT (f, ; ~"". rn Celebrate the Year of the Comet CD STAR PROGRAM p., A Comet Called Halley 0 Monday-Saturday 4 :30 & 7 p.m. Sunday 2 & 4:30 p.m. 0 ASTROSHOP 1-j p.) c1 (D ." ~•"~~. ; (D •" Cl) s 0 p., ....... p., <: 0 ·o r:: <: p.) Comet Halley Commemorative Edition p.) POSTERS, BOOKS & MORE! ....... ....... rn ,.0 co Wonders of the Universe 1986 Calendar $6.95 Coniet Halley Update: 532-STAR schwab • imp • izod • scarlett rabbitt • house of hatten PLANETARIUM 15 South State Street Salt Lake City 538-2098 DECEMBER1985/NETWORR31 The Ulster Project USA 12 "C" Street Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 Contact:Judy White, 1-224-2354 or Rev. Donald Baird, 363-3889 Clients: 12 to 16 Catholic and Protestant teenage boys and girls from Northern Ireland who will be in Salt Lake inJuly for a month's respite from the hostilities within their home communities. Sponsors for each teen at an estimated cost of $1,000 each to cover transportation and expenses while here. Sponsors for activities such as swimming parties, a day at Lagoon, a river trip, or a tram ride at Snowbird. Host families with a teen between age 14 and 16. Cash donations. Suggestions for activities for the teens. Salt Lake Boys and Girls Cub 567 West 300 North Salt Lake City, Utah84116 Camp Kostopoulos 2500 Emigration Canyon Salt Lake City, Utah841O9 Contact: Patty Forsgren Clients: physically and mentally handicapped and the hearing impaired of all ages Snowshoes. Fishing poles and life jackets. VCR and Atari. Basketballs and soccerballs. Tents. Legal Aid Sodety 211 East 300 South Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 Contact: Bill Gaylord, 328-8891 Clients: primarily low-income women needing emergency legal assistance Volunteers for client screening beginning in March 1986. Funding for a half-time paralegal position. The Neighborhood House Center 423 South UOOWest Salt Lake City, Utah 84104 Senior Day Contact: Libby Gunderson, 363-4589 Records ofthe Big Band Era and other" old favorites. " Volunteers to teach arts and crafts. Entertainment between 10:30 a.m. and 3:00p.m. anyday. A wheelchair in good condition. A Santa to pay a visit. American Red Cross 555 foothill Drive SaltLakeCity, Utah84113 Indian Walk-In Center 120 West 1300 South Salt Lake City, Utah84115 Contact: Lisa Wanstall, 486-4877 Clients: low-income native Americans Money, paper products, and food (turkeys, hams, vegetables, cranberries) for Christmas dinner at the Center serving 800 to 900people. Toys. Christmas sockings. Hard candy, peanuts, and other stocking stuffers. Volunteers. Contact: Ronny Gilmore, 582-3431 Christmas cookies for blood donors. Blood donors over age 18 and in good health. Volunteers to shovel sidewalks on snowy days. Contact:JimJensen, 484-0841 Clients: boys and girls in the Salt Lake Valley. Cash donations towards completion ofthe new building. Volunteer basketball and soccer coaches. A workable 1V. Traveler's Aid Sodety 160 West South Temple Salt Lake City, Utah 84116 Contact: Priscilla Solarz, 328-8996 Clients: homeless Utahns Personal hygiene articles: soap, shaving cream, toothpaste, toothbrushes. Feminine hygiene products. Towe1s and washcloths. <> Holiday food boxes for transient families. Cash donations to defray operational expenses. Ann Jillian The Phoenix Institute Sojourn Project, a community-based program for troubled young women, is recruiting supportive, flexible and non-judgmental adults to provide live-in residences for one young woman. The adult advocates' responsibilities include intensive evening and weekend supervision, support, role-modeling and a residence. The Phoenix Sojourn staff will provide training, on-going support, and round-the-clock backup for crises which may arise. A monthly fee of $600 will be paid for room, board, and time spent with each young woman. For more information, please contact Nancy Silva 532-5080 or 364-9628. . I Phoenix Sojourn f . Pioneer Valley Hospital Breast Care Center 3460 S. Pioneer Parkway (4155 West) West Valley City, Utah 84120 [phone], ext. 615 !j Corporation HCA ofHospital America 32 NETWORR / DECEMBER 1985 P.O. BOX 25, MIDVALE, UTAH 84047 381 WEST 2230 NORTH #220, PROVO, UTAH 84604 tSJ,'!:!uns§reeti CJ<&fanfq(af(-c5vJ.darkf_&koG FAMILY COUNSELING CENTER - A UNITEDWAYAGENCY,ANNOUNCES GROUP SESSIONS FOR 1986 e MIDVALE OFFICE ..;_ 46 East 7200 South - Call 566-5606 1. Self Esteem Enhancement for Women Jan. 7th-Feb. 25th (Tuesday evenings only) 6-7:30p.m. Leaders : Judy Tatton, M.S.W. and Mitzi Dunford, M.S.W. 2. Assertiveness Training Class Jan. 8th-Feb. 26th (Wednesdays only) 2 :00-3:30 p.m. and 7 :30-9:00 p.m. Leaders: Barbara Quigley, M.S.W. and Fran Clelland, M.S.W. e SALT LAKE OFFICE - 807 East South Temple, Suite # 100 - Call 521-8656 1. Relationship Group Jan. 14-ongoing Tuesdays 5 :00-6:30 p.m. Leader: Dick Macfarlane 2. Divorce Adjustment Group Jan. 14-through March 4, New group on March 11 7:30-9:00 p.m. e BOUNTIFUL OFFICE - 83 West 400 North - Call 298-5100 1. Adolescent Boys Activity Group - Call for time and dates 2. BudgetSeminar-Callfortimeanddates Leader: Sid Smith COST: $10.00 per person, per group session Giving Children the Gift of Knowledge Since 1867 IADYUTES BRING IN THE NEW YEAR WITH THE UTAH SYMPHONY CHAMBER ORCHESTRA! 10 P.M. NEW YEAR'S EVE. TUESDAY. DECEMBER 31 ST Joseph Silverstein. Conductor & Violin Soloist "An Evening in Vienna" Concert & Celebration $20 Including Champagne & Hors d'Oeuvres SPECIAL CHAMBER ORCHESTRA PACKAGE. $35,$51 Value Includes New Year's Eve; Academy of St. Martin in the Field, Mar.11. and two Chamber Orchestra concerts, Feb. 15 & Apr. 5. I Available at the Symphony Hall Box Office. 533-6407 Mail Orders: 123 West South Temple. S.l.C. UT 84101 There's More to Dunk Than Donut.. at the Lady Utes Basketball Games Excitement Action Half-time prizes/ contests And 1111JCH 1111JCH warmer than Rice Stadium!! Season passes at the low price of $15 for 13 home games Nov~ 29-Home opener, 3 p.m. (free admission) Dee. 6 & 8-Lady Ute Radisson Classic, 6 & 8 p.m. Jan. 2 & 3--Copper Classic 6&8p.m. All games in the Special Events Center. For ticket information call 581-6641 or581-UTES ACCOUNTANTS JOHNSON, GLENNA, CPA, small business specialist, Deloitte, Haskins and Sells, 50 . ... [phone] South Main Street, Suite 1800, Salt Lake City, Utah 84144. . . . . . . . . . [phone] MOYES, ELVA, MERRILLJOHNS,Accountant/Tax Counselor, Accounting Plus, 266-2726 1279 Darby Circle, Salt Lake City, Utah 84117 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . WICKENS, MARGARET, CPA, tax and small business specialist, Tanner, Brunson & . ....... [phone] Co., 376 East 400 South, Suite 200 Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 . ANTIQUES ANTOINETTE'S, Merle Allred, owner, antique jewelry and collectibles, 251 South . . [phone] State (in the Antique Mall), Salt Lake City, Utah 84111. . . . . . . . . . . . . ART GALLERIES PHILLIPS GALLERY, Michelle Sweet, Jean Davis, Mary Behrens, Stephanie Cannon, Rosemary Holt, Mary Watson, 444 East Second South, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 . . . .. ....... . .... .. .... ..... .............. . ... . ..... . . .. [phone] Exhibiting regional and Utah artists. Each month our main gallery features one artist while our downstairs gallery has a rotating group exhibit. CONSULTATION FOR CORPORATE OR PRIVATE COLLECTIONS. HOURS: TUESDAY TO FRIDAY, 10a.m. to6:00p.m., SATURDAY, 70a.m. to4 p.m. ATTORNEYS MOSELEY, ANITA TORTI, lawyer, Prince Yeates and Geldzahler, 424 East Fifth South, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111. ....................... ................ [phone] AUTOMOBILE SERVICES SCHNEIDER AUTO KAROSSERIE BODY AND PAINT, Uncompromising foreign body repair, Margrit Atherton, co-owner, 1180 South 400 West, Salt Lake City, Utah 84101. .. .... ..... ........... ............... ....... .. .. . .... .. . [phone] BEAUTY BARNARD, JUDY, cuts, perms, color, The Hair Consortium, 2352 Foothill, Salt Lake City, Utah 84109....................... ....................... ....... [phone] FEY, VIRGINIA L, certified color and image consultant, Fey Professional Services, BEAUTY FOR ALL SEASONS, 2591 East Grandview Drive, Sandy, Utah 84092 ..... [phone] BOOKSTORES THE BOOK VAULT, Crossroads Plaza, 50 South Main, Salt Lake City, Utah 84144 ... [phone] A unique general bookstore, we offer discounted bestsellers and a wide range ofgood books-including Womens and Western Americana. Located at Crossroads Plaza, we welcome special orders and boast of our quarterly newsletter. THE CHILDREN'S HOUR, Diane Etherington, owner, 962½ East 900 South, Salt LakeCity,Utah84105 ....................... ....................... .. [phone] Wonderful children's books. Diane will help you choose the perfect book for you and your friends in your home, or visit her store 70a.m. to5p.m. daily. GOLDEN BRAID BOOKS, Jackie Pratt, owner, 213 East 300 South, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111. .................... ....... _.... ............ ............ [phone] Golden Braid Books is a holistic bookstore and resource center specializing in New Age consciousness. We carry Bach Flower remedies, quartz crystals, stones, jewelry, and other metaphysical tools. Call for a copy ofour newsletter. THE KING'S ENGLISH, Betsy Burton, owner, 1511 South 1500 East, Salt Lake City, _....................... [phone] Utah 84105................. . .. . .... The King's English has a delightful stock of "good books. "Fiction, all types of non-fiction, women's books, mysteries (over 2,000), children books . .. even books on sale. s SUSAN'S BOOKS & CARDS, Susan Kauffmann, owner, 1894 West 5400 South, Salt LakeCity, Utah84118 .... . . .. ... .. ... ..... . ...... ...... ..... . ...... .. [phone] Westside Location : A contemporary bookstore featuring Hallmark cards and a rental library of current hardback bestsellers. We carry a wide selection ofbooks for children and adults. Join our Baker's Dozen Paperback Book Club-We also make Xerox copies. BUSINESS SERVICES A commercial collection service. Bonded. Member ofACCA. 40 years experience. 'We don't just talk - we get things handled. Results you can bank!" Call JoAnn or Vickie. CAREER COUNSELING CENTER FOR ADULT LEARNING AND CAREER CHANGE, University of Utah, DCE, 1175 Annex, Salt Lake City, Utah 84112 ....................... ........... [phone] Our professional staff ofcounselors can help pave the way ofadults in transition. Whether you choose career counseling, resume workshops, one day seminars, evenings or weekend courses- theres a route that's right for you. MARMALADE CAREER COUNSELLING INSTITUTE, Arrowpress Square, 165 South WestTemple Building 6, Suite 210, Saltlake City, Utah 84111 ............ [phone] PHOENIX INSTITUTE, 352 Denver Street, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111. . . As a chiropractic physician, I am here to serve you with your total health needs. My method specializes in the holistic concept of health care, using procedures directed at evaluating causative factors ofstress and disease. COMPUTERS PEGASUS CREATIVE ENTERPRISES, Carol Buhler, 12712 South State Street, . ...... [phone] Draper, Utah 84020 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . A fresh approach to learning to use your PC (Personal Computer). Ifyou are afrajd ofyour computer, or don't know what its good for, I can help. I provide custom training on any level, for word processing, Lotus 7-2-3 and databases. DATING SERVICES LEVESQUE, RAE, Continental Marriage Bureau, Utah's oldest and largest introduction service, 260 East 600 South, Suite 4, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111. .... . [phone] Singlewomen21 to35andolder. TryourSAFE, FUN, CLASSYwaytodate. Allreferences from men are checked. Please call. POSSIBILITIES, INC., Pamela Clark, owner, The Professional Plaza, 565 East4500 South, Suite A-220, Salt Lake City, Utah 84107 ......... . ... .. ... .. ......... [phone] Possibilities - a distinctive organization for unmarried people committed to improving the social environment. The objective is realized through a system ofservices that enable one to efficiently identify others with similar interests, beliefs and goals. . DENTISTS AND DENTAL PROGRAMS JEPPESON, LINDA FRANCE, Dental Wise prepaid dental insurance, Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Utah, P.O. Box 30270, Salt Lake City, Utah 84130-0270........... [phone] KOSMAS, LOLA, D.D.S., general dentistry, family practice, cosmetic dentistry, 3920 South 1100 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84124 ............. . ... .... .. . . . [phone] EMPLOYMENT SERVICES PROFESSIONAL RECRUITERS, Lora Lea Mock, Owner, Manager, 220 East 3900 South, Suite 9, Salt Lake City, Utah84107 ..... .. .... . ................ .... . [phone] YOUR JOB CONNECTION-FOR EMPLOYERS AND EMPLOYEES, Sue Goldsmith, 1399 South 700 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84105 .................. [phone] EXERCISE, PHYSICAL CONDITIONING HUNT, BETSY, M.S., Prenatal and Postpartum exercise teacher, University of Utah [phone] Health Sciences Center, Perinatal education room, 50 North Medical Drive, Salt 581-2328 .................... Lake City, Utah 84130. . . . . . . . . . . . . . CHRYSALIS BODY DEVELOPMENT, Kathleen Pardee, proprietor, 401 East 900 South, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111. ......... . ...... .. ..... ... . ..... ....... [phone] Weightlifting is a perfect tool to tone and slenderize, to build a more curvaceous body, and to increase energy and endurance. All ages, levels of fitness welcome. Workouts are personalized and coached in an uncrowded environment. PRENATAL EDUCATION, University of Utah Health Sciences Center, Ann Peterson, [phone] 581-2896 50 North Medical Drive, Salt Lake City, Utah 84130. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . FINANCIAL SERVICES/CONSULTANTS COOK, KARON C., full financial planning service, 610 East South Temple, Salt Lake . ... . . ..... . ....... . ... . ........... [phone] City, Utah 84102. . . . . . . . . . JENSEN, LINDA S. financial planner, 350 East 500 South, Salt Lake City, Utah . . .... [phone] BERGEN & JACKSON, JoAnn Jackson and Vickie L. Bergen, co-owners, 6914 South 3000 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84121 .... .. .................... . ......... [phone] Are you getting allyou want from your job? Enough money? Recognition? Challenge? Advancement? Joy? If not, call us for as much help as you need, from new skills to a new sense of direction. CHIROPRACTOR BACH CHIROPRACTIC OFFICES, Dr. Barbara Bach, R.N., D.C., 507 East 1700 South, Suite B, Salt Lake City, Utah 84105 . ....................... ..... ... . [phone] HACKER, REBECCA, D.C., chiropractor, Chiropractic Center, 345 East 4500 South, [phone] .......... Murray, Utah 84107 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . [phone] CATERING WENDY'S BAKERY, Wendy MacDonald, owner ..... . ................ ... ... [phone] Specializing in home-cookedmeals, bakery items, healthy & flavorful goodies, and catering. Nothing too small. Local deliveries free. Each item individually made especially for you. Holiday gift baskets available. CHILDCARE HIPPLER, KAREN, M. Ed . in Early Childhood Education, Utah certified and licensed, [phone] [phone] Early Childhood Center, 1616 South 1100 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84105 Preschool and extended care for children 2 to 6. Play group for children 18 months to 2 years. Low child-teacher ratio; trained caring staff. Curriculum designed to stimulate child's interest, creativity and learning skills. Educational toys and games, music, movement, art, language, math, and science. CHILDREN'S CLOTHING LITTLE CHILDREN, Melissa Connelly, owner, 2150 Highland Drive, Salt Lake City, . .................. ... ........ . . ... .... . ....... [phone] Utah 84106. . . . . . . Melissa Connelly is the new owner of this store offering classic children's clothing from such makers as Florence Eiseman, Sylvia Whyte, Betti Terrell, Fishel, Simi and others, both European and American. We also have wonderful furniture for both babies and children, available in stock or by special order. Our Steiff animals area terrific addition toanychild's(oradult's!) room. Easy parking. Hours: 10a.m.-6p.m. Mon.-Sat. Member: International Association of FinanCJal Planners. Complete financial planning services: personal and business analysis, cash flow management, estate planning, IRAs and KEOGHs, mutual funds, tax advantaged investments, annuities; insurance-life, variable life, disability, health and accident, group products. LUND, LINDA A., financial goal consultant, total financial planning, Mutual Benefit Financial Group, 1245 East Brickyard Road #110, Salt Lake City, Utah 84106 ..... [phone] PIERCE, MARY, personal financial planner, IDS Financial Services, 6925 Union Park Center, Suite 450, Salt Lake City, Utah 84047 ........ .. . . .. ..... ..... .. .... [phone] WILSON, CAROLA., financial planner, member Inst. of Certified Financial Planners, 942 Little Valley Road, Salt Lake City, Utah 84103 ....................... .... [phone] WHAT MAKES YOUTICK? How Much Do You Understand of Your Inner Needs and Values? Personality Profiles offers an insight into areas of your personality which can open new windows. How do"you handle Relationships ... Stress? What are your attitudes towards Work? Sex? COMPLETE COMPUTER ANALYSIS $5.00 FOR CONFIDENTIAL OUESTIONAIRE SEND NAME AND ADDRESS T_._,O~:---,--------. PERSONALITY PROFILES 174 East800 South P.O. Box 27072 Salt Lake City, Utah 84127 HOLLY SMITH Independent Insurance Agent Insurance for: HOME -• AUTO e BUSINESS LIFE e HEALTH Call for a competitive quote. 521-7023 John Henry Smith Insurance Agency 155 South 300 West Suite102 Salt Lake City, Utah 84101 GIFT SHOPS TOSHIKO IMPORTS, Jeanne Marse, owner,_authentic Japanese gifts and handcrafted Japanese dolls, Trolley Square, 2nd level, near escalator, P.O. Box 292, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 .......................... .. ... . . . . ... .. . .... [phone] HEALTH SERVICES BIRTH AND FAMILY CENTER, 291 West5400 South, Murray, Utah 84107........ [phone] CERTIFIED NURSE-MIDWIFERY SERVICE, lntermountain Women's Center at LOS [phone] Hospital, 8th Avenue and C St., Salt Lake City, Utah 84143 .. . . . .... .. .. '. . . . . . . 321-3360 COMMUNITY NURSING SERVICE-HOSPICE OF SALT LAKE, Kate Lambert, [phone] Director of Marketing, 1370 South WestTemple, Salt Lake City, Utah 84115. . . . . . 486-5588 Home health care for the 11/, injured and terminally ill. Nurses, aides and other health professionals provide care to the elderly, adults, children and newborns. • DALSING, CYNTHIA, C.N.M., DEN ERIS, ANGELA, C.N.M., WILLIAMS, DEANNE R., C.N.M., Bryner Clinic Nurse-Midwifery Service, 745 East 300 South and 6100 South 300 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 .... . ......... . ..... . ... . .. .. ... [phone] INFORMED BIRTHING, Judy Rodriguez, midwife, excellent home-birth care, 12129 South 2160 West, Riverton, Utah 84065 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .................. [phone] KAPSA, CHRIS, R.N., F.N.P., licensed nurse practitioner, Howard S. Berk, M.D., 1002 East South Temple, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 . ..... . ...... . ...... . .. . . [phone] PMS SPECIALISTS, Howard Berk, M.D. and Robin Browdy, R.N., M.S., Moreau Medical Building, Suite 506, 1002 Easts. Temple, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 . .... [phone] PIONEER VALLEY HOSPITAL WOMEN'S SERVICES, Pioneer Valley Hospital, 3460 South Pioneer Parkway, West Valley City, Utah 84120 . . . .................... [phone] PLANNED PARENTHOOD, 70 South 900 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 .. ... ... [phone] RAPE CRISIS CENTER, INC. 776 West 200 North, Salt Lake City, Utah 84116 . . .... [phone] RESOLVE OF UTAH, infertility counseling, 4631 Lemonwood Circle, West Valley City, Utah 84120...... ... .. . . . . .. .... . ... . ..... . .. . .. .. . . . . . . .... . .. . [phone] UNIVERSITY OF UTAH OBSTETRICS AND GYNECOLOGY CLINIC, 50 North Medical Drive, Salt Lake City, Utah 84132 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .......... [phone] UTAH WOMEN'S CLINIC, 515 South 400 East, Salt Lake City, [phone] Utah 84111 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 531-9192 UTAH PMS CENTER, 667 East 100 South, Suite 300, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 ....... . .. . .. . ........ . .......... . ..... . ... . ............ [phone] UTAH PMS SOCIETY, P.O. Box 11314, Salt Lake City, Utah 84147 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . [phone] HOUSEHOLD SERVICES LOBATO, SUE, Richard Lobato Remodeling, licensed contractor, 3893 South 5325 West, WestValleyCity, Utah 84120 ...... .. ............ . .. . ...... . ....... [phone] HOUSEKEEPING SERVICES EFFICIENCY, Ellen Blosch, owner, 6357 Dixie Drive, WestJordan, Utah 84084 (Res) ..... . ...... . .. .. ... . ...... . ... . .... .. ..... . ... . .... [phone] Solution to housekeeping problems. ORGANIZATION! A place for everything and everything in its place. Guaranteed throrough cleaning, weekly, bi-weekly or monthly. Insured, bonded. One less holiday hassle. We do before and after holiday clean-up. THE FINER TOUCH, Linda Norton, owner, 9306 Quail Hollow Drive, Sandy, Utah 84092 .......... . ... . .. .......... . ........ . ......... . .. . .......... . [phone] Give yourselfa lift! Have more time on your hands! A thorough cleaning service, weekly, semi-monthly and monthly Holiday cleaning a pleasure. WHITE GLOVE HOME CLEANING, Leana Christison, owner, 120 East 5600 South, [phone] Murray, Utah 84107 (Res} . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ..................... 263-1304 A professional maid service foryoureveryday needs with appointments taken weekly, bi-tNeekly and monthly. We supply our own cleaning products and most equipment necessary to do an excellentjob. Laundry and ironing service also available. Now serving Bountiful and Farmington areas. INSURANCE BECK, JULIE M. Equitable Life Assurance Co., life, health and disabi;ity, 420 East South Temple, Suite 550, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111. . . . ......... . .... . [phone] ril l1i! 1I R2~1111 / .. l !l [~!lllilltlif:l!i<•. I iliit:f:Jl:JW~h\Jb.ii:'A~J\)Jc•:::;:;:: : : i:;:1,11i,:: -.-••_.·.· ..•,• :::::::::::::::: .. ····.·'.·:·.·: -·-··•···· < ~-- -... _·_·_.:··-:•:-: /~/\f\//}{ ·=:: =:::=:=:;~:~:~:~·~. :. -·.·.· jl:l :l ij1H.~l~i\!l'.!t!~:N(~'l3¥:\ jJgfij§\BfobJ.~n4J:>frt!/ .•. ,-: : '. $.:9Q~;Qtt\A$:~S~:l\$)/ ::::::::.:::-::=-- -· Judy Barnard -:•:-·, J]:JJ:{J:\::FF.@M!NtfJo:eA$./U LIE DETECTION WESTERN STATES POLYGRAPH, Julie Bateman, owner, pre-employment screening, 2880 South Main, Suite 115, Salt Lake City, Utah 84115 . ....... . .. .. [phone] MEN WHO WANT TO BE LISTED IN A WOMEN'S INDEX BENNETT, ROBERT, M.S.W., Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Individual, Family and Child Therapy, 515 South 700 East, Suite 3Q, Saltlake City, Utah 84102 .. . . . .. .. [phone] BERK, HOWARDS., M.D., Obstetrics and Gynecology, 1002 East South Temple, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 .... .. ... . ... . .. .... . . ..... . .......... . ...... [phone] BORGENICHT, LOU, M.D., Pediatrician, 850 East 300 South, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 ..... . .... . ... ... . .... . .. . . ... .. ...... . ...... ... . ... . . .... . .. [phone] CUTLER, CRAIG J., 0.0., optometrist, 247 South 500 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 841 02 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . [phone] HILTON, C.H., Ph.D, Feminist Therapist, Individual, Family & Child, Divorce & Custody, Mediation, Clinical and Consulting Psychology, 533 26th Street, Ogden, Utah 84401. ..... . ....... . ... . . . ... . ............... . ................ [phone] HOLT, REED L., D.D.S., Dentist, 935 East South Temple, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 .......................... . ...... . ... . .................. [phone] O'BRIEN SCHOOL OF REAL ESTATE AND INSURANCE, 58 East 3750 South, Salt Lake City, Utah 84115. ... . ..... ... .. .. . .. ... . ... .. . . .. . . ..... ... ... .. . (80t) 266-5613 SUITOR, M. LEE., B.A., B.Mus., M.M., expert musical instruction, piano and organ, studios in Holladay and Sandy, 284 M Street, 6876 South Highland Drive, Salt Lake City, Utah 84103.... . ..... . .. . .... . ...... . .... ... ....... . ... .. .. .. ... [phone] Ability to enthuse beginners; the background for more advanced students to analyze technical problems and help unfold the beauty of music. A teacher with both Paderewski and Franck in his musical heritage. NETWORKS AND SERVICES INTERNATIONAL TRAINING IN COMMUNICATION, Lola Stuewe (Toastmistress), 2467 Redondo Avenue, Salt Lake City, Utah 84108. .............. . .. . ....... [phone] NATIONAL ASSOCIATION OF WOMEN IN CONSTRUCTION (NAWIC), Linda . Kofford, president, 1476 Major Street, Salt Lake City, Utah 84115 ......... .. ... [phone] NATIONAL COUNCIL OF JEWISH WOMEN, Marsha Cord, 3173 Hollyhock Hill, Salt Lake City, Utah 84121 .... . .... . .... . ................ . . ... . ........ [phone] OLDER WOMEN'S LEAGUE (OWL), Kay Denton, president, 1992 South 2nd East, Saltlake City, Utah 84115 ..... . .. . ..... . . .. .... . ... . ... ... . . ...... .... [phone] PHOENIX INSTITUTE, Jenifer Behling, 352 Denver Street, Salt Lake City, Utah 84 111 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . [phone] PROFESSIONAL SECRETARIES INTERNATIONAL, Sal-Ute Chapter, Ardith Winn, President, PO Box 2188, Salt Lake City, Utah 8411 Q . . .. ............. .. ...... [phone] SALT LAKE BUSINESS AND PROFESSIONAL WOMEN (BPW), Patti Besselievre, president, 569 East 6900 South, Midvale, Utah 84047 ...... . .... . ..... . .. . . . [phone] SINGLE PARENT NEWS, Utah Issues, 231 East 100 South, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 .. . ... . ......... . .......... . . . ... . ..... . .......... . .. .. . . .. . . [phone] START, Utah Issues, 231 East 100 South, Lower Level, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 ... [phone] UTAH ASSOCIATION OF WOMEN BUSINESS OWNERS, Julie Beck, president, c/o Equitable Life, 420 East South Temple, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 ..... . ... . . . .. [phone] UTAH MATH SCIENCE NETWORK, Verlaine McPhie, President, PO Bo,s 8806, Salt Lake City, Utah 84108. .. . . ....... . ...... . .. . . . .. . .. . . ... .... ) ... .. .. . . [phone] WOMEN IN BUSINESS, Vickie Schoenfeld, Chair, Salt Lake Area Chamber of Commerce, 19 East 200 South, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 . . .. . . .. . . .......... [phone] WOMEN IN COMMUNICATION, Nancy Mitchell, president, P.O. Box 2162, Salt Lake City, Utah 84110-2162 . . . . . . . . ....... .. ......... . ... . ... . . . ... . .. [phone] WOMEN'S INFORMATION NETWORK, Linda Jensen, 350 East 500 South, Suite 200, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 .. . ...... . .... . .... . .. . . .. . . ... . .. . .... .. [phone] l !~li:l t~li!•l!illii~ll ... . -. :···:;::::::: :::.::;::<::::::::::::::::::::;::: :.::::::: INTERIOR DESIGN LABRETT INTERIORS, Loretta G. Falvo, Brent L. Moosman, co-owners, 2182 Highland Drive, Salt Lake City, Utah 84106 .... . ... . ....... . .... . .. . ....... [phone] A support association for women who own businesses or work independently within a business. For more information, call Julie Beck, 364-7751 1 11 ;; ···::::::::::\::::=::~:'.::;:-:- BECK, MARVA, agent, State Farm Insurance, Auto, Home, Business, Life, and Health, 720 East 10600South, Sandy, Utah 84070 . .. . ... . .... . .. ... . .... . . . [phone] CROCCO, VICKI A., registered representative; disability, income, variable life, IRAs, John Hancock Mutual Life Insurance Company, 350 East 500 South, Suite 200, P.O. Box 1288, Saltlake City, Utah 84110 . . . ........ .. ... . ....... .. .. . . .. . [phone] LONG, CHARLENE, agent, State Farm Insurance, auto, home, business, life, and health, 2025 East 9400 South, Sandy, Utah 84092 . . . . . . . . . . . . ...... ... .... [phone] SMITH, DOTTIE, health, life and dental insurance, Blue Cross and Blue Shield, P.O. Box 30270, Salt Lake City, Utah 84130-0270.. . . . .. . .... . ........ . .... . .... [phone] SMITH, HOLLY, insurance agent, John Smith Insurance Agency, 155 South 300 [phone] West, Suite 102, Salt Lake City, Utah 84101. ... . ..... . .. . . . : . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 277-4878 Specializing in hair cutting and in the latest coloring techniques and perms The Hair Consortium 2352 Foothill Blvd. 487-8923 • TELL OUR ADVERTISERS THAT YOU SAW THEM IN Chrysalis Body Development network NowAt 401 East 900 South, SLC 328-0069 Weightlifting • Yoga Classes Personalized Instruction Congenial Atmosphere Co-Ed • All Ages • All Levels Dance France wear available DECEMBER 1985 / NETWORK 35 Women's Index listings are paid advertising. One phone call will arrange your listing. Call 532-6095 today. WOMEN'S POLITICALCAUCUS,Adrianna Sampson, Chair, PO box 8745, Salt Lake City, Utah 84108. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ...... ... . . ... . ..... . [phone] WOMEN'S RESOURCE CENTER, Susanne Millsaps, 293 Union Building, University of Utah, Salt Lake City, Utah 84112 . . .......... . . [phone] YWCA, Jane Langford, 322 East 300 South, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 ... . .. . .... [phone] OGDEN & NORTHERN UTAH YWCA OF NORTHERN UTAH, Margo Horton, President. Gaye Littleton, Exec. Director. 505 27th Street, Ogden, Utah 84403 . . . .. .. . . . .... .. [phone] YWCA OF NORTHERN UTAH, Box Elder Center. Carolyn Krejci, Coordinator. 435 East 700 South, Suite 1, Brigham City, Utah 84302 ............. . .. .. ..... . .. [phone] OPTOMETRISTS BENNETT, COLLEEN, O.D., Optometrist, children's vision and vision therapy, 2319 Highland Drive, Saltlake City, Utah 84106 ............. .. ..... . ... . . .. .. .. [phone] PAPERHANGER MATOGA, ANKE, Paper Hanger, 1289 Stratford Avenue, Salt Lake City, Utah 84106 ..... ... . . . .. ..... ........... .... ... .. . . . .... .. .... .. . .. .. ... [phone] PHYSICIANS BURKI, REGULA E., M.D., Gynecology & Obstetrics, Highland Plaza, Suite 302, 3450 Highland Drive, Salt Lake City, Utah 84106.... . .. . ..... . ..... . . .. . . ... [phone] . Specializing in osteoporosis, hormone replacement therapy, bladder incontinence and other problems related to menopause as well as pelvic and vaginal reconstructive surgery. Also special interest in providing gynecological care to adolescent women. FREESH, MARY C. M.D., Family and General Practice, Complete Family Care, Pioneer Medical Plaza, 3449 South Pioneer Parkway (4155 West), Suite 7, (Next to Pioneer Valley Hospital) West Valley City, Utah 84120...... ... . .... ... . ...... [phone] PRINTING HENRIE, TANYA, owner, Anchor Printing & Graphics, 2191 South 300 West, Salt Lake City, Utah 84115 ...... . .......... ... ... . ................. .. . . ... [phone] MARTINEZ, PAM, Owner, Printing Impressions, Member Utah Supplier Development Council. Commercial Printing : business stationery, NCR forms, brochures, flyers, etc., 1144 South Main, Salt Lake City, Utah 84101 . ........... [phone] 365 North Main, Bountiful, Utah 84010 ..................... . ............ [phone] NICHOLES, KRIS, printing sales. Quality Press, 633 North 400 West, Salt Lake City, Utah 84103. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . [phone] NICHOLAISEN, JOENE, owner/printer, The Copy Right, 423 South 500 East, Salt LakeCity,Utah84102 . .. .. .. . .. . .. . . ... . . . . ... ... . ... . . . . .......... . . [phone] PUBLIC RELATIONS GILLHAM PUBLIC RELATIONS, Suzanne Dutilly, Manager, 15 East 100 South, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111. . . . ........ . . .. . . ..... ... ........... . .. . .... .. .. [phone] An affiliate of Gillham Advertising, we are a full service public relations agency. We can serve your needs in Special Events Planning, Corporate Identity, Financial Public Relations and Media Relations. REAL ESTATE ANDERSON, COLLEEN, Realtor, Broker-Associate GRI, Carli & Company, 2050 South 700 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84105 • Work ..... . ..... . . .. .. . .. . ....... .. .... ... . . ... . ... ... ... .. ..... .. [phone] Residence office. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. ... . .... [phone] BEAM, SANDI, Real Estate Broker/Securities Agent, co-owner, Enterprise Realty and Properties, 947 Sterling Drive, Salt Lake City, Utah 84116 . . ......... . ..... [phone] BERE REGIS REALTY, Maggie Gezon, broker/owner/sales, 430 East South Temple, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 (home) . .. . . . ... . ......... . . . ... . ......... . .. . [phone] business . . ...... . ......... . . . . . . : . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 532-1424 (BERGER) ARNOLD, KAY, owner, real estate broker, Kohagen/Berger Realtors, 1527 South 1500 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84105 . ... . . . . . . . .... . .. . . .. . .. . [phone] FULLER, LYLA, Hooper-Ballstaedt Realtors, 470 East 3900 South, Suite 200, Salt [phone] Lake City, Utah 84107. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 266-2476 GUMP, MARJORIE B., co-owner, Gump and Ayers Real Estate, 2120 South 1300 [phone] East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84106 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 582-8590 HARWARD, JOANNE, investment broker, Coldwell Banker Commercial Real Estate Services, First Interstate Building, 170 South Main, Suite 1200, Salt Lake City, Utah 84101 ................... . . .. .................... .. ....... . ....... . [phone] SHEPHERD, JEAN, Associate Broker/Owner, Realtor, Realty World, Shepherd/Realty World Pre-licensing School, 2780 Madison Ave., Ogden, Utah 84403 ........ . ... . ... . . . . . ............... . . ... ... .... ... . ......... [phone] STILWELL, LEISA C., Real Estate Broker, Ivy Lane Property, 1600 South Main, Salt Lake City, Utah 84115. ............... . .... .. .. . .. . . . . . ... .. .......... . [phone] YELDERMAN, VI, real estate agen't, Hooper Ballstaedt Realtors, 470 East 3900 South, Suite #200, Salt Lake City, Utah 84107. . ................ . ........... [phone] WHITE GLOVE HOME CLEANING A professional maid service for your tNerY day needs. Laundry and ironing service available. Com.merdal and Residential Leana Christison 263-1304 Insured and Bonded SECOND HAND STORES ec.lec.tic. (e-klek-tik) adj. gathered from various sources, Pam Stone Bentley, Kristin Hopfenbeck, owners, 466 E. South Temple, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 ..... . ................ •... .'.. . ....... . ..... [phone] ec. lec. tic, a high class second-hand store is exactly what its name implies. The clientele is as diverse as its merchandise. a carefully chosen collection of clothing, glass, linen, jewelry, collectibles, and antique furniture. A shopping treat! STOCKBROKERS CURTIS, BARBARA J., account executive, E. F. Hutton, 215 West 100 North, Provo, •Utah 84601, Utah toll free . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . [phone] TELEPHONE/ANSWERING SERVICES MEMORY, INC. Marsha Coulter and Carey Ellen Laurella, owners, 1214 Wilmington Avenue, Suite 102, Saltlake City, Utah 84106 ......... .. ... .... .. .... ..... [phone] Memory, Inc. offers the most advanced answering service available. Ifyou 're paying more than $20. 00 a month for answering service, don't! At Memory, Inc. that'sall you pay! Pagers, & Cellular Car Phones also available. QUALITY ANSWERING SERVICE, Rebecca Anne Reed, owner, telephone answering service, 445 East 200 South, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111. . . . Ifyou miss your calls, you 're losing money. For only $45 per month, we will give and take messages for you from 7 a.m. to 6 p.m. [phone] 521-7606 THERAPISTS GANDER, ANITA, M.S.W ., clinical social worker, licensed marriage and family counselor, Salt Lake City, Utah ; office. . . . . ................. . . . [phone] home . .. . . .. .... ... . . ... . ........... . .. .. ... . ..... ... . . ... . ... .. .. [phone] JANIAK, BETTY, Ph.D. licensed psychologist, individual marriage and family therapy, 425 East 5350 South, Suite 305, Ogden, Utah 84403 ..... . ... . ....... [phone] 118 East First North, Brigham City, Utah 84032 ............... . ........... . [phone] MASLIYAH, JUDY, M.A.., individual, marriage and family therapist, consultant, trainer, 3761 South 700 East, Suite 200, Salt Lake City, Utah 84106 . ... ....... . . [phone] MATTIS, NOEMI, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist, feminist orientation, 299 Federal Heights Circle, Salt Lake City, Utah 84103 ....... . ............ . ............ [phone] MCCOLLUM, LANELLE, D.S.W., Psychotherapist: Individual, Couple, Family and Group Therapy, 545 East4500 South, Suite E-260, Salt Lake City, Utah 84107 .... [phone] MENDELSOHN, MARCIA, Ph.D., licensed psychologist, Individual, Marriage, Divorce, Women's Issues. 5624 Indian Rock Road, Holladay, Utah 84117 . ...... . [phone] PLENK, AGNES, Ph.D., psychologist, The Children's Center, 1855 Medical Circle, Salt Lake City, Utah 84112 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ..... . .. [phone] PRICE, LINDA, licensed psychologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, 182 South 600 East, Suite 203, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102 ........................ [phone] TALBOT, VALERIE, R.N., M.S., Psychiatric Clinical Specialist, Individual, Family and Group Therapy, 4720 South 700 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84107........ . ... .. . [phone] WHITTAKER, MARY BETH, M.S.W., Licensed clinical social worker, eating disorders; children's groups; individual, couples and family therapy; The Salt Lake Child & Family Therapy Clinic, 515 South 700 East, Suite 3Q, Salt Lake City, Utah 84102. . . .................................... . . [phone] TRAINING COMMUNICATIONS TRAINING, Phoenix Institute, 352 Denver Street, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .......... . . [phone] SALES TRAINING, Phoenix Institute, 352 Denver Street, Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 . . . .. ........................ . ................ . ......... [phone] TRAVEL SERVICES ATLAS TOURS AND TRAVEL, INC., Nedra Hansen-Potter, owner, 4835 Highland Drive, Suite 269, Salt lake City, Utah 84117 ............. . ... . ..... .. . . ..... [phone] INTERNATIONAL TRAVEL LTD., Edith Bennett, owner, 1515 South Redwood Road, Salt Lake City, Utah 84104 .... .. . . .... . . . ... . ...... : ...... . ....... [phone] WHOLESALER WHOLESALE DESIGNER WREATHS, Peggy Neumeyer, Ribbons & Wreaths, P.O. Box 520881, Salt Lake City, Utah 84152-0881. . . . ....... [phone] Give your business a holiday boost wl wholesale designer wreaths from Ribbons & Wreaths. We can coordinate to accent any decor. Perfect for window dressing. Holiday Special: buy 12, get one free. WORD PROCESSING MAIRE, BOBBI, owner, Maire Graphics, 1214 East Wilmington, No. 102, Salt Lake City, Utah 84106.... . ... .. ...... . .. . ...... . .......................... [phone] WRITING SERVICES STONE, EILEEN, writer, editor, researcher, 2142 South 1900 East, Salt Lake City, Utah 84106. ..... . .................... . .................. . .......... [phone] 36 NETWORR / DECEMBER 1985 The right book II by Ann Berman and Betsy Burton ncle George is a bit long in the tooth (he's 87), and not much on clothes or hobbies. His wardrobe consists of an ancient suit for funerals, an aged cardigan, several flannel shirts, and baggy trousers which he claims he has had since the war (we wouldn't want to guess which war!). While it's true he used to garden, now he simply sits in the sunny window, chewing on the pipe the doctor no longer allows him to smoke, and imagines the nasturtiums and sweet peas, the dahlias and phlox. He DOES read (military history, of all things), and he lo'{es to tell stories on those rare occasions when he can find someone willing to listen. In recent years Uncle George has been given 11 cardigans (two ofwhich he has actually worn), three pipes, two gardening spades and a tobacco canister. It's time for a change. So what does one give Uncle George? What does one give anyone, for that matter? We know. A book. TheRIGHTbook. And there is a right book for everyone. The enormous variety of books published these days makes it possible to please almost any interest, almost any eccentricity. In our experience, most friends and family members could be described as at least mildly eccentric. There are also wrong books. Both of us still remember waiting at Christmas for the book that was always the best present. It was the one we held till last, the present which held all the world within its wrappings, the present to curl up with on Christmas afternoon while brothers and sisters played with mere toys. Both ofus remember years when the Christmas book was a dud. One of us got a gift from an aunt, One God: The Ways We Worship Him. Non-fiction. A "learning" experience. For the other, age 13, Stories for Adolescent Girls. Nothing of interest to adolescent girls would ever be called THAT! But more often than not, our joyful expectation was met with a book that fit. As now grown book people, we believe that there is a RIGHT book for everyone one book and often more to match each eccentric member ~fa family, every minor eccentricity offriends. We would like to suggest some to you. For Uncle George, who needs no more cardigans, The Oxford Book ofMllitasy .Anecdotes, edited by Max Hastings. This book tells tales that illustrate military conditions through the ages, by turns comic, eccentric, heroic, tragic. Uncle George may One Less Holiday • • aHass1e.,• G • • " • • " Give • •Efficiency Gift • • " Certificates " " .. . . . , " Domestic or Commercial • Cleaning • • " also " Before and After Party e •Clean Up~ a • • a Efficiency • • • • • 964-2034 Res. It's immoral not to give a child a book for Christmas and almost a crime to neglect your reading relatives as well. 'Il1e i\rt & Life of (;eorgia ()'Keeflt~ have been in the first world war; this book is suitable for the many men who have been through more recent wars as well. Another possibility for Uncle George, since he no longer ertjoys the practical gardening books which abound each year, and which delight active gardeners, would be Visions ofParadise: Themes and Variations on the Garden, by Marian Schinz. This is a full size picture book containing lavish color photographs from the loveliest theme gardens in Western Europe - a wonderful book to sit and dream over on a winter day. Our family of eccentrics also includes an Aunt Mildred. Aunt Mildred is a refined and formidable lady who graduated from Wellesley College in 1918 and is one ofthe two surviving members of a once lively literary club. A book is an obvious choice for Aunt Mildred, but her tastes are pure and it is difficult to choose a book which will survive her sharp eye and even sharper tongue. For Aunt Mildred, or for anyone with catholic but refined literary taste, we have these suggestions: • The Magnificent Spinster by May Sarton. Readers of Sarton's earlier novels such as Mn. Stevens Hears the Mermaids Singing or her journals Uoumal of a Solitude, for one) know they can expect a wann and loving story ofunconventional women. This is the tale of]ane, the spinster teacher, and of Cam, her friend and biographer; these two women led a lively and varied life in New England and in Europe. A moving book. • Letters to Alice on ReadingJane Austen by Fay Weldon. Although Alice isn't real and this is therefore theoretically fiction, it is actually Fay Weldon ·s witty, insightful and often painfully accurate views on fiction, life, and the way they interrelate. e The Acddental Tourist by Anne Tyler. The story ofMacon Leary, a man who appears to let accidents shape his life, rather than choice, is chock full ofwonderful characterization. Aunt Mildred's third husband, Thomas, is considerably younger than his bride of 12 years (she's 86, he's only 67) and every bit as literary. He was, in fact, a professor of English until he retired two years ago. He is as much a stickler for style and substance as she is. For Uncle Thomas, whom we do want to be happy with his Christmas book, there are three new and intriguing novels. • The Maggot byJohn Fowles. A darkly complex tale that is at once gothic horror story, detective fiction and philosophical novel, this is as intriguing as The Preach Lieutenant's Women. We loved it. • World'sfairbyE. L. Doctorow. The memories of a boy growing up in New York in the 1930s, it is light, fun reading which finally, almost imperceptibly, gathers into a family novel of power and insight. • The House of the Spirits by Isabel Allende. This prize-winning novel, only recently translated into English, is written by the niece ofthe late leader of Chile. It is the story ofthe de Valle family, in an unnamed South American country, and particularly of the daughter Clara and her magical powers. Allende, with the story-telling ability of]ohn Irving, has produced a powerful novel ofthe South American struggle between democracy and totalitarianism. One ofthe best we have read this year. Aunt Mildred·s son Frederick is literary too, and incredibly scholarly, even obsessive in his scholarship. Once he is interested in a subject his curiosity demands knowledge of every facet; he wants to be an authority and so acquires knowledge often equivalent to a doctorate. For Frederick, The Inman Diaries, edited by Daniel Aaron, is perfect. The diary, covering a period of over 60 years, tells the minutiae of one man's life, internal and neurotic, and at.the same time explores the world in which he lives. Jonathan, Aunt Mildred's second son, is similar to Frederick only in his love of books. He would consider The Inman Diaries deadly dull. His favorite recent books were The World According to Garp and Eva Cowgirls Get the Blues. ForJonathan: • Oder Bouse Rules byJohn Irving. This novel is more thematic and more serious than Garp. It deals with abortion and presents both sides ofthe question quite fairly. The characters are as quirky and likeable as any oflrving's, and the novel itself is lively and touching. • Galapagos by Kurt Vonnegut. Funnier, more carefully crafted and at base meatier than Vonnegut's previous few. This is the tale of humankind as an evolutionary mistake (their brains are too big), trying to evolve into more suitable forms. The third son in Mildred's family has interests less literary. He developed an early appreciation for good writing, but hates novels. This brother, Max, prefers light non-fiction to anything heavily historical, and with his quirky sense of humor likes books which don't take themselves too seriously. ForMax: • House by Tracy Kidder. Told with the same verve as Soul of a New Machine, this non-fiction book narrates the building ofa house from the point ofview ofthe architect, the builder, and the couple to whom it will belong. In so doing, it imparts interesting detail as well as intriguing social history. • Lake Wobegone Days by Garrison Keillor. For those who listen to "Prairie Home EATING DISORDERS PROGRAM BULIMIA, ANOREXIA, COMPULSIVE EATING * Assessments/ evaluations * Individual therapy * Group therapy * Family therapy * Couples therapy Margaref Thon)pson, MSW, LCSW Mary Beth Whittaker, MSW, LCSW The Salt Lake Child and Family Therapy Clinic 515 South 700 East Suite 3Q 521-5068 24 HOUR TELEPHONE PERSONAL ADS 55¢ first min. 45¢ add'l min. + toll charges outside Salt Lake Metro Area Use your telephone number or a private P .0. Box for response to your personal ad. DECEMBER 1985 / NETWORK37 " ~ _ _ _ _ : _ ; _ _ _ _ _ - - - - - = - - - - ~ , Companion··and for anyone else who loves humor, Keillor's history ofLake Wobegon is - well - perfect. • Table of Contents byJohn McPhee. As always, McPhee 's pieces in this collection cover a broad range both geographically and subject-wise. Sure to delight his many fans. The last member ofAunt Mildred's family.Jane, is made of sterner _stuff. She is a feminist, highly political, and likes only fiction that is as political as she is. Her taste in non-fiction runs to history and psychology. ForJane: • The Goo~ TeffOrist by Doris Lessing. Lessing's work is often depressing, always enlightening. In this, her most recent novel, she turns to current political life and the issue of terrorism. • Beyond Power by Marilyn French. The author ofThe Women's Room investigates the nature and effects of.power in patriarchal society and suggests that unless we develop a morality historically considered to be feminine, we are headed for totalitarianism. • The Weaker Vessel by Antonia Fraser. The details ofthe lives of ordinary women in 17th Century England make fascinating reading. Now available in an attractive paperback. • Jealousy by Nancy Friday. The author of My Mother Myself examines the often unconscious role jealousy plays in the lives of both women and men. Quite possibly your family is not as eccentric as ours (or are we just more willing to admit it?); still, there are categories of books which appeal to people of certain interests. The following may give you some ideas. For a nature lover who considers fiction a waste oftime, but who appreciates human interest: • The Flamingo's Smile by StephenJay Gould. Reflections on natural history by a master ofthe subject, this book informs, intrigues, and delights. • Isak Dillesen 's Africa, from Sierra Club Books. Beautifully photographed images ofAfrica are accompanied by Dinesen's wonderfully descriptive prose. • Dream Tracks byT. C. Mduhan. A collection ofunique hand colored photographs commissioned at the tum ofthe century by the Santa Fe Railroad Commission. This book is a beautiful and evocative record of Hopi and Navajo life and ritual. For a factually oriented businessman who likes his non-fiction unadorned: • The Long March by Harrison Salisbury. The story of the Red Army's 25, 000-mile march across China as they fled the Chiang Kai-shek legions; it is dramatic, intriguing and accurate, as is all of Salisbury's history. • Evidence of Things Not Seen by James Baldwin. Baldwin, a talented and moving writer, uses the Atlanta child murders as a take-off point for discussing life in black and white America. • Common Ground byJ. Anthony Lukas. A social history of desegregation in the Boston schools, this is also a moving personal account ofthree families, black and white, who lived through it. For the person who loves art and photography and the classics, but who rarely has time to read: • Gisele Freund, Photographer. This spectacular collection of photographs over Freund's 50-year career is accompanied by her own prose describing many ofthis century's most significant artists and writers. • Ansel Adams, An Autobiography. While this book may suffer a little from the fact that it is not entirely chronological, the story ofAdam ·s career as a photographer, of his friends in the world of photography, and his connections with the Sierra Club (and of course his clean and wondrous photographs) make this book a special treat. • The Art and Life of Georgia O'Reefe byJan Garden Castro. A look at the fascinating life and career of one ofthe most Gray. Women interested in high fashion will enjoy this novel of the New York world. And, of course, the children. We believe it is close to immoral not to give a child a book at Christmas. For young children: , ' e The Night Book by Mark Strand. This combines the charming illustrations of William Pene Dubois with Strand's poet's imagination and sure ear for language. • King Bidgood's in the Bathtub. Lilting, silly, and an altogether wonderful read-aloud book • When I'm Sleepy byJane Howard. Illustrated by Lynne Cherry, this is the perfect bedtime story. • lfYou Give a Mouse a Cookie by Laura Joffe Numeroff. Another great read-aloud book which will make children laugh. • The Polar Express by Peter Van Allsberg. As evocative and beautifully illustrated a Christmas story as we've seen. • Only One Woof byJames Herriott. A touching tale offriendship between two Scottish Border Collies, this can be read aloud to pre-readers, or given to children up to 7 or 8 years old. • Between Cattails by Terry Tempest Williams. Talented (and local) author Williams brings her naturalist joy and poetic important artists of the 20th Century. It is fully genius to this tale of the marsh and the creatures that inhabit it. Beautifully illustrated illustrated by her own work as well as by that by the award-winning Peter Pamall. ofAlfred Stieglitz. e The King, the Cat and the Fiddle by For the mystery fan: • Yehudi Menuhin. A delight for any young • Deer Leap by Martha Grimes. This musician, particularly a string player, and for newest from a top-notch mystery writer is replete with English lords, English pubs, any adult for whom the arts are a major part English detectives, and helpless but oflife. appealing English children. Darker than her • The Willow Maiden by Meghan usual, but good. Collins. A gorgeously illustrated tale of • Upon Some Midnight Oear by KC. mystery and magic. Constantine. A police procedural by the And for older children: author ofAlways a Body to Trade, it is, like • Amy's Eyes by Richard Kennedy. A the Grimes, a dark but good book. wonderful fantasy about a girl and her sailor • The Secrets ofHany Bright byJoseph doll - or is it a sailor and his little girl doll? Wambaugh. For those who avidly devoured • WorldTreasuryofChildren's The Onion field and The Black Marble, this Literature. An astonishing collection of some new Wambaugh is full of danger and black of the world's best authors, this is perfect for humor. children who love to read. For anyone who wants a good read, not • Finally, one of the best books ever too serious: written for children (and for adults as well), • The Mammoth Hunters byJean Auel. The Yearling, has come out in a beautiful This sequel to The Can of the Cave Bear new edition illustrated by Andrew Wyeth. promises to be one ofthe biggest sellers of May you have a happy holiday season the year. and may every one ofyour eccentric family And for the woman who wants a good and friends find themselves opening the right read: book for Christmas! • After the Reunion by RonaJaffe.Jaffe has been writing fiction about women's lives • Ann Berman is a librarian at the Foothill for some 25 years. This tells the stories of branch of the Salt Lake Public Library. Betsy four women who were friends in college, Burton is the owner of the King's English after their 20th reunion. Bookstore. • October Blood by Francine du Plessix DECORATING DEN OFFERS A GIFT FOR THE HOME TO LAST ALL YEARLONG HOLIDAY AND EVERYDAY STYLISH COMFORTABLE EASY CARE SHOES - WE HAVE THE BEST 'SELECTION OF STYLES AND SIZES (AA-EE) Junfor BoOteffo . ~ • •• ~ c:<> ',:,, ?, .. , ~ : : - - . : : Janet Vesterfelt 278-4551 Gift Certificates that can be applied toward draperies, carpet, wallcovering ~;;;:::::==::::=:;=~ and furniture. It's timesaving, convenient shopping for you and a sure to please remembrance for someone special. 3949 HIGHLAND DRIVE 278-7272 __ - :__ 1"e colorful sfont that comes to Voll' door. See us at the Christmas Show sponsored by the Utah Heart Association, Salt Palace, Dec. 6, 7, 8. 38NETWORR / DECEMBER 1985 THE INTEGRI1Y TRAP This one is for all the women who lost the war because they were unable to see that victory is won in small increments over time. By Reba L. Keele, with research and assistance by Sheri J. Bushnell T he discussion raged over lunch. Three professional women dissected the response of one oftheir co-workers to a proposal that theyjoin together to influence management to fill a newly open position with a woman. They say that Vickie has '' crumbled on this issue.'' Her reason for not attempting to influence this decision is based on information that management has an ' opportunity to fill the spot with a man whom they have been seeking to hire for six months. Her alternative solution is to support the decision to hire the man in exchange for a firm agreement that they will recruit women more aggressively in all future openings. "I have always trusted Vickie before," says one woman, "but not now." Lynne, on the other hand, has had a predictable response, they say. "She never takes a stand on anything." Lynne's answer to management reluctance to hire more women into the organization is to work harder and prove again and again that she is competent. Lynne is quoted as saying, "We can't risk taking stands that will be used against us personally or against all women." Finally, they talk about Carolyn. The women at lunch like Carolyn. She has courage and is consistent. "One thing you further defines a leader as one who gets things done by achieving incremental goals. This definition implies that compromise is required on individual issues if a leader is to eventually achieve a long-range goal. Leaders do not hesitate to lose a battle in order to win a war. Yet, they are often criticized, especially by women, for lacking integrity when they compromise. The balancing act between idealism and pragmatism is continuous. Knowing when compromise is appropriate is a leadership skill that is essential to'm anagers on the way up. The costs of rigidity is high. Carolyn, for example, is seen in her organization as "a person who is difficult to work with." A.s a result, much of her expertise is lost, even though she is the best qualified person in her field in the state. The people she works with tend to shut her out as soon as the familiar intensity creeps into her voice. This is even true of those who agree with her. Her ideas are accepted only when someone else (typically male) adopts them as his own and presents them. No one doubts her integrity, and no one believes that she is effective enough to make a difference in the organization. At the other extreme, Lynne - who Although we would all like to believe we are like Sir Galahad (with the strength of 10 because our hearts are pure), our ideas and issues rarely succeed because of purity or inherent rightness. have to say for her is that she never backs believes it is important not to be perceived as down." Yet, they are aware that Carolyn's biased on issues - is simply seen as weak. actions sometimes cause a backlash that isn't No one seeks out her support or counts her helpful to their cause. "I know that she makes as part of a coalition because she won't speak people uncomfortable, and that theydon't up. Lynne is unable to make any positive listen to her, but at least she has integrity." change in the organization and she is not Their discussion centers on the philosophy of seen as a person of consequence. the three women in question. The issue itself Then there is Vickie. Though the women is not the focus. The three women are around the lunch table accused her oflacking labeled. Vickie is compromised. Lynne'is integrity, we disagree. From our point of weak. Carolyn has integrity. view, she is profoundly realistic. Those with The real issue being discussed, of course, the most power in her organization trust her is power. Which ofthese women have it, an~ judgment. She has a strong web of how do they - or how should they - use it. connections that give her accurate The discussion above illustrates t}:le tendency information about the forces and ofwomen to approach their power indirectly. counter-forces which always swirl around Instead of talking about the strategy they any decision. She keeps track of the favors would use to accomplish a goal, they talk she has done for others, and she is a reliable about the personal style ofthe women in resource for many important and influential question. The thread that binds the managers. They know she keeps her word. conversation is a judgment, made according They are, in tum, willing to help her when she to how tough and consistent the women are. asks, providing the request is appropriate Compromise is seen as a loss ofintegrity. A and her .. credit" with them is good. For this decision to negotiate in order to influence is reason, Vickie is careful before she tries to judged as a sell-out. influence management decisions. She Rosabeth Moss Kanter, author ofMen calculates how much credit it will cost her. and Women of the Corporation, defines She considers whether she will be using up power as the ability to get things done. She credit now that she will need later. On this issue her sources tell her that the man the company wants to hire is widely recognized as one ofthe best in the country. There are no women to compare. For the first time in six months, he has expressed a willingness to come West. Top management wants to hire this man into the only open position available, but they plan to move him into another as soon as possible. The contested position will, therefore, soon be openagain. Vickie wants a woman to be hired but she believes that insisting on hiring one into this slot at this time is a mistake. If they force the issue and succeed, she reasons it will cost them more than they'll gain. There will be residual bad feelings and those may make it more difficult to hire women in the future. However, if they support the appointment of the man in exchange for an agreement that the organization will be committed to • recruiting women in the future, she believes, they will win more in the long run. Is Vickie trying to separate herself from other women and side with management in order to gain points and attention in her own behalf? Is her reasoning merely a rationale for copping out? The way to tell is to look at Vickie's long-range goals. Clearly, she is trying to gather more power for future attempts to influence management, and she is ready to make specific requests about future hiring policies. Her task would be accomplished more easily ifthose she most needs support from - her female co-workers - could switch their focus from making personal judgments about her intentions to an analysis of the situation and the goals they are all trying to achieve. Focusing on Vickie means not focusing on strategy. And that can be expensive. Although we would all like to believe we are like Sir Galahad (with the strength of 10 because our hearts are pure), our ideas and issues rarely succeed because of purity or inherent rightness. Herschel, in The Insecurity ofPreedom, says that "ideas have power, ideas have life. But no idea has self-perpetuating power, no idea is assured of immortal life. The life of an idea depends upon the commitment of people to it." In short, no idea is good enough to survive on its own and no idea is bad enough to die on its own. Women in organizations need to fight for and against ideas, not for and against each other. We must be effective and balanced as we work toward realizing our goals, not idealistic and dogmatic. The narrower women are in their allegiance to specific goals, the more likely women within an organization are to be divided and ineffective. Sometimes immediate and complete attainment of an ideal must be compromised to gain incremental goals. Mutual adjustment instead of hard bargaining can lead to winning wars even if some battles along the way are lost. The fear that compromise taints commitment or makes us ineffective is not based in reality. If progress toward a long-range goal is made, the compromise was worthwhile. Integrity is preserved; individual power multiplies. The questions to ask when these situations arise are: • What is the larger goal I am working toward? • What relationship does this issue have to that goal? • What are the personal costs of compromising or not compromising? • What are the costs to others (especially women) ifl compromise on this issue? Ifl don't? • • Are the benefits of compromise strictly personal? • What can't be compromised? Am I clear on why? • Will my support or lack of support make any difference, positive or negative? (Remember when Gloria Steinem said to Frances Farley, 'TU come here to speak for you, or stay away and stay silent, whichever will be ofmost help.") • What are the·consequences ofwinning on the issue? •What are the consequences oflosing, personally and collectively? • What is the probability of each? Talking through all those questions and those that grow from them will not guarantee a perfect strategy. However, it will at least ensure that you are struggling with the issues and your long-range goals rather than with each other's motivations and personal styles. I have been a regent for the Utah System of Higher Education for four years. Early in that appointment, I supported and lost an issue that I really cared about. It felt bad. An experienced male regent who had been on the same side saw me looking disconsolate and asked why. I told him and got some advice I've never forgotten. "Don't feel discouraged," he said. "Just get out there and start preparing for the next one." Has the same conditioning that makes me uncomfortable with giving up any part of an ideal made it more difficult for me to keep individual battles in perspective? That regent who gave me advice was not devastated by losing the issue because he saw it as part of a series of confrontations leading to a bigger goal. He drew no conclusions about total defeat or victory based on that one battle. On the other hand, I had focused all my energy on that one vote and felt defeated by the immediate outcome. The longer view is essential ifwomen are going to gain power in organizations. They must have good sources ofinformation and learn to work together to achieve long-range goals. They need to compromise when compromise is appropriate, and be firm when it is not. They need to be clear about their personal and professional goals. Strategic thinking gives comfort. It is thoughtful, active, powerful. It will always, however, be suspect to those who regard any form of compromise as a case oflost integrity. Reba L. Keele is an associate professor of organizational behavior at Brigham Young University. SherlJ. Bushnell is an administrative assistant, nursing, at Cottonwood Hospital Medical Center. DECEMBER1985/NETWORR39 Discover a Bookstore and•••• a computer store a card center an art and engineering epartment ACADEMIC YEAR HOURS Monday-Fridoy 8:00 a .m. to :>:.lV p .m. 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They have many wonderful accessories - espresso machines, Braun coffee grinders, imported thermoses, special mugs, and more. Coffee lovers can be found anytime at The Salt Lake Roasting Company, sipping theirJava in a cozy ambiance of relaxed conversation, good classical and jazz music, and kindred spirits. Visit The Salt Lake Roasting Company, where "Coffee without Compromise" means you will find the best tasting coffee anywhere. They are open 7 a.m. to 11 p.m. weekdays, 7 a.m. to 1 a.m. on Fridays, and8a.m. to 1 a.m. on Saturdays. Let us warm. up your Ch.i-istmas Holul.aits . . t t'.R:ESH ROASTED CO'.FT.EE BEANS . 37 uarieties/grinding auail. the Wonderful Wool Yarns Intertwine YARN&FIBER SUPPLY 130 East 900 South Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 801-363-9305 CO'.FT.EE ~CE880'.R.'LE8 Salt Lake Roasting Cb. coffee mechines,grinders, thermoses, mugs, etc. a.nd.. white you.i- here . ..... . Lunch., Di-nnei- , Pa.stri.es a.nd Coffee wi.thou.t Cornpi-orni.se. 249 E. 400 So. 363-7572 Intertwine The logistics of giving a flock of sheep to your favorite knitter or weaver for the holiday's are staggering. It's a nice thought, but consider this splendid alternative, a trip to Intertwine, the only weaving shop in Utah. Intertwine has a complete selection of supplies, i.e. holiday ideas, in a wide range of prices. They have raw wool, dyes, carders, spinning wheels, new and used looms, patterns, knitting needles, how-to-books, shuttles, imported yams, handmade porcelain and bone buttons, rosewood crochet hooks, natural basket fibers, gift certi&cates and classes (Beginning Weaving beginsJan. 6 and 7, 6 weeks, for $60.) Intertwine has been in business for 14 years and is proud ofits reputation for attentive customer service before and after a purchase. lntertwme - for fiber without the fuss ofa flock! Laura's Interiors New Orientations Lura's Interiors is different from other interior design firms for three important reasons: Laura's Interiors knows what they're doing, they will do what they say and they buy wholesale and pass the 20 to 30 percent savings on to clients. LauraJenkinson, owner ofLaura's Interiors, wants to help clients create rooms that reflect their personalities and lifestyles. "It's fun to get clients in touch with their likes and make their personal spaces better than ever.··To accomplish this task, Laura and her staffvisit clients' homes and give them a" design test" to determine preferred fabrics, textures and furniture styles. She ascertains how clients live and entertain, what they want from each room, and then she finds common links between what they want and what they have. Each ofthe three designers at Laura's Interiors has a design specialty, whether upholstery, window treatments or renderings, and often consult with one another for innovative techniques and ideas. This holiday season, Laura's Interiors has many gifts and household items on display for gift giving and the many catalogs of home furnishings are always available for special orders. LA URA JENKINSON lAUMS INTERIORS 70 WEST FOURTH SOUTH•SALT LAKE CI1Y, UTAH 84101 801- 534- 1579 - New Orientations, a delightful store on the second floor ofthe Triad shopping center, envelops shoppers in the artistry of Far Eastern hand crafts. Co-owners Neena Ashton and Nancy Shanaman let their mutual knowledge and passion for treasures from the Orient guide them on buying trips that take them to Hong Kong, mainland China, Taiwan • and London. The displays reflect their favorite finds. ' "Nancy and I were talking one day about our beautiful antique porcelains .. from China when we realized there wasn· a place in Salt Lake to buy similar items," Neena says about their compulsion to find antique and contemporary treasures to bring to Utah. Currently comprising at least half the products in the store, the antiques range from large blue and white porcelain vases to porcelain dolls to delicate Chinese children's collars. Budget-minded antique shoppers are pleasantly surprised at the blue and white porcelain plates priced from $12 to $20! The jewelry at New Orientations, much ofit one-of-a-kind, is popular with women of all ages. There are cinnabar necklaces and bracelets, cloissonne earrings and pins and interesting necklaces made from antique ivory "beads ofthe zodiac," exclusively designed for New Orientations. Sharp Santas can find at New Orientations movable metal birds.Jacob Platters, porcelain dolls and other unusual toys (made by Santa's Oriental elves) patterned after toys enjoyed by children for generations. Smart shoppers can find exotic treasures for any age in this veritable island of Oriental hand crafts. 1 :;! • - N E W The right color makes a difference So does the right consultant For a personal color analysis or a personal gift idea for the special people in your life - - -/Quali interior plantscapes Call 942-3185 Vtrginia L. Fey, Fey Professional Services Certified Color and Image Consultant 2591 East Grandview Drive See us at the Christmas Shopping Show sponsored by the Utah Heart Association, Salt Palace, Dec. 6, 7, 8. V'tt1inia fey Have you ever been asked ifyou were ill when you felt just fine? Have you ever been told by your boss that you should consider investing in a "career" wardrobe when you thought you had? Have you ever spent $200 on clothes over the weekend only to ftnd that by Tuesday you have nothing to wear? If you 're one ofthe many women who need wardrobe or makeup advice, V'qinia fey, certified color and image consultant, can help in a variety ofways. Virginia counsels women individually or in groups to determine which •• season'' of colors make each woman look her best. ''With this knowledge women can pick clothes and make-up that look fantastic rather than just OK," she says. There are hundreds of colors in each color" season" and clients are given a personal swatch packet to take with them when shopping to ensure a perfect color purchase. Women instinctively gravitate toward clothes that look best on them, so typica11y 80 to 90 percent ofa woman's wardrobe is right. Virginia can eliminate that costly 10 to 20 percent of purchases with wardrobe planning and consultation. She analyzes her clients· closets, suggests future purchases and will even take clients shopping. It's easy to feel good when one looks good, and ifthose times come too seldom for you, a little advice from Virginia fey maybe all you need. c~amc1con 2721 South 20th East 871 East 9th South Salt Lake City, UT 84105 YOU ARE INVITED TO ATTEND A TRUNK SHOW featuring Stephanie Saint Thomas of OPUS MAGNUS MEET THE ARTIST FUTURISTIC ADORNMENTS SAT. DEC. 14TH EACH ONE-OF-A-KIND PIECE 12 p. m. - 3 p. m. SIGNED BY THE ARTIST SEE SOME REALLY UNIQUE IDEAS FOR CHRISTMAS GIVING STORE HOURS: 11-7 Mon - Sat Sun 12-5 p.m. 363-6463 The Chameleon Camme Chart's concept of"jewelry as wearable art" is evident in the collection ofunusual jewelry and accessories on display in her new shop, Chameleon Art Wear. We do more than Cactus! 'There are plastics, procelains and" color story" two-sided necklaces by Stephanie Saint-Thomas. Earrings, sweatshirts, mugs and bags by Laurel Burch. One-of-a-kind "Ching Dynasty" pieces. Ethnic pieces from Africa and Bali. Fresh water pearls from Lake Biwa,Japan. Austrian crystal and contemporary sterling silver Indianjewelry. Art deco reproductions made in France by the same manufacturer who did the originals in the 20's. Camille also makes her own Art Nouveau and_contemporary pieces, designs custom orders, re-designs heirlooms, and teaches lost wax casting classes. The added luxury of meterless parking completes the picture ofChameleon Art Wear in its Ninth and Ninth community location. 485-2542 Cactus and Tropicals ofUtah Lrraine Miller of Cactus and Tropicals of Utah has been preparing for your holiday season for months. Plant shipments keep arriving and the Cactus and Tropicals greenhouses are bursting with plant life for gift-giving and holiday decorating. With such large numbers oftrc;1ditional and exotic foliage and blooming plants as well as the many, many cactus varieties, Cactus and Tropicals, located to the rear of2721 South 2000 East, has separated into two large greenhouses. The cactus greenhouse contains succulents that vary in price from $1 to $1,000. Many healthy Christmas cacti are in bloom and adventurous gift-givers will find many other blooming succulents potted in festive holiday planters. Of course, any ofthe hearty varieties are perfect gifts that can literally last a lifetime. Entering the' 'tropical" greenhouse is almost like ajoumeyinto dense jungle, with abundant foliage. Cactus and Tropicals has amassed such lush greenery that choosing a plant (or tree) is wonderfully aggravating. Some special new holiday arrivals include: the Bromeliad, a colorful spikey plant with a single bright fluted blossom; the China Doll, a delicate but hardy plant; and real, fruit-bearing banana trees! (What a delightful delicacy to eat home-grown fruit!) There are, of course, lush poinsettias in three colors and festive ivy wreaths to boost holiday spirits! In addition to the impressive variety of beautiful plants, Cactus and Tropicals ofUtah (formerly Cactus Growers) has managed to keep their prices extremely reasonable. Lorraine has done all the holiday plant planning. Now all you need to do is the plant choosing. Gift Gallery S . -Original and Affordable WorksofArt ince 1959, we've framed your precious possessions, watercolors, oils, etchings, limited editions, photos, certificates, etc. We've helped you select the right moulding to fit your home and office decor. We have featured the works of many local artists who are exceptional and important to the community. This season, our custom framing service has again been complemented with an exhibit of unique photograms by Ed Hunt, oil paintings by Lo Andriese, etchings and lithographs by Adrian Van Suchtelen and limited edition Trout prints, for your fishing friend. Aspecial showing of sculptural and functional ceramics by H. James Stewart opens on Friday, December 6. Come in and see our original, affordable and unusual works of art for your gift-giving needs. Please allow one week for custom framing service. Sylvesters I Brigitte's Wool Cabin Five years ago Brigitte Kablitz saw a need for a knitting store offering high quality speciality arid traditional yams, designer patterns, and helpful, expert advice. She filled that need by opening Brigitte's Wool Cabin at Ivy Place East. Crowded into the co-zy Cabin are skeins and skeins ofluxurious mohair, tweed yarns, warm wools (including alpaca), and colorful cottons, in all weights and blends. Brigitte carries unique patterns such as Anny Blatt's line, in addition to many European designers. With patience and enthusiasm, she gives lessons by appointment. Brigitte also designs and custom-makes knitted items to order. This Christmas inspire creativity by giving a gift ofyam and lessons from the Wool Cabin. Or present them with an heirloom: a sweater by Brigitte that is both a work of art and WARM. Art&Frame • Purveyor of European Yarns • Expert Advice (styles, yarn choices, and knitting techniques) • Hand-knitted sweaters Brigitte's Wool Cabin 2020 East 3300 South Closed Mondays Studio Your Downtown Framer Since 1959 466-1811 61 E. 3rd So. • 9:30 - 5:30 Monday - Friday• 363-2518 Stuff your Christmas stocking with gifts from THE STUFFED STOCKING Many gift ideas under $10.00 Accessories • Candy • Stocking Stuffers Shop early while selection is good, We close Dec. 8th 29 East 200 South Mon-Sat, 10-6 Give the Gift of Massage 19 COLORS/FLAVORS MOLDING CHOCOLATE: 100'5 OF MOLDS FOR THE HOLIDAY SEASON. CANDY CUPS, BOXES,AND EVERYTHING YOU NEED HOLIDAY CAKE PANSAND COOKIE CUTTERS. BAKERS CASH &CARRY, INC. ~~~~.sss9'SS1 '-"""~~~~~~~ !5:SS1l Baiter's C 8r C For Yourself For Someone You Love Feldenkrais Method Guittard, Merckens, Peter's REAL DIPPING CHOCOLATE 367 W. Paxton (1170 South)• 487-3300 A Gift of Health Licensed Massage Therapist IT'S CHOCOLATE TIME! 3090Ea~3300So~h,# 6 Salt Lake City 48 7-9544 by appointment Baker's Cash and Carry is, according to owner Bern Carter, the best kept secret in the Salt Lake Valley. Having the largest variety of chocolate and candy making supplies in the area, authentic candy confectioners can be assured of finding any paraphernalia needed in their sweet-tooth pursuit. Llterally everything needed in candy making can be purchased at Baiter's C. 8r C. Guittard, Merckens and Peter's chocolate, the most widely used brands of real chocolate in the sweets industry, are stocked fresh weekly; there are 19 different flavors and colors ofmolding chocolate available in small or large quantities; there are nuts, spices, fondant mixes, maraschino cherries, molds, paper candy cups, and even decorative boxes for finished treats! More than just candy supplies are available. Baker's C. 8r C. stocks every one ofthe 101 Wilton character cake pans made. An extensive line ofwedding tops (200 to 250 types) are kept on hand, including glass-blown temples. And hundreds of decorating tips are in stock. Just so there is something for everyone, those not yet skilled at candy and cake making can take one ofthe several classes offered by Baker's C. 8r C. -'J.. ~ ,· U.ofU.MuseumofNaturalHistory ANNOUNCING THE GREAT HARVEST BREAD COMPANY Enrich your holidays with health and happiness by visiting the Great Harvest Bread Company. Great Harvest is an unusual bakery specializing in whole wheat breads. Seven varieties of wheat bread are made from prime Montana wheat, stone-ground daily on the premises. These breads are naturally sweet, and amazingly they are made without oils, shortening, dairy products, refined sugar, or preservatives. The calorie count is uncommonly low (without oils or dairy products) while the nutrition content remains high. Because of the old-fashioned "three-rise" process Great Harvest bakers use, their breads are unconditionally guaranteed to stay moist and mold-free for at least ten days! Other products include: huge, mouth-watering cinarnmon rolls (60 percent whole wheat) with or without raisins and walnuts; chewy, whole wheat oatmeal cookies with chocolate chips. raisins, or plain; nutritious bran muffins with a variety of fruits, vegetables, and nuts added; breadsticks, dinner rolls, rye bread, round loaves, and special orders. These items are also made with the same old-fashioned attention to detail, and the pure ingredients which characterize their breads. Try Great Harvest for a holiday experience that takes you back to a time when bakeries represented wholesome goodness and value. They are located in Holladay at 4657 South 2300 East, 277-3277. ·················································~-······· ·············: . Susan's Books & Cards : H : ~ 1894 West 5400 South / Salt Lake City, Utah 84118 969-1031 DURING THE HOLIDAY RUSH, TREAT YOURSELF RENT-A-BEST-SELLER $2 (min. first 3 days) 25¢ ea. additional day BESTSELLERS 1. Mammoth Hunters ... .. .. . . ..... .. ... Jean M. Auel 2. Texas .. ..... .... . . ..... . .. .. . James A. Michener 3. LakeWobegon Days . . . .... . ...... Garrison Keillor 4. Dancing in the Light . . .. . . . ... . .. Shirley Maclaine 5. Secrets . ... . ... . ...... . ... . ... . .. . . Danielle Steel 6. Skeleton Crew . ........ . ... . ...... .. Stephen King The Museum of Natural History is housed on the edge of the University of Utah campus in a big stone building that long-time graduates might remember being the library. Times have changed. Where there once were tall shelves crowded with books to challenge the minds of university students, there are now dinosaur, mineral and Native American Indian exhibits to refresh the imaginations of students of all ages. And true to the building's heritage, there are still wonderful books to take home when you leave. The Museum Gift Shop has colorfully illustrated educational books for children as well as hilting, environmental and academic books for adults. There are also authentic pieces of Native American Indianjewelfy, pottery'- and other art objects. There are exotic minerals and coral from the Phillippine Islands. There are wood dinosaur models and plastic models ofthe human body. In short, the Museum Gift Shop has an eclectic blend of unusual, educational gifts where there is a perfect goodie even for the person who has everything. It's been a long time since one could borrow things from the building that houses the Museum of NaturallllstoryGiftShow, buton December 25th, special people might receive something special from it. Something for keeps. .... "° .. .~ ,'~- ,. "·,., - ~'( , •••. .... ,.,•.. ··,. ·- ·::~ CHECK YOUR CHRISTMAS LIST EARLY Books, Dinosaurs Educational Toys Stuffed Animals Games, T-Shirts Indian Jewelry Christmas Cards Minerals, Shells Gift Memberships and Other Ideas. 10% Discount Now thru Christmas UTAH MUSEUM OF NATURAL HISTORY Lower Campus Mon-Sat. 9:.30-5:.30 Sunday, 12:00~5:00 FUTON Twin Full Queen $99 $129 $149 100% Cotton Lowest Prices Ever In Stock Now ........................................................................ Susan's Books and Cards Susan's has books and cards and stuffed animals and puzzles and mugs and porcelain dolls and who knows why it's called simply Susan's Books and Cards? Susan's is a Hallmark shop, so the traditional Hallmark ·cards, stationary and trinkets are abundantly available - with many additions. Leanin •Tree, a western theme greeting card, is stocked. There are indispensible office supplies like plain paper, white-out, index cards and paper clips. Advent candles, wreaths and calendars are available. And there are books. All the bestsellers are available and there is even a rental library of the top ten! Avid paperback readers will delight in knowing that after twelve paperbacks are purchased (not necessarily at the same time) another is included gratis to make an uneven baker's dozen! The bookstore is full-service. Many interesting books are stocked and anything not in the store will be special-ordered upon request. Anyone who signs the mailing list has a surprise waiting. (Shh. Discounts, but only to those on the list!) When preparing for Santa, birthdays or any special day visit Susan's for books and cards and stuffed animals and .... .430 East So. Temple 355-5052 Gift Gallery THE NEARLY NEW SHOPS YMCA have moved to The YMCA at 722 East 200 South has recently remodeled its women's locker room - new paint, new carpet, new design. And there are more renovations in the rest ofthe building! To introduce the new look, a two-for-one holiday gift offer lets you buy a friend and yourself a health dub membership at a fraction ofthe expected cost. There are four new computerized bikes that do everything from monitoring your pulse through an earlobe clip to determining your bicycling course: too cold to ride up Emigration Canyon? - simulated hills give the same workout! There are two new rowing machines, a refurbished olympic weight room, and a new set of 50 convenient hours of lap-swimming weekly. Ifsolo isn't your style, there are classes aplenty: aerobics, karate, water aerobics, parent/child water safety, wellness, racquetball, etc. The YMCA has everything you would expect from a health dub - and more - at an easily affordable cost. Give someone a healthful gift that will last all year and the YMCA will reward you with your own yearly membership ifyou act now! ~GESQOARE, 1733 West 4160 South • Nearly New Designer and Quality Apparel • Low, Affordable Resale Prices Fine Selection of children's clothing, infant through size 12 Nearly New Shop 967-6609 Nearly New Choo Choo 967-7229 Tues-Fri 10-6 ............................................ .......... Satl0-5 The Nearly New Shop The Nearly New Shop has changed its location to Carriage Square, 1733 West 4160 South, but hasn't changed its commitment to providing gently worn designer and name brand apparel at an affordable price. The Nearly New Shop has been reselling quality clothing on consignment for 28 years. This isn't a thrift store - clothes are carefully chosen and items that don't sell are returned to their owners. "We have always looked for good labels and quality clothing," says owner Carolyn Keele. "And the clothing stocked is constantly changing." Persistent shoppers on a budget find that shopping at The Nearly New Shop pays off. The clothing at Nearly New is much better quality than is available at similar cost elsewhere and with such low price tags, a large wardrobe is within everyone's reach Nearly New Choo-Choo is the children's clothing resale shop located at the same location. Parents find that the savings on children·s clothes are especially satisfying since young people so quickly outgrow their clothes. "Shopping is an adventure at The Nearly New Shop," says Keele. And how much more enjoyable the adventure is with the discovery that the price is always a bargain. iGIVE A HEAL THY GIFT i • • THIS CHRISTMAS 1 YMCA ..~!!..2!..~.~.RING A .1• :• :2 FOR 1:• :• ••••••••••••••••••••• •!MEMBERSHIP • SALE DURING i •• • • : THE MONTH OF DECEMBER : I .I . ,,,. : 1 . : YMCA 737 EAST 200 SOU1H • : : 533-YMCA *GOOD ON ANNUAL ~-1EMBERSHIP ONLY! .~ IL : • : ............................................. ..........I , Be PERSONAL MARKETING FIRM CARE PACKAGE Isn't it time you took care of you? This year our HOLIDAY EXHIBIT will again feature many of our outstanding Utah artists. We will have both 2 and 3 dimensional works: drawings, paintings, prints, ceramics, fiber and sculpture. Care Package For Women hair, facial, manicure pedicure, and make-up design, a total value of $118.50, now only $90 We hope you wish to consider and purchase fine art as part of your holiday celebration. Care Package For Men hair, facial, manicure and pedicure a total value of $83.50, now only $65 PHILLIPS GALLERY 444 East 200 South I Salt Lake City, Utah 84111 I 801-364-8284 Gallery Hours: Tuesday-Friday, 10-6 I Saturdays 10-4 Buy one for yourself Give one to a friend "Because You Care" We will be closed Dec. 25-Jan . 1, reopening Thurs . Jan . 2. - • 1201 East 2100 South Suite 202 Salt Lake City, UT 84106 801-485-4004 as interesting to look at as you~ are to know." This philosophy underlies II. everything Lynda Brown and Kayleen r Simmons at The Elitist do to help individuals market themselves (personal marketing). As Lynda knows, "Ifyou look right and act right, you don't defeat . ..4 yourself the minute you walk through the • door." The first few minutes with someone new are crucial, judgements are made. The Elitist is in the business of showing clients how to capitalize on these~ moments. "Here at The Elitist, we give • our clients images that reflects their styles,··says Kayleen. ''Every person is different. We want everyone to be comfortable with who they are. These will te:~:::~:::::h "The Care Package," a collection of fine services essential to good grooming - manicure, pedicure, facial, hair styling and skin care, all in a single L. sitting. Another program is ''Everyday Stardom,··a session which takes the client t • through skin preparation, hair styling, • make-up design and a photo session (you get to take a photo home to guide you in daily make-up application or to use for business or personal use). For the adventurous, The Elitist offers an LA buying trip - why not treat yourself for the holidays? Their Brown Bag Series can come to your business during your lunch hours to cover subjects ofinterest to you. '"We do not fix people," says Kayleen. • "We provide them with information to make their own changes." Ifyou want a change, have The Elitist make some suggestions for you. IL , Spoons and Spice, at two Salt Lake locations, has a delightful potpourri of culinary accessories for gourmet cooks and lovers of gourmet kitchens. Ownerjoe Granato is particularly happy with the expanded selections of cookware, cutlery and gourmet coffee and chocolate in stock at his new Sugarhouse store. There are complete lines of cookware displayed, including brands like Chantal, Cuisinart and Calphalon. Practically anything you could want is available and ifit isn't, Spoons and Spice will get it. The cutlery section is expanded. There is an entirely new category in the expanded Spoons and Spice store: selected gourmet foods like chocolate truffles from San Francisco and wild rice from Minnesota. Forty kinds of coffee, the largest selection anywhere in the Salt Lake valley, are flown in weekly from the west coast. Long-time Spoons and Spice shoppers find one specialty remains the same; high quality and low prices. "I look for the highest quality goods I can find at the best price," Granato says. He also looks for innovative products. "I've developed a knack for buying things people like and that are unusual." The Ivy Place store's full-service kitchen is the meeting room for the many cooking classes offered. There are classes in food processing, wok cooking, using pasta makers, and unique appetizers. Sound tasty? The best part is that classes are FREE! w Form and Function Furniture and accessory shoppers with an eye for contemporary styling and a subtle sense ofhumor will love Form and Function, a relatively new furniture store (and more) located at 3232 Highland Drive in Salt Lake City and 7345 South and 900 East . (across the street from Hillcrest High School). The coordinated furniture lines, designed to look good with practically any existing decor, can be purchased as single pieces or for whole rooms. Young people like the clean, easy lines and easy prices ofthe classic contemporary items found in Form and Function when they're furnishing their first home. Not surprisingly, older people often redecorate with the upbeat Eurostyles to complement their transition to a more simple lifestyle. In-house designer Guna Watson can give expert advice on fabric, furniture and accessory purchases, but is careful to let customers choose items themselves. "It's especially important in this business to let people assert their individuality and we 're not at all inhibited by letting customers do that," says ownerJean Crookston. Customers are also encouraged to browse through catalogs if something they want is not stocked. Hard-to-find items like Dansk hanging lamps, Serafino cookware from Italy, rope swings and animal floor lamps are < ';\}1, . well-stocked amid the couches, metal beds, pine tables and wall units. Sophisticated gift-givers will appreciate the distinctly original Christmas gifts already wrapped. The amiable owners and sales help ensure that shopping in any season at Form and Function is an experience destined to be repeated. Sleek, bold, warm, light ... furniture for living UNCTION 3232 Highland Drive 467-3131 7345 So. 900 East 566-0136 Monday-Friday • 10:00 AM-7:00 PM Saturday 10:00 AM-6:00 PM GIVE A GIFT WITH ROOTS SPONSORA TREE IN AFRICA FOR $11.00 A projectfounded by the National Council of Kenya Women and co-sponsored by Western Women Unlimited 4880 South 2870 East SLC, Ut. 84117 DECEMBER 2ND ANNUAL UTAH DESIGNER CRAFTSMEN CBltlSTMAS SHOW ANDSALE COLE WESTON PHOTO EXHIBIT CONTINUES HOLIDAY ART EXHIBIT as part of"Landscapes: Uncommon Perceptions, " the fourth annual photo festival. Utah Museum ofNatural History. U ofU Campus. Begins 1,30 pm. Free admission. Runs thru Dec. 31. Call 581 -6927 for info. Affordable art featuring sculpture and ceramics by H. James Stewart, lithos and etchings by A.Van Suchtelen, photograms by Ed Hunt, and paintings by L Andriese. Through December at Sylvester's Art and Frame Studio, 61 E. 300S., 363-2518, Mon-Fri9:30-5:30. CBltlSTMAS STAR SHOW AND BAI.LEY'$ COMET PHOENIX MOVES Christmas Star Show, Mon-Sat at 8 : 15 pm, Sat and Sun at 3: 15 pm. Halley's Comet, Mon-Sat at 4:30 and 7 pm, Sun at 2 and 4:30 pm. Runs through December at Hansen Planetarium, 15 S. State, 538-2104. DUCE SMITBAND GORDON MOORE EXHIBIT NON-TRADmONALSTUDENT ORIENTATION Runs throughJan. 5 at Alliance Gallery, Salt Lake Art Center, 20 S. West Temple, 328-4201. PRIVATE SHOWING Of FURS, EELSRIN AND JEWELERY ART ANDTBELAW All at wholesale prices at The Elitist Open House, 4-9 pm. Refreshments. Call 485-4004 for more info. 6 GREG GLAZIER: .ARTifACTS/SYMBOLS 6 JERRY FAGERLUND PHOTOGRAPHY This artist's paintings express thoughts, emotions, and attitudes towards life in relation and contrary to our flux interdependent civil society. Triangular Gallery, Salt Lake Art Center, 20 S. West Tempie, 328-4201 . Runs through Jan. 5 2 4 4 5 6 Phoenix Institute now open at its new home, 1800 S. West Temple, Suite 211, 484-2882. Session designed to give information to students returning to school after an absence ofseveral years, and to alleviate stressandarudety. Women's Resource Center, Union Bldg. Rm. 293, U ofU, 1-2,30pm. Call Beverly Purrington, 581 -8030. This traveling exhibition features work contributed by some of the nation's finest artists, and communicates some aspect of the law theme. Main Gallery, Salt Lake Art Center, 20 S. West Temple, 328-4201. Runs throughJan. 26. 7 8 BENEFIT CONCERT Soprano Karen Evans and organistJohn Mitcheltree will perform works by a number of composers including three choral preludes by]. S. Bach. 4:00 pm, at the First Baptist Church, 8th S. and 13th E. in Salt Lake. The concert is free; donations to the St. Vincent De Paul Soup Kitchen will be received after the concert. 9 VOLUNTEERS FOR SRI PROGRAM MEET WIN CBltlSTMAS PARTY S 'PLO RE will hold an informative meeting for volunteers for the X-country ski program, 7 pm at the Blind Center, 309 E. lOOS. 363-7130forinfo. The annual Christmas Get Together ofNationalAssoc. ofWomen in Construction will be held at Olympic Club, 1192 WtlmingtonAve., 11 ,00 am. RSVP Deb 486-3941. Guests welcome and special invite to potential Ogden members. $'PI.ORE SIT-SRI MEETING An informative meeting for participants and volunteers for S'PLORE's Sit-ski program. 7 pm at Camp Kay, 2500 Emigration Canyon. More info-363-7130 12 LAS LUMINARIAS Holiday Open House 5-7 pm. In the Conservatory at the Arboretum site at Red Butte Canyon. Lights will lead the way from U ofU campus. For more info call 581-5322. Free. 15 MUSEUM CONCERT The Thursday Singers will present a musical program - "Hausm~ik: For Love, Not Money" at the Utah Museum of Fine Arts on the U ofU campus, at 3:00 pm. Musical selections will range from French choral music of the 1500s to an excerpt from Humperdinck's "Hansel and Gretel " The program will begin with a slide lecture, "Hausmusik in Art." 16 MANAGEMENT SRILLS FOR WOMEN INBUSINESS One-day seminar at Marriott Hotel, SLC. Sponsored by Shiela P. Gant, Ph.D. 9 am-4,30 pm. $175. Registration details call Ogden 626-6600. 17 SNOWBIIU) NASTAR SRI RACES BEGIN Throughout the ski season, Snowbird hosts Nastar ski races every Tues, ·Thurs, and Fri. Open to all, $4.00 registration fee. From Dec. 19 to Jan. 1, races are held every day. Register day of race between 9:30-11 :30 am. Races begin at noon. Info 521 -6040. 19 SLBPW The monthly meeting of the Salt Lake Business and Professional Women will be held at the Radisson Hotel SLC, 161 W. 600S. 6:30pm. Din. $8.50RSVP539-5643PattiBesselievrebyDec. 16. 20-23 HOLIDAY MUSIC AT SNOWBIIU) Snowbird brings you: the Granger High Madrigals 3,30-4:30 pm and the 1st Congregational Church Handel Choir 4,30-5 pm on Dec 20; the Bavarian Brass Hom Ensemble 4-5 pm Dec. 21; the Highland High Madrigals 3-4 pm Dec. 21 & 22; and the Wesley Bell Ringers 3-4 pm Dec. 23. All free to public at Snowbird's Plaza, 521-6040. 24 TORCBLIGBTPAR.AI>EAND CANDLELIGHT CBltlSTMAS EVE SERVICE AT SNOWBIIU) Torchlight Parade begins at 5 pm with the Highland High Madrigals singing at the Plaza. Candlelight service follows at 6pm. 521-6040. [phone] ~nMrniinmrnt' bJI "'A TOUGH ACT TO FOLLOW!" Care Sears, Clowns, Mimes, Magicians, and many more for children's parties. 'IOP BANDS CREATIVE GLASS BEGINNING AND INTERMEDIATE CLASSES UOFUMUSEUM NAT. msTORY ANNUAL LECTURE SERIES TAIO: CHARGE CAREER PI.ANNING starting]anuary. Call 328-4088 for dates and times. Creative Glass, 57 East 700 South, SLC. n,...a1Muiaalw...... ne-Pulla 277-9127 '[B HAlTOII" San£U193earrv ENTERPRISE REAlJY and PROPERTIES •Real Estate Broker •Securities Agent JANUARY 7 lucycarter owner/manager The Annual Women's Information Network Christmas Party will be held at the Holiday Inn Salt Palace, 235 W. South Temple. Cheers-6pm. Dinner7pm, $15, guests and spouses invited. RSVP by Dec. 9488- lWIN or488-1946. No-shows will be billed. 12 6 Say it with dead or dried flowers Utah photographerJerry Fagerlund will present an exhibit of recent works. Hall Gallery, Salt Lake Art Center, 2o S. West Temple, 328-4201. RunsthroughJan. 12. EXIIJBIT NAWICCBltlSTMAS HUNCH 11 ...,, Sale runs through Dec. 24 at Finch Lane Gallery, 54 Finch Lane. Hours are M-F, 9 -5 pm and Sat 10-5 pm. Closed Nov. 28 & 29. Crafts for sale include woodwork, fabric, ceramics, woven items, glass, and jewelery. 538-2172 for more info. 539-8999 Mondays at 7 ,30 pm, Highland High. Topic-Wasatch Front Geography (See "News & Notes") Runs thru Feb. Call 581-6927 for details. 947 Sterling Dr. SaltlakeCtty, Utah 84116 A seven-part series at Phoenix Institute, 1800 S. West Temple, Suite 211 . Runs Tuesdays and Thursdays toJan. 28. Call 484-2882 to register. Co-owner: Ricardo Juan Barbero 8 COMMUNICATINGASSERITVELY PARTII A continuation of Part I through Phoenix Institute. Wednesdays 6-8 ,30 pm through Feb. 12. At Phoenix. 1800 S. West Tempie Suite 211, call 484-2882 to register. 9 COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY PARTI Develop more effective skills in dealing with others. Thursdays through February 13, 6-8,30 pm. At Phoenix Institute, 1800 S. West Tempie, Suite 21 1. Call 484-2882 to register. 15 MOVING INTO MANAGEMENT A six-part series through Phoenix Institute, 1800 S. West Temple Suite 211. 6-8 pm. For info call Phoenix 484-2882. ~W~GLOVE HOME CLEANING A professional maid service Gift Certificates Available Before and After Holiday Cleanup Leana Chd&ttson 263-1304 (Res.) 264-9161 Insured and Bonded DECEMBER1985/NETWORR47 fiifdt1ce by Dodie Williams W ell, the holiday season is upon us once again. The folks with Christmas club accounts - you 'II recognize them by their smug expressions - will proably not read any further. However, about this time ofyear most of us polish up the old credit card(s) .::i.nd get ready to rack up a year's worth of charges in an astonishingly short time. While I have nothing against local merchants, credit cards or, especially, holiday giving, I do recommend using some restraint ifmost ofyour purchases are to be charged. Remember that credit is a convenience that allows one to purchase now and pay later - but there are strings attached. Credit usually costs something, and every consumer should know what that cost is. Open-end credit includes credit cards, ctepartment store .. charge plates," and check overdraft accounts that permit the writing of checks for more than the actual balance with the bank. This type of credit can be used as often as desired, until a specific pre-arranged borrowing limit is reached. Two factors affect the cost of such credit, and Truth in Lending requires that consumers be advised ofthose factors. First, creditors must disclose the method they use for calculating the finance charge; and, second, they must tell you when such charges begin on an account so you know how much time you have to pay the bill before a charge is added. The three most common systems used to assess finance charges are: 1) Adjusted Balance Method; where finance charges are added after subtracting payments mac;ie during a billing period~2) Previous Balance Method; where no credit is given for payments made during a billing period. 3) Average Daily Balance Method; where daily balances for each day are added and then divided by the number of days in the billing period. A sample of the three billing systems is shown, but bear in mind that one and one-half percent per month, or 18 percent annually, is used as the interest rate, and most companies are now charging 21 percent. .Ac:ijusted Balance Previous Balance Monthly rate APR Previous Balance Payments 1-1/2% 18% $400 $300 1-1/2% 18% $400 $300 Finance charge $1.50 0 -1/2%X$100) $6.00 (1 -1/2%X$400) Average Daily Balance 1-1/2% ,..,,, ~ 18% $400 $300 on 15th day $3.75 ( 1-1/2% X average balance of $250) Minimize the madness You can see the finance charge varies considerably for the same pattern of purchases and payments. Detailed information on finance charges is usually printed on monthly statements and should be read by every credit card user. A wise buyer checks before charging a large number of purchases at stores using the previous balance or even the average daily balance methods of computing interest. The convenience of buying for Christmas with no payment required until February is appealing, and there is nothing wrong with doing that if y9u don't charge too much. Retailers make these offers for reasons which are advantageous to them. They are hoping to attract more customers, increasing sales in the process; and most customers who have large credit balances will take several months to pay for them, which results in increased finance charges for the store. Ifyou choose to take advantage of the buy now-pay later plan, it would be wise to limit those extended charge purchases to one store and to be aware ofthe accumulated balance. Smaller shops will sometimes give a discount for cash commensurate with the percentage assessed them by a credit card company for their charge sales drafts. Some merchants pay up to six percent for charges on major credit cards and are willing to give that (or some part ofit) to customers for cash. Be sure to ask ifa cash discount is available. One other way to save on finance charges is to use a savings account as collateral. Customers ofba~s (or other financial institutions) can usually borrow money at two or three percentage points above what they are receiving. For example, a customer who has a savings account of$500 that is earning five and one-half percent could borrow $500 at eight and one-half percent by pledging the money in the account. The bank flags the account, and no withdrawals are permitted until the loan is repaid. It's a very inexpensive way of obtaining cash quickly, and prompt repayment helps build your credit record. Each institution has its own formula for these transactions, so check with yours for specific details . There are other ways to save during the holiday season (and all year, too). Start your gift list early, and have some idea of what you want to give to each person on it. That will allow you to take advantage of sales and avoid last minute impulse buying (as exciting as that may be). Finally, don't get trapped into believing gifts must be expensive. Personalize your giving. Spend some time makingjams orjellies, candy, pickles, breads or whatever is your specialty, and give that. Ifyou aren't into domesticity, purchase theater or symphony tickets or a good bottle ofwine for your friends to enjoy. However you choose to share the holidays with friends and relatives, make sure you will enjoy them, too. Dodie Williams is a 6nancia1 planner and investor. They treat me like a grownup! "At most financial institutions, they treat you like you·re not bright enough to be there in the first place. A HOLIDAY TRADITION "At The Beehive Credit Union, they respect me as an individual. When I applied for a loan, the approach was as one business person to another, and it was very refreshing." Julie Beck See our Financial Counselors- Irene Himmelberger or Beverly Dell Isola. They're here to help. A - Share some Christmas cheer with ... Mark Strand and see his new book for tiny children, "The Night Book, which is whimsical and wonderful .. With TenyTempest Williams, her new book, Between C:atta.Us makes the marsh a magical place ... With our staff who will read Christmas and Hanukkah stories to your children ... and with Santa Please Join Us Sunday, December 15, 2-5 p.m. (Santa is due at 3:00 p.m. and is working on a tight schedule) ~ · -rhe Kings Eoglish Beehi\/e Credit Union Main Office 146 7 South Main/ 484-881 l 0 :~E?ed NCUA 48 NETWORR / DECEMBER 1985 ----=------- =--=-- - - - ---.-- ---------- -------' ---------- -- --~·----- --Time Management SYSTEM For Increasing Personal Productivity Ineorporatingthe Day-Timer Planner ANNIVERSARY SPECIAL 5195 (Regularly $295) Unconditional Money-Back Guarantee Salt Lake City Salt Lake Marriott January 14-15, 1986 For Reseivations Telephone [phone] Program Brochure Available - THE CHARLES R. HOBBS CORPORATION 2290 EAST 4500 SOUTH /SALT LAKE CITY, UTAH 84117 DECEMBER1985/NETWORR49 NewLa11dl11~ by Lynne Ann Tempest KATRYWOOD LOVELESS recently joined Kirchner Moore & Company, an investment banking firm. Loveless will focus on developing a water and power project financing specialty in the western states. For the past 14 years, Loveless has worked for the Bureau of Reclamation in Washington D.C., Denver, Colorado, and most recently Salt Lake City as the Upper Colorado Region's public affairs officer, managing a program covering seven western states. Loveless holds a BA degree in political science from the University ofUtah, a M. S. degree in public relations from American University in Washington D. C. and is finishing a Ph.D. focusing on quantitative data analysis and public administration from George Washington University in Washington D.C. She is an instructor in the masters ofpublic administration program and the political science department at the University ofUtah. Governor Norm Bangerter recently appointed seven new women to his Advisory Council on the Status ofWomen. The new members are Representative OLENE WAUO:.R; BONNIE MILLER of Lorraine Press; JINNAH XELSON of the Phoenix Institute; BARBARA HALES ofthe Utah State Office of Education; GRETBE PETERSON of the University ofUtah; LORRAINE MCRAY and RUTH WAUCER. The Council will be investigating means to help women become economically inoependent. Deputy Salt Lake County Attorney's LESLIE A. LEWIS and KAREN KNIGHT-EAGAN have been recognized recently by the Criminaljustice Division as employees of the year for their successful prosecution of sexual abuse cases. Lewis has been promoted to the position of trial team leader of the Salt Lake County Child Abuse and Sex Crime Prosecution Unit. She has been a prosecutor with $alt Lake County for seven years, the past three years she has spent specializing in the prosecution of crimes against children and sexual assaults on women. Knight-Eagan has been a prosecutor with Salt Lake County for four years and has specialized for the past year and a halfin the prosecution ofincest cases. The University ofUtah Medical School hasappointedCIAIREH.CLARI(, Ph.D., as assistant dean for medical student advising. Clark will provide students with information and guidance and will act as ombudsman for students attempting to resolve problems or obtain assistance. Clark is an associate instructor of behavioral science in the school's department of family and community medicine. She earned her doctorate in educational psychology from the University ofUtahin 1983, andhasbeenahighschool teacher, therapist and psychological consultant. Westminster College has appointed KAREN K. BUSS as the new associate director of development. In this position, Bliss will be writing proposals for federal and state grants, working with local corporations and businesses for annual funds, and coordinating special fund- raising events. Before coming to Westminster, Bliss had been the director of development for seven years at Snow College. At Snow, Bliss was active in the National Council for Resource Development, serving as a member ofthe · board of directors and vice president for programs. She is a graduate from the University ofUtah with a bachelor's degree in home economics and a master's degree from Brigham Young University. SUSAN D. HEATH has been appointed as the new director ofcounseling and career services at Westminster College. In her new position, Heath does career and individual counseling and supervises the professional and paraprofessional staff. She conducts workshops dealing with test preparation, career planning and dormitory supervision. Heath holds a BA in psychology from Pomona College, an MA in clinical psychology from Southern Illinois University, and is currently working on a Ph.D. in clinical psychology through Southern Illinois University. DENISE A. DRAGOO, a partner in the Salt Lake City law firm ofFabian & Clendenin, has been awarded the prestigious Lawyer of the Year award for 1984 to 1985 by the Utah State Bar, Natural Resources Section. Dragoo has practiced law in Salt Lake City since 1978 and has been a leader in the Natural Resources Section of the Utah State Bar. She is currently serving as co-chair of the Public Lands Committee as well as co-chair for the Bar'sannualLawDayfor 1985-86. BONNIE G. MILLER, publisher and editor ofthe lntermountain Commercial Record has been elected second vice president ofthe American Court and Commercial Newspaper Association, Inc. (ACCN). ACCN is the national organization of court and commercial newspapers. Miller is past president of the Women's State Legislative Council ofUtah. She is on the Utah State Department of Economic Development Board and serves on that board as chair of the film development sub-committee. She is also chair ofthe Sales and Use Task Force for the Governor's Commission on Tax Recodification, a lay member ofthe Utah State Bar Disclipinary Panel, and a board member of the Salt Lake Acting Company. SUSAN LYMAN has been hired by the Deseret News as a feature writer for the Today section. Lyman was the editor of Network's Family Connections and a frequent contributor to Network. She is the former editor ofUtah Hospitality and The Informed Source. DR. SHIRLEY KONDO was recently named medical director for adolescent psychiatry at Wasatch Canyons Hospital. Currently Kondo holds a similar position at LOS Hospital whose program will be continued and expanded to the new Wasatch Canyons Hospital. Kondo earned her medical degree from the University oflowa School of Medicine where she trained in child psychiatry. She is also on the clinical teaching faculty for the division of child psychiatry at the University ofUtah Medical School. The University ofUtah's Women's Resource Center has appointed four new administrators. SUSANNE MILLSAPS has been appointed publicist for the center. As publicist, she will act as liaison to community and university media, as well as provide final coordination for programs and services offered by the center. Millsaps was formerly at Utah Women's Clinic, where she served as counselor and political action coordinator. BEVERLY PURRINGTON has been appointed coordinator of programs and services at the Women's Resource Center. In her new position she will be responsible for teaching the center's current class offerings and developing new ones. She is also responsible for programs and services for low-income women, single parents, and non-traditional students. Prior to coming to Utah, Purrington was an assistant professor of sociology and anthropology at Dennison University in Ohio. During the last few years, she has served as a consultant on a variety of projects and has taught several courses at the University ofUtah, including "The Feminization of Poverty," "Women in American History," and "The Sociology of Childhood." JEANNE MITCHELL LEE, M.S.W., has joined the staff at the Women's Resource Center as the new coordinator ofCounseling Programs. Lee will be responsible for planning, administering, and evaluating programs and services in areas of personal growth and self-esteem. She plans to provide services for non-traditional women, and to the woman who is in transition and may be facing career or personal changes. Lee previously served as the social worker for the newborn intensive care nursery at the University ofArizona's Health Science Center. KRIS PRINCE, who is currently assistant director at the Center for Academic Advising at the University of Utah, has been awarded a social work internship at the Women's Resource Center. In her new position, she ' will be on the counseling staff, and a group facilitator. Prince also serves on the Discrimination Hearing Board for the Office of Equal Opportunity, and was nominated for Outstanding Young Women ofAmerica 1985. She received a B.A. in American History from the University ofUtah, and will complete her master's degree in social work inJuneofl986. VICTORIA MORI recently accepted the position of director of Neighborhood House, the oldest United Way Agency in Salt Lake City. Neighborhood House provides care for pre-school and school age children. Mori is a graduate of the University ofUtah and has been director ofUnited Way's Senior Day Center for the past five years. She is currently serving on the Community Services Advisory Committee for the Western Gerontological Center at the University ofUtah. She was formerly a member ofthe Foster Grandparents Board and has served a six year term on the State Regulations Advisory Board for Recreational Therapy. WILMA ODELL and CLARA DAVIS have been hired as counselors and placement specialists at the recently opened recruiting and placement office for Job Corps. Odeff is a former Job Corps counselor who has been a volunteer withJob Corps graduates for six years. Davis has worked with minority youth and with the Ute Indian and Mexican population in various positions in Ft. Duchesne, Utah for the past several years. CAROLYN WARREN is the new director ofinstruction for the Sylvan Leaming Center of Salt Lake City. She previously held positions with the Houston Public School System, the Salt Lake City Library and Servicar ofUtah. The Sylvan Learning Center is a tutoring franchise for children with special learning needs. West Temple Associates, developers and management company for the Embassy Suites Hotel, recently appointed PATRICIA A. MIKA as director of sales. Prior to this position Mika was a sales representative with the Westin Hotel Utah. Mika graduated from the University of Utah with a degree in education. SHIRLEY A. EARL has been appointed sales director for the Ogden Hilton Hotel. She began with Pearson Enterprises inJanuary, 1982 as personnel director for the Ogden Hilton. Prior to that position she was marketing coordinator for Futura Home Products in Clearfield, Utah. KATHERINE CALDWELL has joined First Interstate Bank of Utah as assistant vice president and sales manager in the marketing department. Caldwell has been a stockbroker at Kidder, Peabody and Company since 1983. Priortothatshewas an executive recruiter at Dunhill. Caldwell is a graduate ofDakota Wesleyan University. She is affiliated with the Salt Lake Chamber of Commerce and the Public Relations Society ofAmerica·. SHIRLEY M. BARKER, assistant vice president, Zions First National Bank, was recently installed president ofthe wasatch group of the National Association ofBank Women, Inc. Barker joined Zions First NationalBankin 1970, working as supervisor of cash items and then research. She was elected assistant vice president in November, 1983. Barkerisactiveinthe American Institute ofBanking. Bar-B-Q byMarshallRalph U I tter, ifyou dare, the holy and dreadful word barbecue. You will probably start a fight. You will probably find yourself reviled as a know-nothing, or a tourist, or a carpet-bagger. You have entered a kind ofintellectual Bermuda Triangle where apparently sensible people lose their wits and never find them again. Ifyou expect anyone with an opinion about barbecue to respect yours, or extend you the elementary credit that one intelligent human customarily affords another, forget it. To show you what I mean, let me point out that when I say barbecue, I don't mean hamburgers or weenies or steaks grilled on one ofth9se tripod things, daubed with the stufffrom the bottle. That'sjust a lot ofjunk, unworthy of the holy name. It's all right for you, I suppose. But I'm talking about the Real Thing. Barbecue means ribs, or beef brisket, or pork butt or shoulder, often marinated, and always cooked slowly at a low heat in the presence of smoke, and treated with a sauce, or combination of sauces, which needs to be True Sauce. Barbecue comes from the American South; some fanatics claim that it has never successfully left that region. But that's a hazardous topic, and my attorneys have advised me not to speculate about it. Barbecue is - do we agree on this? - a fancy-pants revival of primitive cookery, using open fire and smoke, unpretentious ingredients, and robust seasonings. Do we agree so far? It seems ironic, then, that we've elevated a crude cuisine to the status of an arcane discipline like alchemy. Nobody fights about Hollandaise sauce, however subtle and fine. Yet a basting sauce for barbecue gets a passionate scrutiny for perfection, as ifit needed to capture intact some ancient secret, or transmit the precious wisdom of another age. The.secret ofthe True Sauce has come to be one ofthe great romantic mysteries, along with "How did the Incas soften the great stones ofMachu Picchu, to make them fit together so neatly?" and "How did the Egyptians mummify their dead, to keep them fresh for 3,000years?" I hope fervently that • barbecue sauce had no role in either ofthese ancient marvels, though I have tasted one memorable sauce that showed promise in the stone-softening department. Whether it might also have flushed a departed one with posthumous vigor, I'm happily in no position to say. I don't really know what I'm talking about. I'm not a Southerner, and I've only studied barbecue seriously for a couple of years, trying to recapture flavors - sliced beefbrisket and sauce, along with sublime, corrosive beans - dimly remembered from my childhood in an oil-company camp full of Southerners with vivid opinions on nearly everything. Every fall, we had a feast of barbecue inside a huge tin mechanics' shop with bird nests in the rafters. Now, I'm searching for the lost secret myself. You may find this whole business foolish and sentimental, and you may even think that barbecue is hardly worth all the fuss. Fine: suit yourself. There are those, too, who would send the Shroud ofTurin to Red Hanger Cleaners, just to be done with it. Some people have no romance in their souls. Recently, YC &J BAR-B-Q Texas Style moved into the pointed building at the intersection ofEdison Street and 3rd South, a half-block east of the Centre Theatre. I was pleased at that, since I'd sampled the work of V, C andJ at the Arts Festival years ago and had missed it in the meantime. So just the other day, we dropped in for a very late lunch: pork ribs and beans. The ribs were tasty enough, but we were taken most by the beans, which were winningly spicy. In fact, after we'd finished lunch, we ordered second helpings ofbeans to go, in styrofoam cups, and went to a movie at the Blue Mouse. I'd never eaten beans in a movie before. I'm glad I finally took the plunge. I also read recently that the proprietor of Ivery'sRibandChopHouse, 1701 South State, had won a 7th place prize for sauce at the National Rib Cook-Off, or something like that. We went there for dinner. It·s a Nice Place, with water pitchers and uniformlydressed servers panting at the diner's elbow, waiting to serve. To give things the crude tooch appropriate to a barbecue feast, each table is supplied with a bucket of peanuts in the shell; the diner is encouraged to eat peanuts heartily and shower the shells onto the floor. I tried to help out, and flung a few shells this way and that, but it was still a Nice Place, and I had a hard time just being myself. We tried a rib assortment and a beef brisket sandwich, and liked the beefbrisket , best. The basting sauce, as promised, was fine stuff: hearty-tasting and well-rounded, as restaurant reviewers like to say. I found the Alabama Pit Barbecue more or less by accident: I spotted it on a computer printout, ofall things. When I went there, it • seemed to be tentatively located in what looks like an old Dairy .King at 1458 West North Temple. Inside, there's a hulking, blackened brick pit behind the counter, with the menu posted overhead: beef and pork ribs, beef, pork, pork chops, chili, etc., with sauces mild and spicy, plus coleslaw, beans, etc. The atmosphere is, to put it neatly, informal. And the barbecue is very grand especially the pork, with the spicy sauce. That chef has been to the mountain-top, and has come back down with the ancient knowledge more or less accurately embodied in sauce and flesh. When I tasted it, when tears came and I gasped once at the heat ofit and nearly sneezed, I knew that this was it, almost. As I chewed and swallowed, remembering, I could almost see a great procession of barbecue-eaters ofyore, like Macbeth's vision ofBanquo's heirs but in reverse, a great endless succession of gratified diners shuffling along, smiling and wiping their eyes, going back beyond the horizon of time to the great, lost source of barbecue. For a while, the ancient circle was once agajn complete. Or nearly. 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